can i wrap my hand around your throat hold you there until your breath stutters then lean in and whisper “cum if you want to breathe”? cause you’d look so pretty, all breathless beneath me
like how and why are you this wet almost all the time?
why are you almost always thinking of getting fucked?
are you even listening to me. i’m tryin to have a normal conversation with you and it’s like your on lala land getting off to my voice or something?
you’re squeezing your thighs together sitting there trying to focus on that computer in front of you, or that professor talking but you’re too busy thinking about how amazing it felt when i made you come three times in a row last night.
you come on this app to get your daily fix of horny post that I absolutely know you’re reading in public cause you just can’t wait until you get home
then you come on my dms whining about how you’ve been waiting all day for this and how your finally in bed, finally ready for me to give you the go ahead to touch yourself.
hey, so... do you think you could hit it from the back for me. find me laying on my stomach and go fuzzy dumb dog instantly with how bad you wanna slip it in. do you think you could kiss my shoulders and the side of my neck from above while your hands wrap around my waist. maybe you'd be interested in hooking your fingers around my hipbones and slowly, gently pulling me back toward you until my knees are spread and my ass is in the air and I'm right, right there waiting for you to touch. do you think you could resist? would you have the patience to eat me out like that first, until it's dripping down my thighs and I'm begging to feel you inside? or would you need to feel me so bad it's all you can manage to pull my panties to the side before sliding your dick in me and humping brainlessly?
& you know what it actually IS lifechanging to smile at strangers & say please & thank you & goodmorning & compliment someones outfit & help someone in need & be more accepting of loving other people just because they are other people!!!
sometimes i wish i could tell other women that you can just stop removing your body hair and in many cases the consequences will be way less severe than u expect. you can go to the beach with all your leg hair intact and nobody will stop you or say a thing. you can stop waxing your upper lip and people won’t stare at it the way u might be bracing yourself for. you can quit plucking your brows and eventually they will grow back into themselves and no one will even notice. like for sure women are punished for not participating in beauty rituals but i also feel like so much of it is like The Panopticon sometimes where you just convince yourself that if u stop that kind of gendered upkeep everyone will be mad and stop talking to u forever when in reality you just keep existing and nothing remarkable happens. it’s not always easy but you can kind of just stop for real
Dom red flags: a checklist for less experienced submissives
This is written mostly for inexperienced subs who are seeking doms. I would also recomend less experienced doms read as well, I could have used a lot of this advice when I first got started. If you have a lot of S&M experience, you probably won't get much from this post. Feel free to add to it if you reblog. Full checklist under the cut.
Aftercare - Always mandatory. While it will look different from different people aftercare is still an essential part of a dynamic. If a dom has a problem with aftercare, either your version of it or the concept in general 🚩🚩🚩
Safe words - Always mandatory. Safe words are essential for both doms and subs. It’s valid to use them at any time for any reason. I suggest two safewords for every dynamic. A pause word and a stop word. Yellow and Red are pretty standard in many BDSM circles and they’re fantastic for explaining the concept of each. Yellow or Pause meaning take a breath, check in, and communicate. Red or Stop meaning immediately end the scene and provide aftercare. If the sub is gagged or otherwise speech impaired, a particular noise they can annunciate like “Nuh uh," snapping your fingers, or holding onto a loud object they can drop to create a distinct noise are fantastic alternatives. No one should ever be made to feel guilty for using a safeword. If a dom has a problem with safe words, punishes their sub for using it, or doesn’t immediately stop when the safeword is used. REFUSING TO STOP AFTER A SAFE WORD IS SEXUAL ASSAULT🚩🚩🚩
