A couples exploration into Male Chasity

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[chastechron]

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Practice makes perfect...maybe?

It's been awhile since the last blog. Things have been going well. We have purchased a new cage and I'm LOVING the fit and design SO MUCH. Sure we are still having issues with the rings but we are working around them. I've come to terms that long wear for him isn't exactly where we are right now. Too many ring issues of either too tight or slipping. At the end of the day I LOVE this man and our choice to cage isn't about pain so I can't bear to see him in pain from a ring and not from me denying him. We will get there I'm sure of it. We are still taking things slow, I know that may sound crazy to some but I feel that in our life's there is give and take, there are times I wanna lock him up and make him watch me fuck myself (or my favorite is to fuck myself on him while locked) and other times we are tired and stressed and just want a quick vanilla quickie. I am seeing that for us this lifestyle of caging is all about give and take. I'm proud that I'm still stepping out of my comfort zone and trying new things and the same can be said for him. He wants a Dom and yet that man can't take direction for shit making the play time even more fun for me! I guess life just keeps moving along and so do we.

Thank you all for the wonderful suggestions too on rings!

[chastechron]

[acagedcouple]

You know it ;)

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Try and try again....

Well after much searching and debating a new toy was bought.....we waited like kids wait for Christmas morning. We have now learned that sizing is a bitch... And maybe just maybe custom made cages are worth the money. Some are heavy and awkward while others are just plain cheap and break. Metal, plastic we've tried quite a few. For me my frustrations lie in the sizing of the ring. Maybe my man just has larger jewels then most...idk. No matter how much lube and time and adjustment makes a difference. The largest rings we have found usually come three different sizes with the cage, and is normally 2''. See my man in discomfort is just a turn off. See these are the things I want to learn and know. These are the questions I feel you can't really find answers for. And yes no two men are made equally. So for now our playtime is limited to 1-2 hour wearing sessions​ and I only hope we find more answers.

[couple-vs-male-chastity]

Try and try again....

Well after much searching and debating a new toy was bought…..we waited like kids wait for Christmas morning. We have now learned that sizing is a bitch… And maybe just maybe custom made cages are worth the money. Some are heavy and awkward while others are just plain cheap and break. Metal, plastic we’ve tried quite a few. For me my frustrations lie in the sizing of the ring. Maybe my man just has larger jewels then most…idk. No matter how much lube and time and adjustment makes no difference. The largest rings we have found usually come three different sizes with the cage, and is normally 2’’. To see my man in discomfort from his cage in general is just a turn off. See these are the things I want to learn and know. These are the questions I feel you can’t really find answers for. And yes no two men are made equally. So for now our playtime is limited to 1-2 hour wearing sessions​ and I only hope we find more answers.

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Updated Library For Kinksters

I completed some major changes to the Library For Kinksters. Here is the update…

Aftercare

Aftercare 101

Aftercare For Dominants

Coping With Emotional Subdrop

Dom Drop

How To Make A Sub Drop Kit

Online Aftercare

sub/Dom Space, sub/Dom Drop and Aftercare

Subdrop and Aftercare

Subspace and Aftercare

Consent

Consent & BDSM

Guide to Consent

Doms, Daddies & Masters

7 Fundamental Characteristics of A Daddy Dom

12 Characteristics Of An Ideal Submissive

25 Things Daddies Should Do For Their Littles

30 Rules For A Modern Gentleman

45 Things A Girl Wants, But Won’t Ask For

50 Rules for Daddies

100 Sweet Things You Can Do For Your Princess

101 Things To Do To Make Your Slave Feel Owned (loved)

Alternative Names For “Daddy”

Alternative Domme Titles

Aspects Of Control

Asserting Ownership - Rules

Daddy Up!

Defining A Daddy Dom

Dominants Need Training Also

Fun Tasks Daddies Can Give Their Littles

Help For New Doms

How (and Why) To Go Down On Your Submissive

How To Be A Good Dominant

How to Find a Submissive

Knowing when to be a Dom and when to be her Man

New to DDLG - A Daddy Dom

Observations On Doms By A Submissive

So you want to be a Dom?

