Review - My Sister's Big Fat Indian Wedding
Title: My Sister's Big Fat Indian Wedding Author: Sajni Patel Date Finished: January 17, 2022 Book Publication Date: April 19, 2022 Goodreads Links: [Book] [Review]
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[Thank you ABRAMS Kids, Amulet Books and NetGalley for providing this book to me in exchange for an honest review!]
Review:
4.5-rounded-to-five stars! Sajni Patel isnât a new author for me. I really loved The Trouble with Hating You and First Love, Take Two, and this book is next in line! This book is young adult and follows Zurika Damani as she immerses herself into her sisterâs huge wedding festivities while grappling with her dreams on the side. Thereâs a contest for a full-ride scholarship at a musical college, and Zurika wants to show them what sheâs made off, right on the heels of a Juilliard rejection. The contest, though, falls smack dab in the middle of her sister's wedding. Zurika's ready with a plan, but it might take a village to pull it off. Enter Naveen, who shares this dream with her, and off they go on an adventure to show the world what theyâre made off â and maybe prove to themselves that their dreams arenât as far-fetched as they feel. Naveen is in the same boat, and after hitching a ride with the girl who nearly runs him over, a new rivalry is formed! I loved Naveen so much, because he is exactly what I picture a young Bollywood-esque hero as, with his filmy dialogues, looks, and the way he sets out to make Zurika fall in love with him during this wedding week. Aside from the romance, Sajni Patel does an amazing job of spinning this tale of a young girl who wants to follow her dream of being a musician, which is against any South Asian doctrine â we have the ârespectableâ careers, and then we have the arts. So many of us have felt torn between these, and I think that watching Zurika be so unsure during her college applications resonated with me because of it â especially given that her older sisters are lawyers, so the bar is pretty high for her! The whole book spans a single week, so I genuinely felt like I was attending the wedding right with them, and having all of those functions that are made impossible by the pandemic right now means that I could live vicariously through them. Desi weddings tend to be huge in splendor, traditions, outfits, jewelry, food and of course, family. This book is basically a week into desi life! Thereâs the intergenerational conflicts, because we see Zurika interact with aunts and uncles and grandmothers. Whether itâs fairness creams, or body hair, or open criticism about desi communities, Zurika brings a fierceness and need for justice to the table thatâs pretty much what we would like to say to our families! I loved how she was scrappy, brutally honest, but was still respectful of the other personâs place in her family. Even if she crossed a line, she made up for it, and that balance is so important. But outside of the extended family, Zurika's also torn and guilty about missing part of her sister's wedding festivities because of the contest. I loved seeing her reasoning play out, and I loved that at the end, she chose what was most important to her, but that didn't mean she had to lose the other as well. A lot of the time, there's this underlying message of "you can have this or that, not both" but that's not always how life works! I grew up with very little books that were about my culture, or followed desi communities. The importance of traditions even when you don't understand them, the importance of family, trying to carry the culture after emigrating somewhere else are all struggles that immigrant families face. Zuri's character and her motivations are important for the next generation of readers because she brings an understanding to the table â a way for young readers to see themselves in her and be able to parse both sides of the coin. Being Gujarati myself, itâs not often that I get to read a book with so much Gujarati lore and reference. This book was absolutely filled with it and weâre all the more better for it. There was also respect paid to Zurikaâs motherâs Trinidadian heritage, which was amazing to see. I learned a few things and piqued my interest into learning more! As much as I loved the book, and as much as I did squeal at all the filmy tropes, I did feel that the romance fell a little flat for me. Naveen and Zurika were meant to be introduced (read:
match-making) before they fell into this competition, but by the end, I think they become something between friends and lovers, rather than just lovers. I think I would've liked if that was extended a bit to clarify. Other than that, the last two chapters were filled with everything and compared to the pace of the rest of the book, it was a lot. I think the story would've benefitted from a slightly slower end - though desi weddings end faster than you can blink, so if that's what the author was going for, they're spot on! If you're looking for a Bollywood movie in book form? This is it. It's a whole masala movie, with the sweeping romantic descriptions, the bright colors and chaos of an Indian wedding, and an underlying message that rings true for all of us. Highly recommend!