Check-ins - Recommended. In any dynamic, the dom has a responsibility to make sure their sub is comfortable with the scene as it’s being carried out. Sometimes things can get intense, and if the sub is in subspace, they may not always be able to catch when something starts to overwhelm them. To avoid negative outcomes, I suggest regular check-ins. They can be as simple as “would you like another slap, baby?” or “how does that feel?" or as in-depth as a full pause of the scene. I recomend simple check ins for short scenes (under 10 minutes) and longer water breaks and full pauses during longer scenes. Check-ins are especially important for inexperienced subs and anyone exploring a new type of play. If you think check-ins sound like a good idea, then ask for them! And if your dom refuses 🚩🚩🚩
Boundaries - Always Mandatory. You and your dom both have a responsibility to communicate your boundaries with each other. You also have the responsibility not to cross each other’s boundaries intentionally. Ever. If a dom doesn’t listen to your boundaries, repeatedly crosses them, pushes you to do things you explicitly aren't okay with, or refuses to admit that you don’t like something 🚩🚩🚩
Adapting/Taking critism - Very important. No dynamic will be perfect from the start. Expectations and desires change over time, and even the deepest of connections will evolve. This means that consistant communication and feedback during the dynamic is essential. Bdsm is not about a dom molding a sub into whatever they want. It's about exploring mutually held desires. Both a dom and a sub need to be able to tweak their approaches to each other with time, listen to critisms from each other, and continously adapt as your perceptions of the dynamic change over time. If you have a 24/7 dynamic, I would recomend a regularly scheduled pause every day to talk about the dynamic, voice any critisms, and adjust accordingly. If a dom doesn't want to adjust their approach for you, or shift things in your dynamic based on what you want and like🚩🚩🚩
Punishments - the dynamics conceptualization of punishments should always be pre-negotiated. What is the purpose of punishments? Are they meant to be fun for both parties? Does the sub even want to be punished? Does the dom want to preform punishments? What activities are both parties okay with? If a dom refuses to take all this int account, or wants to give you punishments you dissgree with despite any out-of-dynamic protests🚩🚩🚩
General tips:
Trust your gut - If a situation feels wrong, back out. If someone feels off, or if something isn’t adding up, don't do it. If your gut tells you to run, run. Most BDSM carries inherent risk, if you aren't 100% sure you're willing to accept that risk, don't do it.
Don’t compromise on your boundaries. Ever. - If you feel uncomfortable doing something don’t do it. If a fantasy or scene seems like too much, refuse. There are plenty of doms out there, ignoring your feelings for one that makes you uncomfortable is never worth it.
Talk to others in the community - Please please please for the love of god talk to other subs. Talk to doms that aren’t interested in you. Talk with your dom’s other playmates. Talk with your friends who do kink. Other members of the community are an essential resource and act as a great bullshit detector if something doesn't seem right. Provide support to each other, be as open about your dynamic/potential partners as you comfortably can be. Listen to their feedback.
Sub drop/dom drop - Drops are completely normal during kink. I’ve had them, subs I’ve been with have had them, friends who participate in kink have had them. If you do kink, you’ll probably have a drop at some point, and that’s okay. Your dom should be someone who can comfort you during a drop, the same way you would comfort them if they have one. Your dom should be someone who can make you feel safe during a drop. They should be someone who is willing to comfort you and be there for you while you feel those feelings.
If you have questions about any of this please dm me or send me an ask.
I wanna use my femme as my personal camgirl, I wanna sit back, unbuckle my jeans, pull down my boxers a little and start fucking up into my toy while I give her instructions on call, just whatever I wanna see, I wanna be a pervert about it and I know she's a little shy but I also know she'd love it cuz she loves being my whore, I'd tell her to put on her stockings, I'd tell her to suck off her dildo just so i can watch her choking on a cock, I like the idea that she finds it just a littleeee bit embarrassing and demeaning but she's my sex toy so she'll obey, I get her to bend over and spread pussy and I can see her getting wet, I say filthy things about her body like she cant hear, im not talking to her, i only instruct her on what to do, I tell her to open her mouth for me when I cum and she does like a good slut-I just treat her like my pornstar UGH
When their pussy is so tight you have to slowly stretch them open, each thrust of the strap just a little deeper until finally they take all of you, proving to mommy what a good girl they are 🩷
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