Brainzies

[brainztought]

You know,I am at a point in my life where I'm quite comfortable with my looks.But in a society where lighter is better, how do you think that 12 year old black girl feels when she hears that "black women are disgusting" or "ew,black girls they are ugly" or"I guess a light-skinned one wouldn't be that bad", "I want a red bone" and "Naw man i'd never date a black chick, just give me a white girl or something.". Isn't it funny how we teach our daughters they're beautiful but then we turn around and call someone else's daughter disgusting. And this is not just black people but I've seen examples in East/South /Southeast Asian culture, Europe,South America. And don't even start with the bullshit about "oh well in their culture it's not about being white".I understand that was not the case back then but is that an excuse for the colorism that goes on now? You would think by now stupid stuff like that would be over. We're smarter than that more tolerant. That sort of thing doesn't happen anymore. Haha sike!! It might have become less but it is definitely still here,hidden in magazines,movies,toys and just overall in pop culture. I remember I wondered as a child why there were no dark-skinned Disney princesses and that it was probably a requirement to be at most lighter-skinned to be a princess. I'm happy Tiana is here now and I'm happy that slowly very very very slow ther seems to be progress in the mainstream media.How maybe one day there will be more positiveness. And for once we won't be portrayed as the violent, the loud,the irrational, the stupid and the lazy. It disturbs me how I sometimes feel like I have to prove myself more than others being in a new year in a somewhat new school being put in a class of mostly white children living in parts of our district where their parents have their own piece of grassland and mommy and daddy both work in the political field or in a bank. And everyone assumes I'm going to act like the ridiculous outrageous unmannered loud black cashier at the fried chicken restaurant from that skit on that TV show that everybody seems to love here in my country. Please Lord, let me have patience with them. I understand I'm going to have to work harder to impress people than the majority has.Just like most of my brothers and sisters part of one of the ethnic minorities here. Whether you are Arabic or black even if you're eastern European they will have prejudices. Being a female, being black. I'm going to have to go that extra mile but in the end it will be worth it. I promise you that, present self.*giggles at the thought *

[brainztought]

Interracial Relationships

Race

This is based on the comments under this video.

1. The racial fetishers. The people that don’t look at the person as a human being but more like an exotic pokemon. Great, you have a girlfriend/boyfriend of another race but why are you making it sound like it’s a great relationship because he/she is of another race. If you are basing your relationship on whether it just makes you feel special,then please don’t. Date the person for them not their race.You are just as racist as the people that say bad things about other races. Saying that you want a particular race indicates you believe that that person is going to act a certain way because of their race. That is stereotyping. And well liking a certain race because of the way they look that is excluding other based on the way they look. Based on their racial features. I think it’s great if you find someone attractive and sure you can notice they look a bit different from you but don’t you think that is a minor thing to look at in a healthy relationship? ” Your skintone is so pretty ” ”I just love your eyes.” Great!!!!! But that is not all,right? And all races have physically less attractive people and attractive people so…..

2. The racist. The people that want to tell other people how to live and love. If it doesn’t effect you,why bother telling someone how to live and who to love. If you want to go ahead and only keep your heart open for a particular group of people and quite possibly miss out on the love of your life,go right ahead. But don’t get in the way of those who are just trying to be happy.

3. The unsure. The people that don’t know how to go up to people from other races or wonder if it is wrong to only be attracted to people from a certain race. Let me just tell you this: you can’t pick who you are attracted to but you can’t see what you close your eyes for. If you purposely only look at the people you think (and i say think because i’ve witnessed far to many people ending up with someone who weren’t particularly ”their type”) you’re attracted to you might just miss the person you were supposed to be with.I think it’s still acceptable if you say ”I’ve only dated so and so guys/girls” or ”I think so and so girls/guys are attractive” but when you gravatate towards ”I only date so and so people” or ”I only like so and so people” and you close your eyes for other options…well. One more thing I can understand how for alot of peope it might sometimes feel safer to be with someone who had a similar upbringing or has experienced te same culture but are you really going to let that decide anything. Are you really so scared to learn. So scared to open your mind to something else. Or are you afraid that that person migHt not be open for yours. Well, if everybody would think that way there would never be change. So come out of your bubble or don’t. That is up to you but don’t let ignorance be the reason.

I’m a black girl born and raised in a small country in Europe. And yes I have a particular kind of guy that stands out more than the others maybe but i think one of the reasons for that is that they are pretty rare in my country so they merely stick out a little when i see them and my taste in music might have something to do with it too but I love every single person for them and not their ethnicity. Because in the end i just want to be happy and want to end up with someone i love.

 Everyone is beautiful. Love doesn’t discriminate. And attractiveness doesn’t know race. But remember kids,eventually looks fade but that doesn’t mean you need to feel bad for thinking someone is good-looking.