Carlos Taylor - Life & Relationship Coach

Creative Thinker. Passion Junkie. Soul Meditator.

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Carlos Taylor

I am a Clairvoyant Energy Healer and Coach. Each month, come on back and check out the updated reading for your Zodiac sign. Keep in mind, these are general ...

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Check out the April 2016 Clairvoyant Energy Healings by astrological sign, focused for everyone who has a major influence by that sign (Sun, Moon or Ascendant).

My intention in these readings is to see major influences, highlighting strengths and de-energizing any blocks, so that you can be aware of and have more of what you want and less of what you don't.

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CLARITY IS KING.  BUT OBTAINING IT SOMETIMES CAN BE CONFUSING AND MADDENING.

I know from personal experience the struggle that comes from having a dream I wish to realize, but feeling that there is an invisible barrier between where I am and what it takes to make that dream my reality.  I asked myself, how is it that a desire can sit in the background of my mind, yet my body doesn't do everything possible to achieve it?

Through my studies, meditation, and giving countless readings and healings, I've learned that what blocks each of us is different, but fundamentally comes down to the energy and inertia of the way we currently live.  Our patterns, meaning our way of survival in our current reality has gravity that holds us in place so that we're able to live a life that meets our needs in ways that make us feel safe.  To overcome that gravity, means to challenge everything that you know to be true about yourself.  And if you are anything like I was in my transitions, I *hated* to be wrong about myself, because once I'm wrong, that means I have to reevaluate, question myself and decide what is my new truth.

This is the process that we resist.  We resist having to change, because it questions the way we survive.  We resist getting clarity, because living in our current level of awareness is comfortable.  We can live with the devil that we know, but if we pull back the curtain of our own minds, then we might just have to face what we've been hiding about ourselves.  That we want more.  That we are more.  That we crave more than what we delude ourselves into thinking.

The problem compounds in a society that has promoted self-sufficiency while demonizing and belittling anyone that seeks help working with these energies as "crazy" or "damaged".  This leads to people wishing to protect their Ego and claim themselves as superior to "those" people.  Thusly we're left with a lot of people silently suffering while silently dreaming of their truth and freedom without the tools to go out and get it.

This is where I feel my calling.  I know what it's like to dream and suffer in silence.  I know what it's like to interface with the world in one way, yet feel myself to be different at my core.  The secret is simple even though it emotionally feels insurmountable.  It comes at normalizing (taking the energy out of) the fears we feel--as they're more common that any one of us could ever imagine--and showing yourself (not just telling yourself) it's ok to be you.  Confidence is built in momentum, and it is that momentum itself that is the key to breaking through the gravity of safety and survival based behaviors that make up our current realities.

Once you see how easy it is to live life on your terms is, you'll wonder how you could have ever lived any other way.

It is from this place, that it is my pleasure to serve you. www.carlostaylor.com https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCl5HrU1VKsS08ruWK6gEeGQ

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Possibility itself inspires me

Finishing what I start is a habit I’ve been working on directly—to get things done so that I don’t have to think or worry about them.  No, I’m not perfect here, and part of me doesn’t want to be, but I do feel that I’ve improved in this category.  At the minimum I can see it in the books that I read and the programs that I finish. Yes, there will always be a new thing to read, a new seminar to attend, and new place to explore.  Yes there is a sense of a hunt for a magic bullet to will leave me forever cured of the current challenge I face, but there’s also an immense curiosity into the unknown.  There’s so much that I don’t know about how humans are and why we do the things we do, and that leaves me absolutely fascinated with the possibilities of what we are and what is possible.

YES, there is a sense that this will make me into the “superhuman” that I envision, but isn’t that a fun hunt? There’s always a way to be happier, there’s always a way to love deeper, there’s always another layer to shed that reveals a deeper truth.  Why not explore those reaches of possibilities with vigor and enthusiasm? This is why I do what I do.  There’s so much out there to be discovered, and every new thing I discover wraps me in state of awe.

