Cookies and Donuts

Snippets of life as experienced by one human traversing recovery

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#Repost @becomewhoyouneeded ・・・ Hey friends! Happy Monday 🤗 Sometimes I hear statements from survivors of childhood trauma saying they aren't smart or other people are more intelligent. I grew up thinking I was dumb because other people around me knew way more information and had a more expansive vocabulary. Here's the thing: other people didn't have to focus on surviving while being on a constant quest to have needs met. When we're focused on surviving, we learn so much just the skills we become proficient in usually aren't the ones we chose to learn. Along the way, we've developed a skill set that highlights intelligence and adaptability. Learning will always be there. Now that we're (hopefully) feeling safe, we have so many skills and proficiencies we learned to be used to our advantage. See you soon ❤️ #complextrauma #healingjourney #ptsd #complexptsd #innerchildwork #innerchild #developmentaltrauma #childhoodtrauma #traumasurvivor #childhoodtraumasurvivor #traumaresponse #selfgrowth #selfdevelopment #cptsd #supportsurvivors #cyclebreaker https://instagr.am/p/CbYSzFAuwYc/

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#Repost @nate_postlethwait ・・・ Toxic positivity teaches us that if we do not feel better, it’s on us. That teaches us to resent unhealed parts of us, who need compassion and understanding (and a trauma informed approach), not hate. ⁣ ⁣ Imagine what the part of you needs to no longer feel the weight of being a burden. Compassion and curiosity are key in these spaces. ⁣ ⁣ The challenge is understanding what that part of you needs to hear most. The part that has carried much without an invitation to exhale….⁣ ⁣ I’m glad you’re looking at them and offering them hope. ⁣ ⁣ I’m so glad you’re here! 💪🏻❤️ https://instagr.am/p/CZh3XlpuUi7/

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#Repost @adoseofreminders ・・・ Take. Your. Time 🌈 These are the very three words I try and remind myself of every time I fall into a comparison trap. Just at 22, I sometimes feel like my life should be already set. I should have a full time job already. I should have this. I should have that. I feel behind. But that’s not true. Whether you’re in your twenties, thirties, forties, fifties (I won’t continue I think you get my point) there is no set time to do something in your life. It doesn’t mean you’re behind life, it simply means you are on your own, unique journey and that’s absolutely okay. I hope this little reminder reaches anyone who is needing it today and I’m sending you all masses and masses of love 💛 https://instagr.am/p/CZPikFVOlAM/

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First week back at college after 11 years = complete! Repost @toyoufromsteph ・・・ You are capable of creating the life you can't stop thinking about. Here's my entry for this week's hashtag challenge #woifridays with @womenofillustration 🤍 Cheers, Steph x . . . . . #toyoufromsteph #digitalart #digitalillustration #procreate #illustratoroninstagram #procreateart #thejourneybegins #adventureawaits #spiritualart #lookwithin #quotestagram #dailymotivation #trusttheprocess #illustrationoftheday #womenofillustration #womenwhodraw #procreateillustration #ladieswhodesign #girlsmakingmagic #illustragram #illustratorsoninstagram #ipadart #womenempowerment #best_of_illustrations #illistration #illustrationoninstagram #illustratorart #picturebookart #womenillustrators https://instagr.am/p/CY_FTukulP7/

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#Repost @defendsurvivors ・・・ So many messages to survivors ignore so much. It’s not okay to tell a survivor to focus on gratitude when they don’t have basic security. We need to change these conversations and look at what is happening around a survivor and the reality they are facing. Focus on what you can do to help the survivor - not what the survivor ‘should’ do. ♡ follow @defendsurvivors (Please tag us if you repost) #gratitude #respectsurvivors #basicneeds #safetyfirst #wearewithyou https://instagr.am/p/CY5koM5sbXV/

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#Repost @living.with.c_ptsd ・・・ @nicolesachslcsw Nicole gets us thinking again! #deniedreality #trauma #childhoodtrauma #developmentaltrauma #relationaltrauma #cptsd https://instagr.am/p/CYzdk5iPwoq/

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#Repost @millennial.therapist ・・・ ❤️ #millennialtherapist https://instagr.am/p/CYm0CfpLZym/

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I’m continually making different choices every day. It’s the whirlwind of starting college. Classes start a week from today. It’s been 10.5 years since in left my 4th attempt to get a degree. In that time so much awful shit happened. I was suddenly face-to-face with childhood sexual abuse that wasn’t talked about. It was 22 years of my reality being denied, suppressed, and punished. And yet, I still didn’t get help. I didn’t know I could. I didn’t know where to go. Others had it worse and I needed to just buck up and get a job and be a normal person like everyone else. I couldn’t do that. I was raped by my closest/oldest friend, I was coerced by someone I thought was a safe platonic friend. Not sure which came first since that whole time span is a blur since I was already in a trauma response (I had no idea) and I dove deep into addiction to “deal” with the tragedy of my existence. Anyway, now I’m 4.5 years sober, I’m much more educated on my “condition,” I have compassion for that girl who has nowhere to turn, and I’m making sure to take advantage of all possible opportunities for extra help and to be seen. I’m claiming my disability (I have diagnoses: PTSD, Depression, Substance Use Disorder) for accessibility services, I’m taking an active role in reaching out to the various departments to ensure I’ve got the support I need before overwhelm sets in. I’m just making so many different choices. Authentic choices. #Repost @newhappyco ・・・ If you’re feeling stuck, take a quick moment and check in: are you making the same choices over and over again? What might happen if you made a different choice? It doesn’t have to be big — just different. https://instagr.am/p/CYldQ5pr4Ty/

