“'Only open to mutuals' basically means 'I really don't want to RP with you unless you're in my clique'.”
Okay, as a private blog who only RPs with mutuals, I have to say that not everyone that I write with is in my clique. Yes, I have a group of friends that I write with, but there are others, too! I am not BFFs with everyone I write with, I don’t talk to all of them OOC.
And I myself have personal reasons for being private and selective in my following; I didn’t do it just so I could be with my clique.
Can I add that your muse might be SELECTIVE as well as the mun might be a bit selective? Can I also tack on that this is a HOBBY? and should be taken into consideration that we as roleplayers and (PEOPLE) are not under any obligation to roleplay or follow anyone ever? oh my gosh.. this is a very rude confession..
I should let this go, because the points above were great ones — but I have to add my two cents it. First off, yes. Being private sometimes means myself and others are highly selective; some have chosen to refer to it as being an ‘elitist’ ..
and you know what, what the hell is wrong with that?
I personally hold myself up to ridiculous standards and expectations with my character and my writing. Who is anyone else to say that when I expect the same from the people I write with I’m being ‘cliquish’?
First and foremost, RPing is a hobby; and I am not here to fit MY portrayal of a character into any one else’s fantasies or delusions about the way he should be played. Been there , done that and lost my muse in the process. And honestly, I would rather be selective, or as you call it ‘cliquish' than write with people who refuse to take the time to get to know and understand me and my character's portrayal.
Probably my biggest tumblr RP pet peeve right here, folks. So in short, yes. I’m selective and only open to mutuals. Bite me.
I probably shouldn’t, as the commentaries previously added are fantastic on their own, but I’m going to say it anyway: Don’t fucking expect people to roleplay with you. If you can’t handle not being noticed by those people you really want to roleplay with, consider these: Have you approached them? Have you breached some of their rules? Most people on this site are actually really nice, even the ones you may think are ‘untouchable’ and ‘impossible to roleplay with.’ For the most part, I can definitely say we all try to give people chances where chances are due, but once you expect to be given those chances, you can, quite literally, say goodbye to even playing with anyone.
Don’t be a pissbaby, guys. It’s unbecoming of anyone, and when you start complaining about it people aren’t going to interact with you at all. Be nice to everyone, be courteous, treat others as they treat you, respect the fucking fact that people do have standards and accept that sometimes you don’t meet them.
And sometimes? People have too many followers to interact with. I follow less people than who follow me, and even then I still can’t interact with everyone. I try to open up and let people ask for starters via starter calls every now and then, and I get intimidated by the number of people who do end up asking for starters. There are people who I consider are part of my ‘clique’ ( really, though? a lot of the people community are so past high school do we really need to use that word? ) who I don’t even roleplay with. And sometimes muses really are fickle ; one day you could wish to write all about sad threads and end up ignoring the happier, quirkier threads.
It’s hard trying to accommodate everyone, so if you can’t understand that, then I really don’t have any interest in roleplaying with you.