Possibility itself inspires me to take action.  It inspires me to pursue this kind of knowledge endlessly. I wish to trade in the currency of emotional inspiration.  There’s incredible power in knowing the secrets and inner workings of who we are as human beings.  There’s absolute revelry in having achieved something once thought impossible by making subtle shifts to beliefs.  I wish to use the magic of the word to transform people’s lives.  YES, there will still be work to do after the shifts, but the power of the possible transformative word and action can lead to lasting powerful impacts in lives that can’t be measured.

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---Stopping the guesswork---

“What will he think?” “What will I do if?”  “What if she doesn’t?”

“What’s going to happen next?” is a question that plagues us all as we attempt to predict the reactions of others.  It engages our prefrontal cortex, the analytical mind, to get to work imagining the infinite possibilities of what can happen, modeling out realities so that we can feel prepared for what is going to happen next.

It can be an incredible gift and a saving grace when focused on a goal and in brainstorming with groups. But when left unchecked, this process of attempting to model out the future can leave us absolutely paralyzed: either emotionally, leaving us racked with nerves, or physically, where maybe we don’t do the work we wish to do at all.  Our brains have an incredible power of creating disasters in the future, preparing for the worst sourced in our past experiences—either remembering times where we failed or believing the fear-based skepticism in our surrounding environments. 

*Let’s do a reflecting exercise*: How many times has that disaster plan you’ve spent so much of your mental and emotional resources on actually come to pass?  Even if that negative consequence happened, how lasting was the pain?  

Barring physical damage, I’m willing to bet that time has showed you that it wasn’t as bad as you thought it would be.  Matter of fact, I’m betting that it was *way* better than you ever imagined!  I’m even willing to wager that you’ve had experiences where you were completely wrong in predicting how others will act, and the judgments your mind was expecting actually turned out to be constructive feedback and encouragement!

So why spend so much time and energy guessing?  Why use such precious mental space stuck in worry when there are so many other areas of our lives that *deserve* our attention and focus: our relationships, our friends/families, our dreams.

*Imagination Time*: What would your life be like if instead of spending your time guessing about the future, you used it actually doing more of the things you want to do: following your dreams, creating the relationships you want, living your life freed from fear of judgment? How would that change your life?

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:: Be Your Own Best Friend ::

In my very *first* video below, I open up about my own fears and share an important category distinction of judgments we all make.

Don’t let the fear of judgment hold you back from creating the passionate, authentic and powerful relationships you desire.

So much love <3 Carlos

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---Do You Own Your "Problems", or Do Your "Problems" Own You?---

Emotions have so much power over us: influencing our decisions, fueling our arguments, drawing us toward people, and even telling us which foods to eat!  We sway as they sway.  Being human our emotional states must vary for us feel the juice of life—from tremendous highs to quiet meditation, from passionate anger to deep sorrow, we all have our patterns of how we generally live our lives.  

I have to admit, I have been guilty of not recognizing just how much my own emotions have directed my day to day life.  I’d feel a sense of sadness and not know why.  I’d get frustrated with similar kinds of people over and over again, even though I know at the end of the day, I’m not responsible for their lives any more than they are for mine.  I’d even feel a complete since of apathy toward life sometimes, not knowing where passion and zest for life went.  

What made it worse is that when I became aware of the low emotional state I was in, I would beat myself up for being there, and that would push me down even further!  I would *judge* myself for not being happy, so I did what every good judge would do, punish the guilty with more pain (aka, more of that emotion I didn’t want).  

Life is full of tricks to happiness, and here are a few ideas that absolutely changed my life:

1)      Every, every, every emotion is valid!  I believe that each emotion is here to teach us something—the trick is finding the empowering meaning.  When we feel nervous, it means we care about what we’re doing.  When we feel angry, that means someone is touching on an emotional wound that we have an opportunity to heal.  When I started looking at my emotions as messages rather than just a fact of life, I claimed more of my life back.

2)      Awareness + Time = Mastery:  We have to realize that this journey of understanding ourselves and our emotions is a journey, not a destination, and this journey starts with just noticing.  Pay attention to the flow of your emotions. Just decide to notice when they change.  Allow yourself to notice what preempted the switch of emotional states.  Was there a trigger when you were sad, and something set you off to yelling?  Give yourself permission to ask, “If I believed this emotion is here to serve my good, what would it be showing me right now?”

