Borderline Personality Disorder

18, she/her, bisexual, bpd, pro self dx, you can ask me anything!

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long time no see?

i know i haven’t been active for like a year? i’ve been taking a break and focusing on my mental health since it got really bad last year, anyways i think i might be coming back so hello! and i want to apologize for not answering to questions/messages there’s honestly so much of them i can’t go through them all:( anyways i love and missed you!!

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I feel the need to cry. But it won't come out. (i just wanted to tell someone that dw)

ugh that feeling is the worst, because you know the crying will help at least a bit, but you can’t physically cry… i hope you’re doing better now

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What should I do if my Fp wants nothing to do with me anymore? We were best friends for 4 years, kinda dating actually.. but, I had problems that I couldn't help.. couldn't stop.. I've been going to therapy to find out I have blpd and ADD, which would explain all the problems I've had. But idk wether to tell her or just let her go.. I never cheated or hurt her.. I just couldn't control my moods or how I acted very much.. I just feel so empty and alone all the time.. sorry for the life story 😅😧

you should reach out to her and apologize if you behaved wrongly, but don’t pin your behaviour on bpd though!! it’s most likely behind your behaviour but blaming your illness on treating people badly isn’t the right way to go, just own up to your mistakes and take the full blame on yourself, you can tell her about your illness though!

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Hey so when I first learned about bpd I was 14 and everything fit and described me but I absolutely knew that I would not be diagnosed because I was so young. I'm almost 18 now and bpd fits even more so now but my parents don't really think personality disorders are real and think that people who have them were raised poorly so I'm scared to tell them about what I think is going on. Are you professionally diagnosed and if you are how did you talk to your parents about needing to go to a doctor?

i am professionally diagnosed and when i first went to a professional i didn’t tell my parents for that same reason. but when i had gone to a psychologist for 6months i think? she suggested me telling my parents bc it’s an important way of coming to terms with the illness. my mom specifically, doesn’t believe in any sorts of mental illnesses, but so far she’s tried to understand and has been supportive but she still doesn’t quite understand. so my advice would be to seek help on your own and tell your parents when you’re comftorable with telling them:)

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Hey, what's a good way to bring up thinking you have BPD with a therapist?

tell them you’ve bee doing research online about illnesses and found one that matches with several of your symptoms

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Hey there, can you hel me? I have all the symptoms but I have always been overly nice to people I split on because I know that I'm splitting and am scared of them abandoning me.. do i still have bpd if I don't act it out?

yes, i do that too, when i split on someone i usually just draw myself away from them but not fully? because i still don’t want to lose them for some reason

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May I kindly ask what splitting is? I see it all the time in relation to bpd, but all I'm guessing is when the inside doesn't match the outside, ie. Wanting love but telling everyone to go away

hmm it’s usually related to people, but can be about other stuff like tv shows, games, objects etc. so basically you go from loving/liking something to despising it without any good reason

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Heyy do have any tips or advice on BPD. I just got diagnosed this month. I don't know how deal with it it's hard to realize that I have BDP but at least I know what it is

i myself just try to recognize when i’m having symptoms so i can try to control them, but i’m not an expert in handling bpd so not much advice here lmao! but i’ve found that accepting and coming to terms with the illness can help a lot, also try to find an outlet for your emotions, for example i draw and listen to music to help me cope.

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I think I have borderline but I keep being diagnosed with bipolar. I told my mom and she said there’s no way I have borderline because “you have to come from an unstable family and our family was very stable.” She is a psychologist. I have lots of mood swings all day every day, lots of self destructive behaviors, I most definitely have an FP, and I dissociate a ton. Our family wasn’t always stable but it wasn’t as horrible as some. I guess my question is, is my mom right?

uhh i’ve read a lot of stuff on the internet by credible sources and they’ve said that in order to have bpd you don’t have to come from an unstable family, i’m not a professional myself so idk that well but other factors play a role in developing bpd than just family

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Hey I see that a lot of ppl here ask you for advice, ik other ppl w bpd blogs say that sometimes that can be tiring or annoying & I just really wanted to express how much I admire u for giving all these ppl lovely advice & genuinely helping them like damn u go bro

thank you! i’ve actually been taking a break from here since it is so tiring but i’m considering coming back!

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If your mood can change very quickly, like, in a matter of minutes, is that considered a bpd symptom? Like, everyday I will be super hyper and energetic, and then I’ll do some silly mistake or something simple, and then I’ll want to die and I’ll feel like a horrible person and I won’t want to talk to anyone for the whole day. Is that considered bpd?

that is one of the symptoms of bpd but not entirely bpd.

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What is "self dx?"

self diagnosing:)

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I need some advice. So I’m really into one of my coworkers and he’s 8 years older than me. Plus we’re complete opposites. We both flirt we each other all the time and I always catch him looking at me. Ik he’s at least interested in me but he doesn’t know very much about me. He doesn’t know I have a long list of mental illnesses. I don’t even know if he can get over the age gap or the fact that we work together. Idek if I like him or the fact that he’s nice to me. I don’t know how to go about it

the ”idk if i like them or do i just like them being nice/flirty to me” is so relatable to me. but my love life has been a disaster so i’m not one to give advice, but i’d probably go with it? but until you know for sure if you like him you shouldn’t take it too far, maybe suggest hanging out and see where it goes?

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okay, how do you tell if you do have bpd, because i’m 90% sure i have it, but i can’t go to get professionally diagnosed since i’m underage and don’t want to tell my parents about it (they’ll either over react or think i’m dramatic) i had a lot of the 9 symptoms or whatnot, but still don’t want to self diagnose for incase i don’t have it

i think you can talk to a professional without your parents having to know about it!

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Are there any symptoms that you experience that might be considered rare? One more: As a person with BPD do you also experience hypersensitivity..excuse me if I word this the wrong way or are you a gap (highly sensitive person)

I don’t really know what symptoms are “rare” i’ve never really researched that! And yeah i’m a very sensitive person

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I received a BPD diagnosis when I was in my last year of HS. I was going through a really negative phase of self destructive behavior. The counselor I was seeing at the time told my mom she thought that I had borderline and then she told me. I was so scared by the label I never went back..I'm now 24 and still experiencing similar tendencies and impulses. Any advice for getting over the fear of acknowledging the disorder and taking can control of treatment? I just don't want to be medicated..

Well you’re not actually diagnosed, just golf u have bpd like behaviourism so you should go see a professional and then if you have it you’ll eventually with time learn to accept it and know that it’s just something you have, it’s not all you are.And for the medication, it’s not something they’d force you to take, it’s your choice, because there are other options like psychiatric therapy (i’m not sure that’s what it’s called in english lol!!) and different coping mechanisms you could learn. And that’s only IF you have bpd.

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I fit the diagnosis for bpd, but my therapist won't diagnose me because I'm 15, and she says that's normal to feel this way at my age. She says I may have PTSD, but I don't relate to it as much as bpd. (I've only seen her a few times) What should I do? Am I actually to young to have bpd?

You can have ptsd and bpd, they’re probably not diagnosing for a personality disorder bc you’re underage, i’ve explained before why doctors won’t diagnose underage people, you can search my blog if you want to know why:)