that person who you like cause of what they have, cause of how they look, or cause of "what they bring to the table". I feel like a good percentage of America, and a great percent of my generation being the 90s are in these. That is why they don't last, cause in a benefit based relationships there is no room for struggle. The harsh truth is our generation is what created these, we are scared of too much that's why. Instead of accepting pain and joy are apples that fall off the same tree, we fear pain and chase only good feeling. I can turn this argument to how good and bad is relative to the person, but to stay on topic one must understand that there are so many things wrong with chasing good vs. chasing what you want. When you're chasing good, you have to factor in is this good cause you truly, deep down desire this, or is this good because you've been drilled by society to believe so. Our generation is the first of the boxed minds. We are trapped in chains and cages and we don't know, and won't even accept that fact. That's why we are fucked, and the results are things like benefitationships. Because the concept of struggle is foreign to us in today's world. I used to blame the government, I used to blame the ill...well yeah, I used to blame everything BUT the one thing I blamed that TRULY changed me, and when I say changed I mean I started to REALIZE WHO I REALLY WAS, was realizing that it is my fault. I'm the person being conditioned, I'm the person in the benefitationship (not currently). I'm the guy that knows these people fucked my life up and seeked comfort in blaming "them". Hopefully you made it past that rant cause here comes the "real shit"...benefitationships are those relationships you just know aren't gonna last. People who end up in them are those people who when you talk about relationships they are always talking about "bringing to the table" what does this guy do for me, what does he add to me, etc. PEOPLE, PEOPLE, PEOPLE WHEN THE FUCK DID WE START USING MATERIAL LOGIC WITH PEOPLE!? How the fuck are you gonna say I wonder what he brings to the table as if he's some new type of wifi that enhances internet connection. Off course you're not gonna last with anyone with that mindset why? Well...what do you do when your PS4 can't be fixed...are you feeling me? And some people reading are like "how could you compare a person to a PS4" first of all those are the people that are more likely to get into real relationships with struggle, etc. second of all that's EXACTLY what I'm saying. How you using "Item Logic" with people? Benefitationships include: Side chicks, side dudes, with him for sex, with her cause she's a trophy, with him cause this, with her cause that...the list develops daily. Like the worst part is, benefitationships are the ones you'll usually see everywhere, Instagram captioned "with bae", Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, you usually know everything about them too "Yo I hate this fuck nigga" turns to "I love my babe" turns to "How you have no time for me, but you always with those bitches? (enter mad emoji here)" Those are them. The reason is this, if you have gold, truly genuine gold, you wouldn't just lay it on a table and walk away from it, why? Cause you're SCARED TO LOSE IT. It's part of your worth. That's why relationships, real ones...will throw a sub ONE IN A BLUE MOON if their upset at their partner, and it will only be a sub the partner understands too. Real relationships think twice before telling even their closest friends when they aren't seeing eye to eye, real relationships post maybe one or two pics a month, just as "reminders" like "yes world, we are still here and no you are not part of it" like why do you need all the attention while you're in a relationship? Cause you're probably in a benefitationship.
Those "you guys are still together" people. The ones that you don't remember are together cause they don't have 1000 selfies together, well they do but...in their phone...not on Facebook. Cause this world is not a world that enjoys when you're happy, this is a world that loves chaos. We love corruption, "why are you smiling!?" We like to test people's happiness. Oh, are you really in love? So if I flirt then you shouldn't flirt back. I'm your ex, and I smashed and I don't care about who you with I can smash you again. If I get you drunk, or I drug you...you should still be able remain faithful. If I rape you, you should fight with everything you have. That's the kinda thoughts (with the exception of the rape one) that happens when you're always available to the public. That's why relationships, real ones, are profile pictures of them with their own friends, carrying their own individual lives, with the subtle..."yeah, he/she is still with me" picture. Because, if I know something is truly real...why does everyone else have to know? Every argument doesn't mean we about to break up. And I believe in struggle, I believe it's not always a fairytale story, I don't care if he's broke I'll push him to get his act together. This matrix won't affect me, so what if my friends think he/she is ugly, I don't and that's all that matters. I remember I seen a beautiful girl one day, so I turn to my homie and go "dawg, she's gorgeous" and he goes "you bugging, she ugly as fuck" and I go "hmm". I literally attempt to see her as ugly, just so I can agree and eventually just started seeing her as ugly. Mind you she was drop dead gorgeous prior. 4 years, and a broken friendship later I see that same girl...all my prior feelings about how she looks came back, so I go and talk to her. I eventually came to find out that whole table of people whom I called "friends" at the time that called her ugly were men she rejected, and she told each one of them she thought I was cute. Something none of them told me, like I said a broken friendship. Anyway, back to relationships. The real ones you'll know the real ones, and ladies don't mistake the good guy with the best liar. A good guy is hard to find, the guy hiding in his circle of friends from the world. Those are the ones that truly want someone, but are too scared of what these 2014 bitches are about. Relationships, real ones are the humble power couples. The guys who are always together, to a point where their last instagram post was 4 weeks ago, every post is like 4 weeks apart cause they are always concerned with themselves, or their partner's life. Things like that, anyway it's late and I'm done ranting for now...watch for part 2...
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