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i think it’s time to start being emotionally self reliant

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Where u from?

nyc

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People are not against you. They’re for themselves.

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resident evil village on fridayyyyy!!!

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showed my kids at my job a picture of me without a mask they were like “you’re so pretty!! why do you dress homeless” 😭😭

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I want a therapist but my parents think having a therapist = you’re psychotic or ungrateful. How did you go about getting a therapist? Was it awkward when your family found out or was it easy? I tried my schools place but they basically told me there’s not enough room for me bc my problems aren’t severe enough 🥴🥴

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us

https://providers.therapyforblackgirls.com/

find a therapist that accepts your insurance and specializes the issue’s you’re facing. that’s how i found mine, through psychologytoday. i specifically wanted a black woman/woman of color. my family supports me going to therapy, but just like your parents they have their own judgments about it. usually it’s a cultural mistrust.

your school said your problems arent severe enough lmao? that’s absurd. definitely look outside of your school. good luck, therapy is worth it with the right person.

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this month is taking forever to end

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Do you believe that people should have their shit together fullly before entering a relationship? I get wanted to be with people who are smart minded and have or working on their traumas. But being someone whose emotionally unavailable for example is a trait someone can have out of trauma. What if they’re emotional unavailable but you can tell they’re trying to fix it and be in tune with their emotions? I know this specific example can affect everyone differently based on their own traumas but I was just curious

people with all types of bs going on get into relationships all the time. i think being willing to and able, to love and be loved is a prerequisite before entering a relationship. when i think of having it together, i actually think of financial stability and not emotional availability, but I guess in this context my response will remain the same. so yes.

emotionally unavailable people who don’t intend on changing anytime soon, aren’t really looking to love or be loved. they don’t care to have it together or not. they’re looking for an attachment. a chase. something familiar to pass time. or to be left alone.

now, if that person is working through their issues and traumas that made them emotionally disengaged, that’s different. that person is choosing to step into a healthy direction on not only navigating relationships but improving the relationship they have with themselves and their emotions.

that’s going to be very challenging. not just for that person, but any and everyone involved.

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You’re so pretty. You give me pretty aunty vibes (in a good way)

thank you 🥺💕

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if ur not good at putting ur emotions into words and you can’t describe well how you’re feeling does that make you emotionally unavailable?

yes.

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How are you???

I’m good ☺️ been feeling mellow lately

Thanks for asking!

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I go above and beyond at my internship, for my mentee, my “friends”, for people who aren’t my friends and it seems like no one appreciates any of the shit i do. Even when ppl ask for advice I give them paragraphs make sure I explain stuff perfectly do research so I provide the perfect info for them. I wanna be petty and stop doing it and just ghost but it’s really not in my character to put out bad work esp when it’s in my name. I’m too nice and giving sorry for ranting but I am Tiyaddddd

Sometimes in life you’re gonna go above and beyond for people or things you’re passionate about and people may not acknowledge it. Or even care to. Continue being you. Preserve and harness that energy you put in at your internship into your future career where you will be appreciated.