So Your Girlfriend Wants You To Dominate her

Some Little Rules All Daddies Should Know

The Dom Commandments

Things for Daddies to Keep in Mind

What Being A Dom Is About - A Submissive’s Perspective

What does the title Daddy mean?

What is a Daddy Dom?

What is a Daddy Dom Mentor?

What It Means To Be A Dominant

What Makes A Good Dominant

Littles, Subs & Slaves

6 Questions Every Submissive Needs To Ask Her Potential Dominant

7 Common Types of Submissives

10 Tips For Living With A Sadist

10 Things A Dominant Needs From A Submissive

11 Red Flags Of An Abusive Dominant

26 Baby Girl Jobs

50 Things You Can Do For Your Daddy

A Bottom’s Responsibility

A Dominant’s Advice To His Submissive

A Man Who Knows You…

A Good Dom vs. A Bad Dom

Acid Test For Subs

Ask A Million And One Questions

Attraction to DD/lg: A Little’s Perspective

Baby girl or little? A brief introduction

Care and feeding of Daddies

Characteristics Of A Good Daddy

Coaxing The Daddy Dom Out Of Your Partner

Feminist Submissive

Finding Your Dominant

Good Rules For Middles and Littles To Live By

Guide For Young Newbie Sub Girls

How a Dom Behaves Shows How He Will Behave Towards You.

“How do I find Daddy?” A guide to help you safely find the Daddy you’re looking for.

How Does A Submissive Ask for Something from Their Dominant?

How To Find A Dom

How to Take Proper Care of Your Dom

I Solemnly Swear I Will Not Do This To Daddy

Novice Submissives

Physical abuse of littles - it is never OK

Signs Of A Fake ‘Dominant’

Stuff no one tells you about submission, until the spreader bar is on and you are trapped.

Submissives, Learning to Trust Your Instincts

Submissive Pride

Submissive Traits - Intelligence

Things My Dream Daddy Would Say To Me

What is a Little?

When newbie subs, with asinine “doms,” need to run away.

Why I call him Daddy

Your Rights As A Submissive

Long Distance Relationships

10 Ways To Survive A Long Distance Relationship

Getting The Most Out Of A Long Distance Relationship

How To Make Long Distance Relationships Work

Long Distance Relationships - Tools To Cope

Long Distance Relationships (LDR) Contemplation: Sticking with plans

The Long Distance D/s Relationship

Mental Health

BDSM practitioners ‘healthier and less neurotic’ than ‘vanilla’ peers

Body image & BDSM

How to Get Over Feeling Sad

Is BDSM normal?

Love your Vulva – a self-esteem guide to your sensitive bits!

Managing bipolar disorder in a D/S relationship

Meditation And Mindfulness

On Cutting

Steps For Letting Go of Painful Memories

Things to Do When You’re Anxious, Scared, or Just Need a Distraction

Tips for Recovering from Codependency

What Are Anxiety Disorders? (Infographic)

Why Do I Feel Unloveable?

Relationships

10 Habits of Happy Couples

10 Top Communication Mistakes

10 Types of Emotional Manipulators

12 Relationship Truths We Often Forget

50 Best Ways To Say “I Love You”

BDSM Breakups: All Good Things Must Come to an End

BDSM: Control Goes Both Ways

Collars and Collaring - A Personal Perspective

Communication Is Key

Concept Daddy Dom/Little Girl Relationships

Daddy Doms and their little girls

Daddy Doms, Baby Girls, Little Boys And More

Date Night In A Jar

DD/lg In Public

D/s and Domestication

Factors That Make A Relationship

Finding Love When You Least Expect It

Finding Others with Common (Adult) Interests

How To Be Present In Your Relationships

How To Build A Healthy Relationship

How To Get What You Want In A Relationship

How To Know When You’ve Found “The One”

How To Take Your Relationship To The Next Level

Importance Of Confidence In RelationshipsImportance Of Trust In A Relationship

Key Ingredients of a Happy and Healthy Relationship

Needy Girls Are Daddy Dom Bait

Relationship Advice To Follow, And What To Ignore

Searching for a D/s partner?

