Wouldn’t being still asleep while your husband shoved his cock down your throat be considered not out of consent
This is such a great and important question!! Thank you so much for asking it!
In short, yes! You’re correct - a sleeping person cannot give consent and taking advantage of someone sleeping is assault.
However, consent conversations with regular partners can often apply across a relationship - even long after the initial conversation. The key is clearly communicated boundaries and expectations.
For example, L and I have discussed in clear terms that I would love to be woken up by his cock in my throat, and the feeling of being overpowered while half asleep is incredibly arousing to me. The idea of free use makes me excited af, so I made sure to communicate to L that he has my consent to use me however he pleases, whenever he pleases.
And we regularly return to these conversations. He checks to ensure that I’m still comfortable with our dynamic, asks how I’m feeling mentally/emotionally, and shares how he’s feeling as well.
Another example: I’m not feeling super emotionally stable right now, so L thinks it’s best if I tell him I feel well enough to play prior to EACH INDIVIDUAL playtime. Currently, it isn’t the healthy choice for us to lean into free use because he doesn’t want to accidentally misread my anxiety levels and cause me to drop. He took the time to communicate his thoughts to me, so I didn’t feel disappointment or feelings of being unwanted when he stopped initiating sexual activity.
TLDR: communicate clearly and constantly with your partner to build a healthy, safe and happy dynamic for all.
This is such a healthy way to explain it! EVERYONE READ THIS PLEASE!!
Saving this to reference for myself forever because this is exactly the life i need.