Cool Asexual Things

A simple blog dedicated to promoting asexual pride, one cool thing at a time. This is a positive space for all identities on the asexual/aromantic spectrum. Ideas and suggestions are always welcome.

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Made my first Pro outfit on ACNL ^w^ The bottom of the dress is the Asexual flag and the top is just two different shades of purple. I think it turned out well and super cute! Please let me know if you use this code or at the very least like it so I can know if people like this or not. Thanks~!

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Asexual pride.

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You're not just confused. Homosexuality and asexuality are two different identities and you know which one applies to you.

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Never question the wisdom of an asexual. We don’t experience desires of the flesh, and therefore our minds are free to tap in to higher brain functions

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Religion isn’t used to argue against asexuality very often, but many people do believe that not experiencing sexual attraction goes against God’s plan. Remember: Asexuality is a sexual identity just like any other. 

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I want you to know I went to the hospital and explained asexuality to no less than six people in two days. And I learned something; it is so much easier to just say you're celibate. Also sarcasm does not help matters but it makes you feel better which is totally helping actually hospitals suck.

I'm so sorry to hear that. Even when you try to explain, you can't help other people's ignorance. You can take a horse to water and so on...but it's particularly annoying when the horse in question is a medical professional.I recently had a physical where the doctor didn't quite believe me when I said that I've never been sexually active. I got the feeling that she didn't think I was lying, but she didn't believe that it was the truth, if that makes any sense. Instead of bringing up asexuality, I just let her assume what she wanted about it. Sometimes it's easier that way.One day, we may not have to deal with any of this, so let's just keep working towards that.

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I can’t believe that so many of you awesome people stumbled across my little project and found a reason to stick around. 

Thank you so much! And thanks for all the reblogs, likes, comments, messages…because as much as I try to promote asexual pride, every post I make helps me too! To throw stuff out there and see such a positive response and to know that I’ve helped some of you is the best feeling.

I never thought this would get so big!!

You’re really the best!

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I was wondering.. I really think i'm asexual. I have no sex drive or even mild sexual attraction to guys or girls for that matter, but.. I was wondering if it could be endometriosis or a hormone imbalance causing it. I still really enjoy spending time on dates.. but sex or anything sexual doesn't do it for me. I don't even want to kiss. I'm just really confused about myself and was wondering if I could have your opinion?

Typically, I stand by the opinion that asexuality is not caused by a hormone imbalance, but when it comes to endometriosis, I just don't know much about it. So instead of potentially leading you astray, I would suggest that you seek medical advice from a professional if you believe that may be a factor in your case (If only to just get more information. You don't have to discuss your sexual identity directly if you don't want to.). I know that seeing a doctor is not always easy, emotionally or financially, but it might be the best option in a situation like yours.I wish you the best of luck and really hope you find the answers you're looking for.

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I’m laughing so hard because Artemis is a Greek goddess of, among other things, maidenhood and archery.  She is literally an aro/ace arrow ace.

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New #asexual button set at http://jaxxisbuttons.com. #ace #acepride #lgbtqia

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How can I explain to someone that I'm ace?

There are many ways and it all depends on how you want to handle it.You could wait until sexuality comes up in a conversation naturally or you could bring it up yourself. You could tell the person that you want to have a serious conversation ahead of time or you can just keep it light. Be prepared to make the situation into a teaching moment. Many people don't know what asexuality is or they might have misconceptions about it. Try to explain how you feel the best you can, using examples or by comparing how you feel to how the other person does. Hopefully, the conversation is positive but if they don't seem to be accepting (or if they flat out reject what you've told them), stand by your identity. Don't argue, just make it clear that asexual is the label you want to use. Be willing to end the conversation when you feel like it's hit a dead end. Hope this helps. Good luck!

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i found out about asexuality not long ago and finally felt understood. i never got why the whole sex-thing became so important to everyone but me. then i found your blog and reading the asks you answer help me to become more sure that i'm ace. thx :)

You're more than welcome. I know that many of us felt the same way you did so I'm glad that I could help!

