busy.

R.M. // He/Him 

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You can only REBLOG THIS TODAY

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[oberynmartell]

[calysto1395]

[alexsgaskarth-deactivated202009]

Can’t help but notice a lot of the people that actively go out of their way to shit on Hamilton because it’s not historically accurate enough and the real founding fathers were assholes, are white people trying to be woke. Should really go without saying: discrediting and trying to detract from the work of people of colour isn’t woke.

Most Black and Brown people aren’t the ones pressed about the historical inaccuracies because we know the founding fathers were a bunch of assholes. Some of us are still walking around with slave surnames because of what those assholes did. We don’t need your fake woke white liberalism up in here telling us that this show that created opportunity for Black and Brown theatre performers across the globe to be on stage en masse getting critical acclaim is “problematic” or “glorifies the founding fathers” like, we literally never asked for your hot take on this.

We know it’s not historically accurate. But if you’re going to a musical for a history lesson rather than historically influenced entertainment, then that’s a you problem. Stop letting your you problem shit all over something that was and remains monumental for us. If you are white it is not your place to say a damn thing about Hamilton. Hamilton is there to be enjoyed but it wasn’t brought into this world for your benefit. (If you’re a POC and have issues tho that’s a different kettle of fish, you do you babey you’re doing amazing.) White people trying to “cancel” or quash excitement about something made by and starring predominantly all poc really does not sit right.

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it’s a hard time. bodies change. you will change. that’s okay.

[officerhaughtstuff]

You’ve heard of the Roaring 20s........

now get ready for the Screaming 20s - coming to a decade near you in 2020

[heterokatedison]

is it too early or can we start screaming now

[iocane]

There’s actually a fair deal of overlap between cultural decades.  So not only is it acceptable to start screaming now, we can keep screaming up to the mid 30′s.

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[doomhope]

hey y’all, atlanta protestors have been arrested en masse and they really need funds right now. please donate if you can. link goes to their bail fund on the action network. 

edit: it happened again. hearing of at least 30 arrests tonight.

as of June 14, 2020, they need more funds.

[goblinparty]

a warning about evan scott huber

i’ll probably be adding stuff to this as it gets uncovered, but i needed to warn y’all about an animator who, while he’s definitely more of a twitter guy, is someone hockey tumblr needs to  be on the lookout for too. his name is evan scott huber and he is an animator and pittsburgh penguins fan who made a short animation called ‘teddy blueger saves the day’ and he is a PREDATOR.

full disclosure: evan used to be my friend. we talked hockey a lot. he was obsessed with getting a blue check on twitter, and would name drop steve dangle whenever he could (he did an animation for him once i guess) and was deeply embedded in both pens hockey and leafs hockey, despite not being a leads fan. he seemed nice enough, he was a ‘male feminist’, he knew all the right things to say, all the right people to support, he knew how to make himself look like a nonthreatening guy and an ally. it was all lies.

evan has a fetish for feet, specifically women’s feet in heels. he approached MANY women and nb folks (who he basically still views as women if they’re afab, BTW, something he said in a dm that was published) in their dm’s, some of whom were UNDERAGE, and tricked us into sending pictures or describing what it was like to wear heels while not ever once mentioning that he was getting us to participate in his kink. this is sexual abuse.  people on twitter started putting pieces together, and before we could confront him he confessed, making a big long apology where he invited the people he hurt to come to his dm’s so he could gaslight them a little bit more.

for the record- this is not an apology. it’s a manipulation tactic.

i digress- since then, even more things have come to light, like art commissions that never got finished, projects he promised but never started, fundraisers that went nowhere. there’s still more that’s being uncovered, like his irl harassment of a coworker that got him fired from his day job and other things i don’t have permission to post receipts about.

since monday, different projects he’s been involved in have publicly denounced him, including his own web dev

steve dangle’s podcast even dedicated the first twentyish minutes of their most recent podcast to talking about evan’s abuses, and they get a bit more in-depth than i have the energy to type out rn

(from the beginning to around 21:00ish is when they discuss evan)

so why am i bringing this to tumblr if he’s a mostly a twitter guy? easy- he’s a predator and a narcissist, and twitter is onto his game. he wants to integrate himself into a new community so he can get the attention he is so fucking desperate for.

hockey tumblr, please, if you see evan scott huber, block immediately, chase that predator out. you do not want him here.

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YOU ARE LOVED.

1-800-273-8255

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places to help: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/

[spidaerman]

To all my black followers and friends, stay safe.

