D/s Is Still A Relationship
A D/s relationship is just that…a relationship. We may have more rules and routines, but the same basic ‘vanilla’ rules apply.
Don’t introduce yourself to someone dick first.
Treat each other with kindness.
Sex is fabulous, but sex alone isn’t a relationship.
Communicate, communicate, communicate. Say what you mean, and mean what you say.
Don’t stay with someone who make you feel badly about yourself.
Consent is given freely without coercion. (And there should never be a ‘but’ or an ‘except’ after this one.)
Don’t say it’s okay if it’s not.
Bad days will happen. Don’t threaten to leave every time things are difficult.
Remember that sometimes you have to place harmony above your desire to be right.
When all else fails default to love.
Calling yourself a Dom, sub, Master, slave, or pet doesn’t change the basics of how relationships work.
Take her on a real date. Open her door. Compliment her on something other than how she looks. Her being submissive doesn’t mean basic chivalry goes out the window.
Don’t expect him to read your mind. If you want something communicate. Don’t assume that sex is the only thing he cares about.
Learn to love yourself so you can love and be loved fully. The bondage, ropes, kneeling, and rules come later. They are the structure that holds the relationship. If you have those things but don’t have anything to fill the space inside then the structure collapses.
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