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hii ! loveeee your blog, can some asexuals be bisexual as well ? for example, they either like everyone or no one at all , b/c thats what im feeling right now like i hate boys and girls equally as i love boys and girls but with no sexual desires. i dont identify myself as bi, i just think of people as people ... is there also a need to "come out" ? b/c at the end of the day all thats different about me is that i dont want to have sex w/ people .. HELP PLEASE !!

Thank you for the compliment! Onto your questions...Instead of connecting other sexual orientations to their identities (like bisexual asexual) many asexuals take their prefixes and attach them to the term -romantic to describe their romantic orientation separately. In this case, biromantic asexual might be the term that fits how you feel. And there is absolutely no need for you to tell anyone about your asexuality if you don't want to. Many people feel comfortable shouting it from the mountaintop, while others, like you, don't like to make a big deal about it. Even if related topics come up, you can explain how you feel without ever going into detail. How you identify is always up to you.

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Thank you for everything. I'm not questioning for a long time now but sometimes I do feel like the asexual community has no place for aces with a sex drive. But you get it right, you correct people (sometimes yourself) and you make me belong. Seeing someone standing up for me just makes me so happy. Thank you.

You're very welcome! I've seen some of the hate thrown towards people who identify as asexual but don't meet the strict requirements that some people apply to the identity. Though I can't change everyone's mind, I can always make sure that this a safe place for anyone who needs it.

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Hey so I'm just learning about asexuality and I was wondering if asexual people still have orgasms during sexy?

Yes, they can. Asexuality is an orientation based on sexual attraction, not an individual's physical reaction to sexual activity. Any inability to reach climax is a different issue.

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Ace and Aro August is a celeration of asexual and aromantic spectum characters in fanfiction taking place from 1st-31st August. Fanfiction is very often centred around romance and sex and it can be difficult to find characters who are asexual or aromantic, not helped by the lack of characters who are canonically so. This is an opportunity for our communities to celebrate characters like us. All identities within these spectums are welcomed here, including, but not limited to, grey, demi, akoin and quoi identities.

Anyone can take part and submissions will be welcomed from any fandom, whether they’re short pieces or multi-chaptered works. Submissions in languages other than English are welcomed. The aim is to create new fanfiction but previous works will also be accepted.

Why are aro and ace people being grouped together? They’re not the same thing.

Firstly, there is overlap within these communities. Both face similar problems in how they are viewed and treated and many people identify with both spectrums. Secondly, I don’t know how popular this will be. If it’s successful enough to run again with separate months for each community then that may well happen.

In what format will submissions be accepted?

Any of the following:

For submitted works posted on sites such as AO3 and fanfiction.net a link to those will be posted

Works posted on individual blogs will be reblogged. Please submit a link to the post and it will be reblogged from there.

Works can be directly submitted into the submit box.

Are there any rules?

Just a few:

Your work must include at least one character who is asexual, aromantic, or both.

Any work that is anti-aromantic or anti-asexual, including any identity within those spectrums, will not be accepted.

Tags or warnings should be used to indicate sexual or romantic content.

Please reblog and share this and feel free to ask any questions.

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Hi my name is Jessica and so is my best friend who came out to me as asexual recently. At the same time she's starting to explore her new-found sexuality, she's fallen in love and she's extremely confused. She's having a hard time opening up to me about her problem because its one I can't directly relate to as a sexual person. Could you possibly point me in the direction of websites, groups, and resources where she might be able to find people to talk to. I'm sorry for the safe space invasion.

You don’t ever have to apologize for coming with good intentions.

You can find an absolutely fantastic list of asexual blogs and websites with entries both on and off tumblr HERE.

A personal recommendation if she’s looking for some advice would be Asexuals Anonymous. The mods there always give great answers.

And of course, you could always point her in my direction if she wants to chat or has any questions. I’m always happy to help and we can talk privately if need be.

I hope this helps. Don’t hesitate to visit again if you need anything else.