Would you date an incontinent person?
Yesterday I had read this question and I asked myself: „Would I #date a person who is asking this question at all?“. My first inner reaction was; „No! A human asking this seems to have a #problem with somebody or something that should not be a problem at all. Maybe he / she is a person much more #important to what others might think about her and so on. Maybe (s)he's just stupid, unfair, or just running with the pink glasses around her.“
My second reaction was a „Remain factual, the answer would be: Yo or yes“. My thoughts swung in the direction, that a human asking this only must have a big gap in their #knowledge about #bladderweakness, #incontinence, #pads and #diapers, medical treatments, living with this, how many #people in their country and around the globe are #affected. Or they could be totally jammed instead of opened, as well as some affected.
For all the question is: „What are you #afraid of?“. Visible embarrassing spots or a need of changing clothing arise only when a protective tool such as a #diaper is renounced or chosen too #weak. Remember that if you choose a special #discreet #nappy. 2mm thinner and 3cm shorter and a resulting Spot? ;-). #Diapers let the most affected people can do nearly most of all things, a continent person can do, even go to a music festival. #Discreetness is not only the thing of the #diaper. It's a lot more a matter of the #clothing over that!
Yes, even I would have a problem with an incontinent #friend, spouse... if (s)he would run every 15 minutes to a #toilette just to avoid (using) diapers , align life afterwards, yes, then life passes by #unimpaired or badly lived - focused on #peeing & Co instead of fun, family, friends and living. A very small problem becomes a very big in this way. Then it does also negatively #influences the life of the dearest ones around.
Ok, #feacal incontinence is a little bit worse than urine incontinence. From uncontrolled „clouds“ over „brake strips in the pants“ to „losed solid“ are the possibilities. But there are many things an affected person can do, really many (anal #tampons, #irrigation etc) so that a big smelling accident outside could be really a very seldom exception.
At this point be aware that this all can #catch even you, anytime! And what do you wish in this moment, present and future? What will you are wishing from your family, your friend(s), wife, husband, maybe also from work colleagues or even strangers etc? To wish, not to expect? That they are avoiding you? That they are rejecting you? Or don’t you wish much more understanding, a deeper friendship, a #hug and maybe to be taken by the hand? Let’s make these good wishes become true - things we may expect, of course!
Many people a fulfilled with personal and even selfmade or self-imposed #weaknesses and faults, even affecting others negatively, like smoking, alcoholism, drug crime and many more and are nevertheless expecting tolerance, acceptance, integration etc.
The more we should expect it from God-given, indebted or generally not self-inflicted weaknesses and faults. Even the #abdl, of which there is much more than assumed, as I learn here in Tumblr and Twitter, belong to this last group.