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idk bro

[coldandcraving]

When you love someone so much, you have such good chemistry, you're fully comfortable around them, trust them a lot that you want your tongue in their throat.

I'm not sure if i feel this in a allonormative buy them flowers and go on dates and call them honey and sweetheart way but, anyways—

Not their tongue in your throat, you want to put YOUR tongue in THEIR throat, you want YOUR lips on THEIRS, it's just, this feeling, desire to love someone so fully, to be one with them, merge flesh and soul, to be as physically close to them as possible.

Which is, by having your tongue down their throat, still yearning for more.

Please, universe. 🤌

I don't know about receiving affection, i can't even imagine it, I'm emotionally stunted and a total virgin, but i have so much to give. So many kisses just die in my hands, so much yearning is trapped in my mind. I want to give so much affection to someone—given that i am able to trust them and be comfortable, for once.

Now, uh, am i still aroace????? Wonder wonder

[juicieste]

He definitely has a type.

Polish School AU 🇵🇱

[xyangblog]

Smell

While I was drawing, I wondered if the TV has an odor, a smell?

[hazedxg0]

Been seeing too many pop-psychology attachment theory posts that demonize avoidant attachment lately, so for the record:

You are not entitled to anyone else's time or affection.

People are allowed to leave you if they do not want a relationship with you.

People do not have to give you a reason that you approve of, or even a reason at all, to leave you if they do not want a relationship with you.

Your own co-dependency issues and attachment to someone else does not trump that person's ability to deny consent.

No-one is obligated to give you attention just because you want them to.

No-one is obligated to stay in a relationship they don't want to be in, even if the other person hasn't done anything wrong.

No-one is obligated to stay in a relationship they don't want to be in, even if the other person is mentally ill.

Attempting to force someone to stay through coercion, guilt tripping, or threats of suicide/self-harm is abusive.

[yearofheartbreak]

This is the exact reason all these people are running around thinking it's okay to lead others on and break people's heart under some self inflicted guise of 'I can't'. No you just want your cake and to eat it to.

Say what you mean and mean what you say. If you don't mean it then move out the way for someone who does.

This thinking is just as bad as the 'pop psychology' posts.

Yes they can leave at any time but not after they've lovebombed you to make you believe you want them and then start acting shady without an explanation.

Yes they are obligated to give me attention if they told me they wanted a relationship and did everything to get my attention and then lovebombed.

Yes if you told me you loved me and wanted to be with me, then I deserve to know why you either lied about that or changed your mind.

For all the ones that have been discarded. Don't let people like the OP make your feelings less than. If your heart was broken then it was broken and you deserve closure.

Avoidants are not good people that know exactly what they're doing.

[coldandcraving]

If you're mad at your exes, text them all of this. Or call. Your exes, you know? If you have guts as an anxiously attached person, that is.

[yearofheartbreak]

I'm not anxiously attached, it's called I was lied to and manipulated for a year by an avoidant who could've just told the truth. I would love to say a lot to his face but he's too scared to face me after all he's lied about. I have more guts than him and you.

[coldandcraving]

Then call your damned ex up and blast him, no one else should have to listen to you project your trashy ex on them.

And oh, sure you have more guts than us. So much that you have to write it out loud. 🫶

This post is also something you're taking out of context, as someone who is probably not aware of attachment issues in the first place, because it's precisely directed at anxiously attached individuals who used said tactics of demanding attention, emotional "support"(more like coddling and endless supply) through blackmail, manipulation and threats of self harm.

But it's so much easier to blast a random group of individuals who are already blamed for hell and earth by anxious avoidants... Lol

[yearofheartbreak]

Aww I'm sorry that obviously you have treated some people in your life not right and now you're triggered by someone speaking their truth.

Fortunately, I will do and say whatever I want, whenever I want, wherever I want. You're right, you don't have to read/listen so why are you still here?? lol.

Yes I'm writing stuff 'out loud' because I have free will, do you not? I'm confused on when you, specifically, became the internet police? What rank are you? Or wait, are you a psychologist?

I am very aware of attachment styles, it's called I was replying to something with my own personal opinion. Which is what the internet is used for, among a lot of other things.

I'm aware of the games all kinds of people play, avoidant, anxious, dismissive, etc. They're all wrong. Talking, explaining, and communication all works.

I hope you focus on your art in the future instead of being so upset at someone else's experience and them wanting to express what happened to them 🫶

[coldandcraving]

Goodnight bro, I'm sorry about my words, i do hope you learn better and stop hurting a group of people for nothing because everyone fucking hurts, bye

[hazedxg0]

Been seeing too many pop-psychology attachment theory posts that demonize avoidant attachment lately, so for the record:

You are not entitled to anyone else's time or affection.

People are allowed to leave you if they do not want a relationship with you.

People do not have to give you a reason that you approve of, or even a reason at all, to leave you if they do not want a relationship with you.

Your own co-dependency issues and attachment to someone else does not trump that person's ability to deny consent.

No-one is obligated to give you attention just because you want them to.

No-one is obligated to stay in a relationship they don't want to be in, even if the other person hasn't done anything wrong.

No-one is obligated to stay in a relationship they don't want to be in, even if the other person is mentally ill.

Attempting to force someone to stay through coercion, guilt tripping, or threats of suicide/self-harm is abusive.

[yearofheartbreak]

This is the exact reason all these people are running around thinking it's okay to lead others on and break people's heart under some self inflicted guise of 'I can't'. No you just want your cake and to eat it to.

Say what you mean and mean what you say. If you don't mean it then move out the way for someone who does.

This thinking is just as bad as the 'pop psychology' posts.

Yes they can leave at any time but not after they've lovebombed you to make you believe you want them and then start acting shady without an explanation.

Yes they are obligated to give me attention if they told me they wanted a relationship and did everything to get my attention and then lovebombed.

Yes if you told me you loved me and wanted to be with me, then I deserve to know why you either lied about that or changed your mind.

For all the ones that have been discarded. Don't let people like the OP make your feelings less than. If your heart was broken then it was broken and you deserve closure.

Avoidants are not good people that know exactly what they're doing.

[coldandcraving]

If you're mad at your exes, text them all of this. Or call. Your exes, you know? If you have guts as an anxiously attached person, that is.

[yearofheartbreak]

I'm not anxiously attached, it's called I was lied to and manipulated for a year by an avoidant who could've just told the truth. I would love to say a lot to his face but he's too scared to face me after all he's lied about. I have more guts than him and you.

[coldandcraving]

Then call your damned ex up and blast him, no one else should have to listen to you project your trashy ex on them.

And oh, sure you have more guts than us. So much that you have to write it out loud. 🫶

This post is also something you're taking out of context, as someone who is probably not aware of attachment issues in the first place, because it's precisely directed at anxiously attached individuals who used said tactics of demanding attention, emotional "support"(more like coddling and endless supply) through blackmail, manipulation and threats of self harm.

But it's so much easier to blast a random group of individuals who are already blamed for hell and earth by anxious avoidants... Lol

[mikaavee-art]

Im not ok! This ship has taken over my life!

How am i supposed to make it until next week??

[coldandcraving]

I've been too greedy