Partnered Life: * Am I checking in with my partner to see if they had a rough day? * If so, am I stepping up to make their life easier in other ways (cooking, cleaning, etc.)? * Am I open and clear about my wants, and not forcing my partner to guess/drag it out of me? * Am I contributing constructively to planning of meals, events, trips, etc? * Am I actively trying to make my presence feel safe for my partner? * Do I try to do nice things for my partner without being asked (flowers, treats, etc.)? * Do I take care of my own administrative life (paperwork, bills) without needing to be repeatedly reminded? * Am I supportive of my partner’s decisions, big and small? * Am I respectful and validating of my partner’s emotions? * Am I vocally grateful when my partner goes out of their way to do something nice for me? * Am I nice to my partner’s family [if that’s a thing they want]?
Emotional Labor: What It Is and How To Do It (via littletimechange)