[gothjeffskinner]

My Hockey Recs for a Time Without Hockey:

Youtubers:

-Thehockeyguy (general hockey new and history)

-Steve Dangle (mostly leafs but it makes you feel good about not being a leaf fan)

-Jen95 (good compilations)

-Jillian Fisher (fun every team videos & such)

-zZCarolinaHurricanesZz (Canes as vines and such)

-On The Bench (how not to play hockey)

Instagrams:

-Taxen.tage (oskar lindblom's dog)

-Kartanbay (aesthetic nwhl player)

-Kurtis Gabriel (the only real ally)

Big sports media:

-Bardown (the fun part of tsn)

-SBNation (not hockey focused but it's there, please watch The Bob Emergency or Dorktown)

Music:

-hockey puc/nk (playlist on spotify)

-Hockey Hair by Pansy Division (gay hockey song)

-Hockey Dad (indie rock band with no actual connection to hockey but I love them)

Podcasts:

-Puck Bunnies (ladys covering actually hockey stuff, roasting everyone, and talking about the lack of personality in the nhl)

-Steve Dangle Podcast (good Toronto boys talking hockey and sometimes the bachelor)

Books

-Check, Please by Nogozi Ukazu (gay hockey webcomic) still updating

-Bad Boy by Diana Wieler (triple a small town player finds himself becoming an enforcer while learning his best friend is gay) 1989

-Citizen Jack by Sam Humphries (a comic book about a hockey player who sells his soul to become a politician. Gorey at times) 2016

Movies:

-Slapshot 1977(classic hockey movie that's funny and has well written women characters)

-Goon 2011 (Slapshot can I copy your homework? Sure just change somethings so it doesn't look like you copied)

-Breakfast With Scot 2007 (former hockey player has to confront his internalized homophobia after having to take in his gender-nonconforming nephew)

-Den Brother 2010 (Disney channel original movies I haven't watch since it came out)

Other:

-ned39 (hurricanes prospect Alex Nedeljkovic twitch streams fortnite)

-Letterkenny (Rural Ontario comedy with lovable idiot hockey player side characters)

[laylainalaska]

Working from home tips

I was thinking this morning that a lot of people are probably going to end up working from home over the next few weeks who don’t normally do it. I’ve been working from home for about a decade now, but there was a pretty steep learning curve in the beginning, figuring out how to actually get work done. So I thought I’d write some of that up. 

All of this probably won’t work for everyone, and a lot of it may not even be possible, especially for you all who also have kids out of school! But maybe there will be a useful tip in here that will help you.

This is what works for me.

1. Act like you’re going to work. Get up early. Shower. Dress in work clothes. (For me it’s jeans and a nice sweater, but they’re “going out of the house” clothes, not pajamas.) If you normally put on makeup, put on a little of that. This gets your brain in Work Mode instead of Weekend Mode. It also might help signal to older children and spouses that you are Working.

2. Have a Work Place. It doesn’t have to be a desk. It can be an end of the couch or a corner of the table. But when you sit in that place with your computer, you are going to Work. Try to make sure it has as few distractions as possible - no books or games within easy reach, no undone tasks that are easily visible, etc.

(I break this rule a lot, but I notice that I am notably less productive if I get in the habit of doing a lot of Tumblr and other faffing around in my Work Place. Like, for example, I’m doing now. Oops.)

3. If you find yourself getting distracted with things that need doing around the house, or pestered constantly, set a timer. I use an internet blocker for this, which not only gives me a timer but also shuts off a bunch of distractions. You might find that a big ol’ kitchen timer works better for you. I set mine in usually 20 min. to 1 hr intervals depending on the level of my justcan’tdoitism on any given day. At the end of that, you can goof off a bit, or succumb to the dog’s pleas to walk him, or answer the spouse/roommate’s 22 vitally important questions about dinner, or whatever. Then repeat.

4. Have time off. Most importantly, don’t even THINK about work during that time. If you have to, do the timer thing for that too. Or set aside certain times of day - e.g. 4-8 p.m. is dinner and kids time. Treat your weekends like normal weekends if you can. Even if you have to carry some work over to weekends, having at least one Day Off and doing normal Day Off things is really important. So is clocking out at some point during the day. You can burn out working from home just as easily as in an office - maybe even more so.

5. If you have a lot of scheduling flexibility - that is, if your job doesn’t require you to be on teleconferences all the time - notice when you’re most productive and roll with it. For you, maybe it might end up working best to get started right after dinner while the kids are watching TV and work until midnight, then sleep in. Or get up early and get a lot done in the morning. If it doesn’t completely throw you off, try working at different times of day than you normally do, and see what works best.

