Why are men? 🙃
So I called out a "friend" on his repeatedly making rape jokes about my friends' kids. Like persistently, repeatedly, in both text and verbal form.
This is a friend whose public persona was very pro #metoo movement when it happened. Hypocrite.
One day I had finally had enough, so I finally called him on his bullshit.
And instead of saying "oh damn I'll stop"
He turned around and said "oh well you've never complained about them before..."
So I explained how rape jokes are heard by rapists, who then think to themselves "oh cool this guy's on my side" and how they normalize things that should never be. And how one in five women have been raped or sexually assaulted, and hearing him say that word so casually was like a stab in the face.
And the fucker turns around and says "oh well I've never said those jokes around anyone but you"
Listen: this fucker regularly makes these jokes around a group of around a dozen people. Like at least once a week. Regularly.
Clearly the fucker didn't want to learn why he had to stop, only wanted to justify himself for why it was okay that he did it.
So I removed this man from my life. Blocked on all social media, no longer speak, no longer will hang out with in person.
Said fucker was (or actually, probably still is) friends with my partner. I explained to my partner that I was on the outs with this man, and that I did not desire to see him.
The fucker goes above my head and texts my partner. Who has now been making jokes about how I'm "too sensitive" and "turning into an SJW" and y'all I don't know what to do.
It'll probably seem less like the end of the world when it's not 04:30, but right now I'm ready to leave and go live in another country. Preferably one which has handled COVID better than the USA, but I digress.