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#Repost @drtannerwallace ・・・ Cyclebreaking is some heavy sh*t. You leave behind everything you’ve known to-date and with a huge leap of faith declare there is something safer and healthier on the Other Side, and yet you’ve never actually seen this “Other Side”...you’ve only heard stories about its existence. But here is the full truth about cycle breaking…know that there is breathtaking magnificence... There is expansive perspective There is healing There’s some semblance of light ...in even the darkest spaces of the walk up the mountain. So, my friend. Be present in your mission. Tune in and tap in. Sharpen your senses. What is calling you forward on this sacred quest back to wholeness? What lessons are you meant to download? What Parts of your inner world are being revealed? What wounds are being activated and deserving of your courageous attention? This is the work of a lifetime. Use it to fuel your daily motivation to get up and do the work every single day of your life until you are looking out over the peak onto the old trauma empire crumbling in dust below. When you look back, what will be the legacy you leave behind? Let us know what is calling you forward, what is the purpose behind your healing? Motivate, inspire, let’s create a comment thread that can literally light us up from the inside out. We need each other. Survivors (doing their work) are stronger together ❤️ #childhoodtraumasurvivor #cptsdsurvivor #developmentaltrauma #generationaltrauma #complextrauma #surviveandthrive #bpdwarrior #cyclebreaker #cyclebreakers #traumasurvivor #dysfunctionalfamily #reparenting #CPTSDrecovery #healingtrauma #childhoodtrauma #traumarecovery #healingjourney #purposedriven https://instagr.am/p/CYXddpfMRqC/

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#Repost @stacieswift ・・・ Still just here to remind you how wonderful you are. Share some kindness and give someone a compliment today - especially if it’s a back to school or work day, the little pick me up might be needed! 💕 https://instagr.am/p/CYTUOo4OpLE/

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#Repost @crazyheadcomics ・・・ i strive to live without fear or avoidance of my own feelings, i truly think the best thing to do is allow yourself to process and really feel your feelings ! but some days, we simply don’t have the energy to do emotional work, and that’s okay !! no reason to feel bad for sleeping away a bad day, because your body is telling you you need a rest. ❤️ https://instagr.am/p/CYTImqwOqK2/

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#Repost @newhappyco ・・・ Intentions for the week ahead, beginning of year edition! Encouraging you to be especially kind and gentle to yourself this week, which comes in many forms: rest, acceptance, action, release, hope, and love. What are your intentions for this week, community? ❤️ Thank you to community members @mareikay, @louise_64221, @martina_perez_v, @benedettamarone, @shamil.shey, @laureanders and @pkruf504 for submitting these intentions this week! https://instagr.am/p/CYRuO6xLFUj/

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#Repost @positivelypresent ・・・ You are here and that is enough. 💛 https://instagr.am/p/CYIt5lIMEdU/

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#Repost @mental.sisters ・・・ I used to think feeling angry is a bad thing, but it's actually a very important emotion especially when it comes to healing childhood trauma! Getting angry is vital when you are healing from abuse. anger means you will not accept being treated badly anymore. When you get angry during healing, it's an important message from you to yourself that what happened to you was wrong. Anger protects you. 💁‍♀️💪💗 Of course it is not healthy to be angry forever and that is not the goal. The goal is that you get to finally feel ALL the feelings in a safe space. 🕊️🕊️🕊️ There is no time limit or schedule that works for all. We all work through our trauma at our own pace. it's okay if it takes time. 🌼🌼🌼 ~J~ [Image description: on light pink background in black letters it says:" things I wish I knew earlier: Anger is a vital part of healing childhood trauma". there's a drawing of a angry little girl.] #angerishealthy #angerquotes #healingisaprocess #healingfromnarcissisticabuse #healingtrauma #healingchildhoodtrauma #healingjourney #childabusesurvivor #childhoodtrauma #narcissisticparents #narcissisticabuse #abusedkids #cptsdawareness #cptsdsurvivor #dissociationdisorder #dissociativeidentitydisorder #innerchildhealing #innerchildwork #corewounds https://instagr.am/p/CYItuVEuVhs/

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#Repost @dinosandcomics https://instagr.am/p/CYDF2gNsGAG/

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#Repost @childhood_trauma_recovery https://instagr.am/p/CYAHQ6SvUHF/

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#Repost @rebelwithacausecounseling ・・・ I love when I realize I’m handling a situation better than my old self would have. . . . OG POST: @selfcareisajourney . . . #personaltransformation #personalgrowth #overcominganxiety #overcomingdepression #traumahealing #traumarecovery #triggers #posttraumaticgrowth #cptsd #therapyworks #thebodykeepsthescore #selfcare #resilience #mentalhealthmatters #substanceabuse #nevergiveup #instatherapy #rebelwithacause https://instagr.am/p/CYACQxWPvgl/