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How are u actually doing I miss your podcasts

Im doing okay 💘💘🫂🫂🫂 I hope you guys are doing good <3 fr

Hi Charlotte, I've figured out that shame is at the root of most of my problems, and I was wondering if you're ever ashamed of yourself or feel like you're not good enough. If so how do you deal with that?

I definitely do. I feel like most people wear some sort of blanket of shame. About whatever it is to them.

I think for me distinguishing between shame and guilt has been helpful. Guilt ; i did a bad thing. Shame ; i am bad.

Shame has no positive psychological effect. Guilt can actually be productive to change things about yourself , to grow etc.

I think a lot of ridding shame is just retelling yourself another story about who you are. And saying it to yourself over & over to where you believe it. Like a hero story in a movie. Sounds lame but that’s honeslty I think how you have to get rid of it. Everyone is different & everyone is ashamed for different reasons. So it’s a complicated thing to answer specifically

I think we become prisoners to our minds story about ourselves. Saying we are bad over and over. We have to just re write it mentally. & tell ourselves a better one & trick ourselves into believing it

& Hopefully one day we both will be free of shame 🩷

I’m sorry but Charlotte L was so annoying on ur podcast and kept speaking over you

Honest to god things are so much more visible when filmed. I struggled w this w my podcast too. Truth is in normal conversation (especially when your friends with the person) u talk over each other. So char didn’t talk over me that much it just feels that way cuz it’s like a formal podcast & I’ve learned to not do that cuz I did it too !

How do y think the old Charlotte would see the “new” Charlotte? (Style wise)

She’d be like oh this is what I’ve imagined in my head of what I thought you’d be one day & u did it hahah

Im going to do a solo episode where I answer questions in depth. Please let me know what you want me to answer below this 🥺💘

What would you say is your love language?

Acts of service

Physical touch

I think

But I love them all 🥺

is anything holding you back right now from manifesting what you want in life

Just myself.

I just need to get out of my own way

My boyfriend is a great guy but I feel like it’s time to let go, the only thing stopping me is the fact that I literally would cry for days seeing him w someone else. How do I cope this is an SOS

I think it’s completely normal to feel like you still have sort of ownership over your boyfriend. Even after you break up. & the thought of them with someone else can legit make you wanna die. But honestly, that can’t be the sole reason why your with them. Your doing a disservice to them & yourself.

Don’t jump the gun and end things before you’re ready in fear it’s not the right decision. But start mentally preparing yourself what your life could look like without him in it. Does that feel comfortable or right ? Does it give you relief ? Just ask yourself why your with him & why you want to stay & then why you want to leave. Follow your own intuition on this. It won’t lead you wrong.

The fact you wrote this in makes me think that maybe that’s your intuition talking now. But idk. Ultimately you have to be okay with knowing he’s going to be with someone new. Try to mourn the loss of that before you even do it. So you’re completely prepared for the breakup and what comes with that.

It’s not so bad. It’s really not. Everyone gets over shit in time. & more importantly you might have more happiness with someone else that your depriving yourself from out of fear

When will you’re podcast be back? Those were so therapeutic 🥺😩

You should expect 100% in February. Let me know who you want on. My least favorite part is thinking of guests tbh. Hahahah so it’s actually so helpful

welcome back angel💘🤍 how are u?

Hey im back, I think im back for good. I missed tumblr. This is legit my diary & safe place & im sorry for leaving, I think I was in a very dissociative state of mind & lost interest in a lot of things.

But I am determined to get out of it. & that starts here

am i weird for never wanting to be in a relationship? like I really just enjoy being single and spending time with my friends and fam

I think it’s completely up to you. This was my mindset for years & still is.

I fooled myself into thinking it could last forever. I don’t think it’s sustainable. I think the world & our psychology is made to be in a pair. Eventually. & you will eventually feel that need inside yourself. Whether it’s now or years from now.

Go at your own pace. Don’t judge yourself too much on your own wants. Sometimes you change your mind naturally or sometimes it the sign of a deeper issue. & hey that’s okay too haha

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