6. If you’re having a lot of trouble concentrating, more than you usually do at work, and there’s not an immediately obvious reason for it (kids screaming in your ear, the jackass across the street mowing his lawn at midnight, etc), one of two things might be going on:

There’s too much distracting clutter. You need less. Try cleaning up the area right around your Work Place, especially removing things that remind you of tasks that need doing, like shopping lists and laundry and reminder Post-Its. It doesn’t have to be gone, just out of sight.

There’s not enough distracting clutter. You need more. If you’re used to doing your work with a million things going on around you, home might be too quiet. Try turning on the TV - I need maximum quiet for writing, but for art, I concentrate best if I’m watching a distracting but not too distracting TV show, like a sitcom or a favorite movie I’ve already seen a million times. Get some little games, toys, or stimmy type things to keep around your Work Place so you can do something with your hands while you’re thinking.

There is a weird sort of dichotomy to working from home, where sometimes you can get a lot more done, and sometimes a lot less. If you can figure out how to manage your time efficiently, without having to deal with coworkers and phones and a million interruptions, you might be able to get done in 4 hours what you normally get done in 8, and take the rest of the day off. (Do take the rest of the day off! Try not to let working at home become an excuse to do All The Things and end up tireder than you were before.) But you also might take 8 hours to do what normally takes you 2. And both of these things might be true on different days.

Go easy on yourself. It’s NOT just like working on an ordinary workday or even working through an ordinary weekend. It’s different and weird and distracting. It’ll take time to adjust. You can do it. ❤️

[jwstudying]

SELF CARE CHEAT SHEET!!

how to treat yourself on a low budget

what to do after a long day

how not to be hard on yourself

staying healthy while studying

how to deal with mental illness

feel better masterpost

hygiene/beauty masterpost | my make up masterpost | make up masterpost | simple steps for perfect make up | more make up tips

6 ab moves 

hair oil benefits

what is your acne telling you?

headaches

masterpost for rough times

the sex ed your parents didn’t give you

head to toe self care

blow job tips

limits of the human body

when to change your toothbrush, workouts etc

useful hoe tips

shaving your vagina

foods that fix everything

22 less difficult ways to practise self care

self care wheel

bad habits and how to break them

stop biting nails

stop procrastinating 

stop skipping breakfast

stop cracking knuckles

stop falling asleep late

boost your confidence

list of stress relievers

remove a splinter

smoothie masterpost

morning yoga

hair masterpost

self care masterpost

period hacks | alleviate menstrual cramps

sounds to soothe anxiety | another tip

what to eat before you run

self care infographic 

study guide for health (basic first aid, healthy hobbies etc)

a+ self care advice | more lovely advice

coping skills

feeling sad?

7 ways to say ‘no’

what to do with food poisoning

self talk to end obsessions

self care ideas/tips

other cheat sheets

[flowerais-deactivated20211031]

little self care things ♡

taste:

eat small fruit snacks

buy yourself a treat occasionally

make a cake in a mug

chew flavored sugar-free gum

put lemon in your water

hearing:

listen to your favorite music

or just wear earphones to block things out

listen to white noise/ambient sounds

smell:

put on some sweet-scented lotion

spray a bit of your favorite perfume

make your favorite coffee or tea

sight:

look in the mirror and tell yourself you look good today

clean the clutter in your room + throw things away

close all the unused tabs

clean the dishes + do your laundry

delete unused apps

make your bed

fold your clothes tidily

organize your books and papers

turn down the brightness of your phone/computer at night

smile and be more polite at strangers

open up the curtains, let the light in

go outside often

touch:

hug people you love

cuddle your pet

read while lying in your bed

hug a soft toy

appearance:

wash your face/use face wipes

dry shampoo if you’re too tired to shower

brush your teeth

exfoliate + moisturize your skin

change into clean clothes

brush your hair

put on some lip balm

body:

do your favorite exercises

take a nap

take deep breaths with your stomach

take a warm shower

stand up and stretch your legs

put on some music and go for a walk outside

get at least 7 hours of sleep

drink lots of water

hobbies:

always make some time to do what you love

create art, writing and music for yourself, not anyone else

don’t feel embarrassed about your hobbies

be patient with yourself, progress takes time! don’t give up

hobby ideas: cooking, reading, drawing, painting, a sport, a new language, learn a musical instrument, collect things, photography, join a class or a club

mind:

put yourself first

spend less time around people who make you feel bad

write your thoughts in a journal

stand up for yourself

stop judging people

don’t dwell in the past

concentrate on what’s happening now

don’t try for people who don’t care

stop caring about what’s not important

be a friend to yourself, rather than a bully

learn to love your body

see the bigger picture

change self-destructive habits

appreciate the good

let things go

ask for help

studying:

make lists

focus on priorities

stop putting everything off

turn off your phone if you need to

take breaks

do one thing at a time

believe in yourself!

