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becomingher-era

The feminine urge to be pretty, make more money, and get closer to God.

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Look what I found today. They let me inside

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androgynousbirdtale

I want to add that the amount of people out there that didn't know that Black people were promised 40 acres and a mule after slavery was abolished is ASTOUNDING. 😒

Respectability Politics.....

I do and don't do respectability Politics. I would dare say we all do and don't do them. I have lived long enough to know that if a person doesn't like or respect you.... there is NOTHING you can do to change their minds. But it's the small microaggressions that vex.

There is a time and place for everything under the sun. That means that you might have to act differently depending on the situation you find yourself. We all do.

If you were interviewing for a corporate job, would you show up in jeans, a bonnet, house shoes and a T-shirt? Not if you actually wanted a shot a getting the job. See? You do it too.

I know how I appear to people. I haven't worked a corporate job in over a decade. I'm self employed and can wear what I choose. I choose to be casual and comfortable. When people come in my establishment, and they want to speak to the owner they are often surprised it's me. Ok. I own that and don't hold that against them. I'm comfortable. Casual but not overly. I rarely wear makeup and my locs are usually wrapped up. For what I do it's appropriate.

But what I don't do... is leave my property in a bonnet and house shoes. If I leave... even to just get gas... I'm washed with clean clothes with a fresh ponytail and a scarf that matches my outfit. I leave the house looking intentional.

Now if you leave the house as is and don't care... that's your choice. And you are entitled to said choice. But you can't be angry when someone treats you badly and judges you. You asked for that.

Folks are jumping all over the dentist who asked her patients to come in dressed. She didn't ask for ball gowns. Just that you be presentable. And folks want to cancel her? Why? How would you feel if your doctor was working in a hoes dress and stilettos? Inspires confidence doesn't Rd it not? Think about all these people who say school teachers shouldn't be sexy. Just like people have choices for how they want to portray themselves, people have the right to judge. If you can't do your hair to leave the house... what else didn't you do? Did you shower? Did you bring your wallet? You'll be big mad when they ask for money up front. Because you don't look like you can afford it.

I really understood how respectability Politics worked when my first husband died. My mom and I went to an attorney's office l to begin the probate of the estate. I wore a black dress that was a bit wrinkled. I was depressed. My husband had just died unexpectedly. That woman took my retainer and tried to usher us out of the office quickly. My mother looked at her desk, saw she had a small AKA plaque and said... probably not so much to me... "Look! She's OUR Soror!" That made the lawyer stop and look at us. She said, "Oh! Your an educated woman". She proceeded to move differently.

Y'all don't realize the opportunities you pass on when you do just what you want to do. And I bare witness that opportunities don't come thru everyday or for everyone. Why wouldn't you want to do something simple to help yourself along?

Is it me????

So... I'm at Your DeKalb Farmers market. If you've ever had the pleasure, this place employs almost exclusively Ethiopian people. I've seen the owner. He's white. As an African American.... I have an expectation that other Non Black POCs treat us with shade... you may or may not agree but that's MY reality.

As expected, when I got to the Ethiopian cashier, he was not particularly friendly. I was prepared for that. I had one of those plastic carts but more groceries than I expected. I was planning to drag the cart to my car and because I know they aren't supposed to be outside I was planning to bring it back inside even though I would have to do a long lap to do so. He didn't know my plans. I didn't share them. He told me I couldn't take the cart outside. I was pissed....

So I said.... let's put these items in as few bags as possible. He did and double bagged. Everything worked out.

Here's the reason for this post... I was EXPECTING him to be snotty. I used to work in an Ethiopian dental office and found the African patients to be rude, insulting and dismissive. They even told ridiculous bold faced lies to my boss about me when they didn't get what they wanted. Even though I had information they needed, no one else in the office could do what I did and I'm highly educated... they couldn't get passed the fact that I'm a Black woman. One patient refused to give me his personal information because as he said, "Black people steal identities." Because the office was in an Ethiopian community I tried to patronize local businesses. The same. One restaurant I went to made my friends and I wait 30 minutes before they would take our orders. We were the only ones there. Folks.... I'm a whole Auntie as are my friends. We don't do the rah rah. I was at a bank waiting to get a document notarized, and an Ethiopian man walked in thinking he was going to cut in front of me because he was more important. He said that with his outside voice. These are People the same color or darker than I. So from life experience, I've set a callous for non American POCs. But is it necessary?

Was the cashier snotty? I can't tell. He wasn't particularly friendly... but he didn't have to be. He did his job the way he was supposed to. That's really all I should expect. Had he been an American Black person, would this even be an issue? That's why I'm writing this post in the parking lot. There is a partial degree in 120 that says... "He wants us think we're all different."

We are a sum of our previous experiences. But if we are to move forward in peace, should we continue to give people chances to hurt us? I do not have an answer to that question.

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perhaps you’ll find your perfect career at 41. maybe you will meet the love of your life at 53. at 75, you might discover something you have a great talent for. your favorite musician of all time? possibly, you first listen to them with 38. life doesn’t end with your twenties.

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god DAMN it is hard to find information about indigenous peoples of the southeastern united states. if anybody has good resources on the appalachee, timucua, or choctaw peoples, or other tribes native to the south, especially florida, georgia, and alabama, i’d really appreciate it

i’m especially looking for information re: their traditional architecture, clothing, and food

I'm a 20+ year member of a GBLO. I'm also a legacy. Despite being a legacy, I worked really hard to earn my letters. It wasn't just a cake walk. My undergrad line got dropped for hazing. Girls haze too. The sorority went dark for 2 years. When the next line started.... I had chicken pox. Yes 21 with chicken pox. I spend 4 years in grad school. And finally got to pledge grad chapter. My mom was already a member of the chapter. That sounds like it should be easy. It wasn't. We went over in the hospital chapel. From start to finish, it took me 10 years to EARN those letters. And now a TV show wants to make light of what I and millions of other women have experienced in over 100 years.

This is another part of my issue. The perp of this foolishness is a BLACK woman, who should know better. But she took an aspect of our culture... WITHOUT PERMISSION... to blow up her spot. And that's not really cool. Is she going to donate her salary from the episodes where she pimped us to my sorority? Prolly not. Someone said it's free publicity. We don't need that. Someone said my sorority shouldn't have given permission. It didn't. And if she had done this to any GBLO I'd be equally as pissed.

Maybe about 15 years ago, I was walking downtown Atlanta. A homeless man had on a shirt from another GBLO sorority that wasn't mine. I thought that was wrong. I paid that homeless man $20 for the shirt, because he shouldn't have had it on. Again, WASN'T EVEN MY SORORITY! I will always Stan for my sister's and brothers with other colors

This just has me feeling some type of way. I was rooting for the Black woman. Only to find she wasn't really rooting for all of us. In a way this is like Kevin Hart making fun of Black women even though his mama, daughter and 1st wife are Black women... But one joke about gay people and he can't host the Oscars. He apologizes to the LGBTQ community but never apologizes to us. No support whatsoever.

Bet she wouldn't have tried that with the Eastern Stars or the Masons....

If you are not Greek.... Stay out of Greek business