My Plate of Cookies
There was a lot going on in my life the year I got laid off. Our youngest wasn’t even one year old, we just put an addition on the house and we had a new dog. My wife and I were listening to the financial advice of radio talk show host Dave Ramsey and considering living debt free. So, we decided it would be nice to get away over Memorial Day weekend and go to the beach.
The weekend was lovely and I don’t remember it being particularly cold, wet, and rainy; always a bonus when visiting the Oregon coast. It was on our way back, as my wife read from Dave’s The Total Money Makeover, that we decided to go debt free. One particular point that I recall from Dave’s book is that once you have decided to live debt free, there will be some point along the journey that your commitment to your decision will be tested.
I think we took a couple extra days of vacation at the coast so it must have been Wednesday or Thursday when I finally headed back to work. And the day was to be a special occasion; the head of my department was retiring and we were to have a potluck lunch in his honor. So, with my plate of freshly baked cranberry treasure cookies in hand, I strode into the department. As I approached the dessert table, the new manager asked me into his office.
I set the cookies on the table. “Brian, can I see you in my office?” The words are still hanging in the air like a cartoon balloon attached to his mouth. I walked into the office as he quietly shut the door behind me. There had already been two rounds of layoffs over the last year so I knew what was coming. I was surprised at how calm I was receiving the news. It was almost liberating in a way. In that quick, five minute meeting, my new purpose in life was clearly defined for me: get a job, any job. I had a wife, kids, a house payment and I had just committed to live debt free. Dave said there would be a test, I just didn’t know it would be so soon.
Those cookies, those lovely cranberry treasure cookies now had a new name around my house: “the layoff cookies”. They didn’t deserve this bad juju associated with them. It wasn’t their fault. They’re just cookies! Sorry, but you are no longer a delicious, fruity, sweet treat, you are now a pithy, bitter reminder of a dark day in the Malcom family.
Actually, I don’t remember it being dark and dreary. I remember getting closer to God and my wife; praying the rosary daily for a new job and for all those that were unemployed (it was 2009, so there were a lot of people out of work). And I was hopeful that God would lead me into a better life.
I did find a new job, and very quickly. I was only out of work for two weeks. Between the severance pay, the unemployment check, and my new job, I actually made more that month than any other that year. The job gave me a raise, it was closer to home, the hours were more flexible, and it presented me with new challenges.
It is now nine years later and I’ve decided to change careers. And I’ve decided that I need to erase the bad juju attached to one of my favorite cookies as I move on to a new adventure. So, I am going to make two plates of cookies. One plate I will bring with me on my last day with my current employer. This will change the attachment of the cookies from a day when my career happened to me, to a day that I intentionally made a positive change in my career.
The second plate of cookies will be for sharing with the team at my new job to celebrate the potential that new opportunities hold. A sweet celebration of success that came from a year of determined searching. It was both an inner search and an outward job search to match the particular way I was evolving.
Bad juju be gone! Let me savor the sweetness of those cranberry treasure cookies once more.
So, what is your plate of cookies? What symbol do you have in your life that is a reminder of a failure or unhappy event? How can you turn it around to be a symbol of how you are transforming your life for the better? If you are on a journey of transformation to lead a healthier life, whether that be in your career, spirituality, physical health, or personal relationships, don’t forget to celebrate your victories along the way.










