good advice, also in the spirit of RACK i wanna add—there is no way to make absolutely sure the intoxicated person isn't too out of it to safeword, the same way there's no way to absolutely make sure someone won't die or be permanently injured through choking. this is a risk you take by engaging in intox scenes.
you can reduce the risk by doing what OP suggested, and by making sure you both are familiar with how the intoxicated person responds to the dosage of substances they plan to take (e.g., if you've only ever taken 10mg edibles, don't take 20 for the first time during an intox scene). but there is always a risk that something goes wrong. you should discuss safety plans for what you would do if this happened, for both the sub and dom.
if your immediate thought as a dom is "well, if i accidentally violated someone's consent, i'd never recover and just kill myself immediately", i would strongly suggest you not engage in this type of play. accidental consent violations happen in kink, even when everyone does everything right. so do your best to do everything right, and talk through what happens if things go wrong anyway.
also, while of course everyone get to decide the boundaries for their own play, it's generally considered best practice not to widen the scope of your play mid-scene. for example, if you explicitly agreed to no penetration during the pre-scene discussion, but the sub asks for penetration during the scene, it's best to honour the original boundaries and save that for a later scene. (the inverse, on the other hand, is fine—if you agreed to penetration beforehand, you can absolutely withdraw consent for that mid-scene.) the heightened emotion and adrenaline during a scene can impact your ability to make sound decisions, and it's easy to get carried away and agree to things outside your risk profile in the heat of the moment. especially important in an intox scene where you're literally chemically influencing your brain! remember you can always do more in the future, but you can't undo an impulsive decision.
lastly, be mindful of how many risky variables you're playing with at once. if you're doing an intox scene with someone for the first time, including other elements of CNC (like physical or verbal resistance) or combining with other risky play would multiply your risk—that's a lot of moving parts. i'd keep it as simple and safe as possible for the first time (taking impact/pain play off the table, for example) and add things in SLOWLY as you gain experience, if all goes well. i know this can feel frustrating, kink is exciting and it's tempting to try and do everything at once. but patience is a huge part of playing responsibly, and it is worth it.
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