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hi! i understand you probably can't answer this for professional reasons, but what program(s) do you use to edit your photos?

I use Lightroom 5 to edit dslr pictures and the vsco app for iPhone shots!

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marriage-wise, how important do you think "common ground" of background, interests, etc, is?

I was just talking about this with my husband last night! We both think it’s important to have similar philosophies in politics, religion, etc, because those affect your general outlook in life. Relationships can be hard to sustain when your worldviews are intrinsically different. Jacob and I avoid a lot of conflict in our marriage simply because we share similar values when it comes to subjects like religion/goals for our life and marriage/political ideologies/our love for travel. 

But while we were raised somewhat similarly by our parents, there’s still a lot that differs between us, like culture (I was partially raised in Germany), personality, talents, and hobbies. Differences like that don’t have to necessarily hinder a relationship, though. Provided that you have common interests in the big things of life, little things don’t really matter (for example, Jacob is a snowboarder and fly-fisherman and loves woodworking, while I’m a photographer and writer and love reading–we have totally different hobbies, but they are often compatible!). Personally, I love that our individual interests are different–it keeps things fun and interesting, and I’m regularly pushed out of my comfort zone, in a good way.

Obviously the situation is different for every couple, and my best advice is just to talk it out! You’ll feel at peace if it’s right. Hope that helps <3

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What is marriage like?

Marriage is a relief and sacred and hard work (but that part is not a surprise), and a completion and being stupid together in the kitchen and laughing at each other’s lame jokes and being able to tell what the other is thinking by a meeting of the eyes across the room. Marriage is a support and a warm bed and sadness when you have to give up your old lives and saying “I’m sorry” and cleaning the kitchen without being asked even though you’ve cleaned it every day that week. Marriage is getting up together at 5:45 most mornings even though you don’t want to and learning to choose your battles and getting annoyed at each other over the most insignificant infractions and making up after arguments and respecting that the other person had a life before you. Mostly, though, marriage is stumbling through life with your best friend and holding each other through the night and never having to say goodbye and some of the biggest, most soul-stretching, fulfilling experiences (and fun) I’ve ever had.

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Belinda and Rosita, Buenos Aires, Argentina. 1998. Alessandra Sanguinetti.