I think this has been a long time coming and I wanted to address issues rather than simply disappearing because while I don't believe I would be a significant gap in this community, I'd like to think that my word stands for something after so many years of being within it.
I have been running this blog for a long time and it became second nature for me to add aesthetically to this page when it suited me, as well as deliver relevant life updates about myself and my family.
Although I haven't been entirely truthful with a lot of you? And given how I have developed in myself since I began this blog in the first place, I feel like its time I was authentic to you all and open up.
I want to start off by saying that when I started this blog, I had a very loose understanding of what conservative meant. My intention with the blog was not to waylay myself into politics beyond what I believed was necessary - what to me felt necessary as a woman, sharing my beliefs on the world and what my place in it was.
My relationship was very important to me at the time - and having gone through it, I will admit that I leaned heavily into what I believed personified traditional women to better serve my partner. As a stay at home mom and him as a breadwinner, that fell into my lap for care of the house and children - but over time (particularly after the birth of our kids) the things I had seen as problematic became red flags that were too oppressive to ignore or tolerate in the long term I wanted.
But I was quite firm in my beliefs - enough so that I allowed myself to sit in a relationship that was swirling the drain for a long while. I lied, to protect his reputation, that all was well - when they were not. I long to portray something worth aspiring to - a happy family, a godly grateful family. A solid unbreakable nuclear unit. So desperately I held onto the hope that we could work through issues, if I tried harder it would be enough. At the end of the day, it didn't seem to matter.
So we broke up in April 2024, tried to make it work again and it didn't - so now we have separated permanently. These things happen.
Ever since then - I feel like I have done myself a disservice in that now I am in too tight a niche to justify the content that doesn't resonate with the life I live anymore. But most importantly, whatever toxic jargon that got me here in the first place. That in being godly or a good mother, I need to sit in something self destructive and tolerate the worst because its the right thing to do, morally, as a feminine traditional conservative woman. Tolerate, keep calm and carry on.
The life I have led for the last three years - the walking on eggshells, the constant blowups and panic, the arguments - are not something I would wish on anyone - regardless of their leanings. If that is the image I am putting out into the world, I don't want any part of it.
You, as a woman - are no less feminine or godly, for putting up your boundaries with your partner. For saying no. For not being a doormat.
I don't ever want to associate myself with a lifestyle that degrades and subjugates women to their partners like shackles. I don't want to continue to push forward a lie for the sake of someone who doesn't deserve it.
So I have decided I will be changing the name of this blog and will no longer be posting to it. As much as I have loved being a member of this community and so grateful for the friends I've made - I'm taking a different path - one that is a journey I'm excited to learn and explore and I hope you all find yourselves on positive journey's too.
Don't you smut idiots have anything else to do other than find blogs designed to avoid you JUST to get a reaction? Like really. You've rotted your brain enough, go touch some grass already.
The misconception: "The Bible says that if a man rapes a woman, then she has to marry him."
The reference: "If a man entices a virgin who is not betrothed, and lies with her, he shall surely pay the bride-price for her to be his wife." — Exodus 22:16
What it actually means: If a man seduces a woman, and they hook up— As in, two consenting adults having sex— then he is responsible for sullying her honor. Therefore, he must marry her to uphold said honor. Of course, he also has to get permission from the father. The father will obviously talk to his daughter about it, and then the man. If the father sees that the man is a literal garbage human being, then the father won't allow the man to marry his daughter. But even in that case, the man who seduced the woman still has to pay money to help support her for the rest of her life.
It's not talking about rape.
The actual Bible verse on rape: “But if in the open country a man meets a young woman who is betrothed, and the man seizes her and lies with her, then only the man who lay with her shall die. But you shall do nothing to the young woman; she has committed no offense punishable by death. For this case is like that of a man attacking and murdering his neighbor, because he met her in the open country, and though the betrothed young woman cried for help there was no one to rescue her." — Deuteronomy 22:25-27
What it means: If a man forces himself on a woman, kill him.
Obviously there's more to both of these verses like context, and what was happening in the culture around the time it was written. That and these are national laws for Israel. But at the end of the day, we see how God feels about rape, and how valuable the honor of a woman truly is.
Deuteronomy 22:28-29 are a repeat of Exodus 22:16-17. Same scenario. Also not about rape.