3)      Own it!!  The last and impost important tip in this series of ideas is to own it!  We can only change what we’re willing to.  Our thoughts direct our emotions and direct our actions. If we tell ourselves, “no, this sadness is just how I was born”, we’re going to believe it!  Take a look at an issue you’re facing right now in your life.  Imagine it right in front of you and be playful!  “Hey you!  Yeah, you.  I OWN you.” If you take ownership of the issue you’re facing, the energy starts to shift.  Our problems can only take over our emotional states if we give them permission to.  Take your power back.  Remind yourself just who you are.

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To new beginnings for life J Carlos

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---How Do You Meditate?---

We all have the potential to be highly analytical creatures.  Taking into account that we have 50,000 thoughts in a given day, one would think we’d be tired from all of the thinking.  

I’ve lived a great portion of my life unconscious of this process—allowing my thoughts to take their own shape, my feelings to rise and fall as they may.  Sure I thought that I was in control, but can I really say that I owned my thoughts when feelings would appear in my head and overwhelm me with emotion?  Can I really say I was in control when I allowed myself to be so critical of myself and others?  Can I really say that I was in charge when I didn’t know what my intentions were in living my life and allowed the stream of my thoughts and feelings to direct where my life was headed?

My life changed when I started to meditate.  There is a beautiful bliss that happens when we realize that we have the power to direct our thoughts—that we can visualize our own futures—that we can be conscious of what we do, how we do it, and more importantly, *why* we do it.

Meditation is definitely in vogue, with experts and novice users touting the tremendous mental, emotional and spiritual benefits.  But, even with all of the hype, so many people feel that meditating isn’t for them.  “I can’t sit still for that long.”  “My mind races too much.”  “Quiet is too hard.”

Now having been meditating for a year, I have to agree with the experts *and* the naysayers.  The benefits are absolutely astounding—I’ve never had so much effortless joy, clear direction and serene peace.  On the other hand, I do find the stereotypical form of meditation (sitting in silence, quieting the mind, counting breaths, etc) very difficult for a self-described ADD kid like me.

My meditations are active: I feel my body, I ask questions, I let myself answer—bypassing the conscious mind (where thoughts come from) that has its limitations of memories and logic, accessing my subconscious mind (where dreams come from) sourced in immense creativity.  It keeps me engaged, and I’m able to work through issues faster than I’ve ever dreamed possible.  For those who don’t feel they can meditate, I promise there’s a method that will work for you.  To get you started, check out the link below for an active visual meditation (you auditory lovers can check out www.omvana.com for a guided version).

But for the rest of you I’m curious.  How do you meditate, and how has it changed your life? http://mindvalleyacademy.com/featured/6-phase-meditation-infographic

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Three Ways to Break Free of Your Inner Critic

Too many of us are our own worst enemies.  To avoid the pain of not relating to our peers, we hide the parts of ourselves that give us the most joy (even from ourselves), we don’t speak our own truth (even to ourselves), and we don’t allow ourselves to express what feels the most authentic (sometimes, especially to ourselves).  We’re afraid of public exhibitions, we’re afraid of following our dreams, we’re afraid that we will fail and be punished for our failures.

See the common thread?  *We* are the ones that hold ourselves back.  The judgments we’re so afraid of rarely meet the disaster planning our analytical minds are so good at creating.  

But here’s the best part, joy and freedom are yours to claim!  Here are three ways to start:

1)      Be your own *best friend*: listen to the quality of the way you speak to yourself. Would you speak that way to your best friend?

2)      *Validate* your journey: the key to freedom of judgment is to honor yourself more and judge less.

3)      Give yourself *permission* to express passion: true passion can be felt, and it’s contagious.  Spread it.