other:

laugh a lot

get a plant and name it

buy flowers for yourself

be ok with being alone

go out with your friends

watch a movie

I hope you feel better soon. You deserve so much. Things will get better soon so keep going. ☁️ I love you

[sheisrecovering]

This is a fantastic resource !!!! ♡

[hufflepuffwannabe]

self-care instruction manual

forgive yourself : it’s okay if you didn’t wake up early, go for a run, or finish that assignment. you’re only human

start slow : don’t set your expectations too high when you’re just starting off

keep learning : getting to where you want to be is a process. don’t expect perfection overnight

be kind to yourself : you’ll make mistakes along the way, but don’t let that stop you

[budgetrealgood-deactivated20210]

“Self-care is often a very unbeautiful thing.

It is making a spreadsheet of your debt and enforcing a morning routine and cooking yourself healthy meals and no longer just running from your problems and calling the distraction a solution.

It is often doing the ugliest thing that you have to do, like sweat through another workout or tell a toxic friend you don’t want to see them anymore or get a second job so you can have a savings account or figure out a way to accept yourself so that you’re not constantly exhausted from trying to be everything, all the time and then needing to take deliberate, mandated breaks from living to do basic things like drop some oil into a bath and read Marie Claire and turn your phone off for the day.

A world in which self-care has to be such a trendy topic is a world that is sick. Self-care should not be something we resort to because we are so absolutely exhausted that we need some reprieve from our own relentless internal pressure.

True self-care is not salt baths and chocolate cake, it is making the choice to build a life you don’t need to regularly escape from.

And that often takes doing the thing you least want to do.

It often means looking your failures and disappointments square in the eye and re-strategizing. It is not satiating your immediate desires. It is letting go. It is choosing new. It is disappointing some people. It is making sacrifices for others. It is living a way that other people won’t, so maybe you can live in a way that other people can’t.

It is letting yourself be normal. Regular. Unexceptional. It is sometimes having a dirty kitchen and deciding your ultimate goal in life isn’t going to be having abs and keeping up with your fake friends. It is deciding how much of your anxiety comes from not actualizing your latent potential, and how much comes from the way you were being trained to think before you even knew what was happening.

If you find yourself having to regularly indulge in consumer self-care, it’s because you are disconnected from actual self-care, which has very little to do with “treating yourself” and a whole lot do with parenting yourself and making choices for your long-term wellness.

It is no longer using your hectic and unreasonable life as justification for self-sabotage in the form of liquor and procrastination. It is learning how to stop trying to “fix yourself” and start trying to take care of yourself… and maybe finding that taking care lovingly attends to a lot of the problems you were trying to fix in the first place.

It means being the hero of your life, not the victim. It means rewiring what you have until your everyday life isn’t something you need therapy to recover from. It is no longer choosing a life that looks good over a life that feels good. It is giving the hell up on some goals so you can care about others. It is being honest even if that means you aren’t universally liked. It is meeting your own needs so you aren’t anxious and dependent on other people.

It is becoming the person you know you want and are meant to be. Someone who knows that salt baths and chocolate cake are ways to enjoy life – not escape from it.”

-Brianna Wiest, in Thought Catalog

[luminous-studiess]

things i wish i could tell my freshman self: a list of miscellaneous college tips from a graduating college senior

1. having a huge set of highlighters are overrated. it’s better to just go over your readings with a good pen and annotate/underline as you read because that means you engage, ask questions, and take in information better. 2. always. pack. your own. lunch. pack. your own. coffee. this will save you so much money.  3. when in doubt, sleep. sleeping is better than studying. if you don’t know tomorrow’s coverage, it’s better to go that test well-rested and a little confused than sleepy AND confused. just sleep. 4. putting too much pressure on yourself is unhealthy. overwork is often romanticized as “a good work ethic” or “being productive”, but honestly, you’re abusing your body. it’s better to reframe pressure or negative motivation (”you MUST get high grades” “it feels good when i stay up all night because it means i’m studying like hermione/rory/etc etc”) into something positive and healthy: “i’ll finish these readings before 12 so i can get some sleep!” “it’s my dream to _______, so i’ll do my best!” 5. make friends with someone in every class you have, so you can ask about missed work. if you can, make friends with the professor to show that you care. 6. there’s more to college than academics. honors and high grades aren’t everything. don’t be afraid to go out and have fun!