I wonder, how can one truly believe that love exists, when people are so contradictory? Someone comes into your life and says such beautiful things, fills you with love and affection that turns out to be false, and then through their actions they show that none of it is real. We are in the 21st century, a time when many people no longer truly seek a healthy, lasting relationship with someoneโthey simply want to satisfy their carnal desires and have a โgood timeโ without any commitment.
Many times, in numerous cases, people can even end up getting emotionally attached just because the other person didnโt have enough โemotional responsibilityโ or honesty about what they really wanted. Sometimes, others, out of indecision, also end up hurting someone who was genuinely opening up to love.
If you only want to have a casual relationship or truly be with someone, things should be discussed from the beginning. But no, many people come in and deceive someone, saying things like, โYes, we can try to have a relationship,โ when in reality they only wanted that person to satisfy their sexual desires.
Be clear about what you want. We are not here to keep tolerating indecisive people who will only end up hurting and using us. Talk about things from the start, and if one party doesnโt agree with whatโs discussed, donโt accept it just to โbe closeโ to that personโdonโt hurt yourself that way.
If, in all the times Iโve been in these situations, people had been honest with me, without giving me false hope or illusions, telling me their true intentions, I wouldnโt have opened my heart to be hurt. I wouldnโt have believed in the possibility of having a beautiful relationship with someone while opening myself innocently to love them, when that person doesnโt love me back. They always end up giving me sweet words just to have my body.
Always speak the truth. If you want friendship and a sexual relationship, say it. If you only want friendship, be honest about it. Or if what you truly want is a relationship, say it. Perhaps one of the two parties wonโt agree, and that decision must be respected.
Always be honest with your intentions. Donโt awaken love in someone if you donโt intend to love them back.
Be conscious and communicate. Have enough maturity and emotional responsibility to avoid hurting others just for a carnal desire.
Do not give false hope of love or acts of affection when you truly donโt feel that for the other person, and simply want something sexual. Donโt confuse someoneโs heart with such cruel actions, because thatโs how many end up hurt. Be honest with yourself as well, and donโt give love you donโt feel, just to have sex.