people have sooo many misconceptions about strap and i get it because even i did to an extent before actually using it properly in lots of different ways with a partner i like but it makes me so upset the lengths people go to trying to justify why they refuse to try it and why they think its dumb and pointless and silly and why it could never possibly compare to bio penis and theyre clearly talking about it with a complete lack of experience just wildly speculating based on assumption and comparison to what a bio penis does that they could never enjoy giving or receiving strap and that nobody is actually enjoying strapping it makes me want to kill people. talking down on strap acting like ur just above it because ur just soooo much more dysphoric than everbody else or whatever but you haven’t even tried it because ur too fucking scared to try having sex that isnt bottoming for cis men because thats simple… Honestly i think people who are scared to strap are lacking self confidence because it does take confidence in a lot of ways. And ur never gonna find that confidence when u just keep honing in on all the ways you think its inferior to bio penis and treating it like a poor imitation of a ‘Real Penis’ having a poor simulation of ‘Real Sex’ instead of understanding strap as its own beautiful and unique method of topping... its kinda like when people are disgusted by vegetarian alternatives because they think they should be indistinguishable from meat and thus it often falls short instead of appreciating them as their own beautiful thing… good strap is like falafel in this way.
so anyway heres some of the ways strap is uniquely superior in my experience:
- Stays hard forever… can keep going forever… never being cut short bc they nutted or have erectile dysfunction.
-any shape or size u want/need and it can even change throughout a session
-strapping partner more likely to focus better on bottoming partners physical pleasure and not just their own.
-yes it feels good to strap. yes u can cum from topping with it… yes that means u can ‘cum inside them’. There are multiple ways… tbh i didnt think i would be able to at first because cumming can be difficult but i was proven wrong eventually… You can keep trying things until u find a way that works for you. And once you figure that out you might even be able to cum in them multiple times…
-even if u dont cum giving good strap also offers an indescribable kind of psychological pleasure and confidence… And an epic view.
-easy to maintain hygiene, less UTIs even with longer sessions
-impossibly large penis is possible
-there are different options for texture.. some people aren’t as comfortable bottoming with a fully solid dildo but technology has progressed to silicon and beyond… it can take trial and error to figure out what u and ur partner enjoy the most, but its actually very fun and awesome that we can play around and adjust things to our desires until its perfect.
-penis can be flexible and you can’t hurt it so especially combined with length u can get some positions and angles bio dick could neverrr.. and u don’t even have to worry about breaking their dick and balls
i know theres definitely more thats just off the top of my head rn… #strappositivity