Self-Fulfilling Prophecies In Relationships

Stop Arguments Before They Start

The Rewards of a Submissive

Types Of Relationship Insecurity

Well-Balanced Power Exchange Relationship

What Is Real Love?

When He Doesn’t Call

Why Love Makes A Night Of Kink Even Better

Safety

Another life ruined because of the morality police

Bondage Basic Safety: Crops, Paddles & Bondage!

Kinks, Risks, How To And Why Sometimes You Shouldn’t

Limits in BDSM

What is Emotional Abuse?

Self Improvement

10 Tips for Creating a Happier Life

10 Steps To Self Care

10 Ways To Be Happy

10 Truths To Live By

Guaranteed Ways To Be More Attractive

How to be Yourself

How To Deal With Your Enemies

How To Ignore Haters

How to Recognize a Toxic Friend

How to Stop Being a People Pleaser

Slut Shaming Explained

Tips for Healing a Broken Heart

What are the Signs of a Jealous Friend?

Sex

50 Cunnilingus Tips from Women

Basics of Breath Play

D/s or Kinky Sex?

Fetishes Explained

How To Make A Girl Squirt

How To Tell Your Son About Sex

Intersection of BDSM and Queer Heterosexuality

Sensual Biting

Sex: Myths & Stereotypes

Sex: Practical Details

Sex: Pregnancy and Birth Control

So You Want To Try Anal? A Practical Guide For Women

Squirting Educational Video

Squirting Notes

Toys

Advice on Dildos and Buttplugs

BDSM on a budget

Bondage Rope: How To Choose Yours (And More)

Training

10 Considerations for Inexperienced Subs

30 Things You Can Do For Your Human Kitten

40 Very Important DD/lg Facts

Age Play: A Short Guide

BDSM for Beginners: Safe and Affordable Play

DEFINED: SSC (Safe, Sane & Consensual) & RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink)

Etiquette in BDSM Part 1

Etiquette in BDSM Part 2

Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 1 - Beginnings

Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 2 - The Dominant Mind

Glossary of BDSM Terms

Guide To Blood Play

Guide To Bruising

Guide To Talking Dirty

Guide To Wax Play

How Do I Get Started In BDSM?

How to Make a Blanket Fort/Cuddle Nest

How To Make A Comfort Box

Introduction To BDSM

Newbie’s Guide To Vaginal Fisting

Punishments in BDSM Relationships

Red Flags For Online BDSM Relationships

Some Thoughts On Rules

The Leash Has Two Ends - Responsibility

The Need For Rules and Discipline

Topping from the bottom

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First came the talk

So male chastity, how does one get into that you ask? Well I personally never thought this would ever even be thought of in my life. I mean sure, I’ve seen it in porn and I’ve heard stories but as much as I craved for a kinky sex life I must say I was living a VERY vanilla life. So here I am 30 with three kids, one ex-husband and a new boyfriend of almost two years and he tells me one night “we need to talk.” Well I of course was terrified he was leaving, but after much reassuring on his end he confided in me some of his most secret sex dreams. I was so happy to be trusted to learn a part of him he had NEVER shared with another person and yet….What WAS chastity? Did he not want to have sex with me? Was the sex we were having not enough anymore? As a woman I have to be honest here and say I was very hurt and sad and scared and yet intrigued and excited. So being the virgo control freak I dove head first into research… Just how did one wear it, how long did they wear it….What being a keyholder meant and so much more. Well after months of research and testing we as a couple decided to blog our start and our expectations and experience for ourselves to learn from and to maybe entertain and teach other from our mistakes….So here it is our blog of self Discovery into the world of male chastity