When my coworkers said he got fired from his last job for being late and that it was “totally unreasonable”, i wasn’t surprised when he showed up 5-15 minutes late to every shift. When one of the people i managed last summer said that when she worked her last job everyone said she wasnt a hard worker and worked too slow and she thought it was unfair and confusing, I wasn’t surprised when she had severe performance issues. When my friend told me her new boyfriend said all his exes were crazy, i wasn’t surprised when he turned out to be the crazy one. When a boy at my college said no girl would give him a chance and he didnt know why, i wasn’t surprised when he was a misogynist. When one of my friends in early high school said everyone kept abandoning them and calling them manipulative and controlling i Was surprised when they were toxic and manipulative and controlling, and i felt extreme guilt for “abandoning them” and joining a list of people who just wouldnt stick around, but i learned, and it was a lesson that stuck. I dont feel guilty anymore. I didnt abandon them, i broke off the friendship because they were a hurtful, mean person who refused to change their behavior. I learned to listen when people say what their personality flaws are. A lot of the time they’ll tell you themselves. People very rarely dip from someones life without a word- theres boundaries crossed, explanations of hurtful behavior that are ignored to shield the perpetrators emotions and ego, the reasons are never missing, they just are ignored to fit a different, self victimizing narrative.
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