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The Voices

I have a voice.  Well, I suppose I should say many voices.  Inside my mind and heart, each of them vie for my attention, letting know how to feel how, how to react, what to do and how to do it.  Some of them are kind—pointing out what I can grateful for or ways I can do something fun or loving for myself or others.  But still, there are others that aren’t as kind—ones that react to fear, ones that notice only my “flaws”, ones that see the most catastrophic of outcomes, and with my agreement to listen, make them bigger, clearer, more vivid.

There’s a pattern.  When I listen to the kind voices, I *feel* happier, I *do* things I’m proud of, I *see* more beauty and life and find myself more grateful, more loving, happier and view my life as one with unlimited possibilities and potential, filled with my most inspiring states of mind that allow me to flow with my life’s mission—loving and helping others love more.  However, when I listen to the doubting, fearful voices, I grow colder and freeze into inaction, I see life as a struggle and my vision becomes clouded.  If I can’t see my opportunities, how can I act on them to attract even more beauty to my life?

Simple answer?  I couldn’t.

My challenge to myself as well as to anyone who reads these words, listen to the quality of your thoughts and related feelings.  Are they serving you to see clearly?  Are they serving you and your purpose?  If not, understand that you can *choose* which voices you wish to breathe life into.  Choose the ones that align with your goals and desires.  These are the voices that help make those dreams come true.  These are the voices that are the keys living a life of joy and love. 

The choice is ours.

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Becoming Myself: Overcoming the "Current Reality Trap"

We are so much more than we imagine, and because of this we’re trapped—trapped by our own current reality.   I have felt the pull of the passion to do something else, but I have been paralyzed by fear—fear that I would never be able to accomplish what’s set out in front of me.  “I don’t have a model.”  “I don’t know the way.”  Can someone show me?”

Too often in education we’re told about all of the greatness that has been achieved in the history of man: the wheel, electricity, the internet.  “All of the great inventions have already been thought of.”  Why not feel this way when we’re not taught to be powerful? 

We’re not taught the sheer audacity of imagining a world greater than the one in which we lived, nor the passion and effort it took for these modern wonders to be dreamt of and created that pushed humanity pass previously assumed barriers.  “But that’s only for geniuses.”  “Those kinds of people are different from me.”  “They were born with opportunity.”

What does it even mean to be born with opportunity when we look at the history of our greatest inventors and greatest leaders to recognize that they come from the widest varieties of backgrounds?  Yes, some start life with incredible means and families that afford them with the very “best” of opportunities the time had to offer.  But what about those others—the ones born in poverty, the ones starved for attention from their parents, the ones that made powerful decisions to dare to be more than their forefathers had ever dreamed?

THIS is the power of intention—the power of recognizing the past does *not* equal the future—that with having a powerful psychology and giving ourselves permission to dare, doors open that would have been shut if we didn’t know to simply look. 

What would it take to realize the bars that cage us into our current reality are our own doing—that we bought the beliefs that were sold to us in our youth?  “I’m not enough.”  “I’m not capable of the greatness of others.”  Bullshit.

Remember, you and I came into this world without thoughts.  We learned them from our surroundings.  They formed a basis for the life that we lead, but as conscious beings given the gift (or as I like to think of it, the *earned right*) of free will, we now have the power to decide what we think and believe.

This and every moment is a gift—an opportunity to create the change you wish to see.

Step up.  Claim your power.  Become even more of yourself.

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Open, Honest & Vulnerable: Forging Truly Deep Connections

I would like to change the way people think about communication and what it means to truly connect with another person.  Each us has an incredibly interesting story and psychology that can enrich the lives of the people around us, but because of fear of judgment (that we aren’t enough as ourselves) or fear of offending others (that we won’t be loved if we express ourselves) we tend to only share the parts of us we feel to be palatable—holding back the real emotional juice that makes us uniquely who we are.  When we let down our guards and allow ourselves to say what we truly want and how we feel, magic happens—others feel more comfortable with wanting and feeling in their own way—inspired by true authenticity.

I wish to inspire a culture that judges less and validates more.  Every feeling is valid.  Every emotion is sourced in personal truth.  As we open up to what we truly desire and share this with others, we can all have a little more courage to have the happiness we crave.