25 year old ftm guy recently awakened to my dominant side. This side blog will focus on ftms, sometimes cis guys, and very rarely girls. If you're under 18, block me and fuck off.
About me:
I've been on T for 5 years
I'm 25, homoflexible, and I have a (cis) fiance irl. He knows abt this acc and we have a sexually open relationship.
everything here is just a kink, not reality or what i actually believe.
my submissive/main blog is here
i have adhd so sometimes i might bounce around or ramble a lot on here about random shit when I'm in the mood
Outside of kink i love video games, anime, art, cooking, being silly, and yapping
dw about offending me or being weird. I'm a little freak and its really hard to make me genuinely uncomfortable so go nuts
KINKS AND MORE BELOW
kinks: breeding, impregnation, humiliation, degradation, cnc, corruption, saying shit like 'you have a pussy so you were designed to get fucked and impregnated', unnecessarily detailed scenarios, intoxication, medical play, exhibitionism/voyeurism/nudism, overstimulation, urethral penetration (on afabs/myself), sex toys, free use, sex ed/sex tutoring, ntr, hidden sex, dirty talk, pussy spanking, and so fucking much more.
Curious: pet play, e-stim
meh: anal (receiving), age play (depends on how its done), watersports
hard limits: anal (giving), underage, scat, gore, vore, feet, injuries beyond moderate bruising and biting, drugs harder than weed
???: misgendering/detrans- i kindaaa like it being done to me, but I don't know if I really want to do it to others, so I'll be avoiding it on this blog for now.
Feel free to message me. Be aware that you can and should tell me if you're ever uncomfortable, want to change the subject/kink, or w/e else. Kink should be a fun escape from reality and not another stressful thing to worry about!!!
I've been getting a WILDLY unanticipated amount of interaction on this blog so i get a ton of messages and anons. Apologies if I don't respond- its not personal i promise, I'm just physically unable to get to everything at this point, and I'm also chronically terrible at responding to things in general lol.
Side note: I am open to irl meetups if any of you are ever in Orlando. Feel free to message me if you're curious!
lets get high and edge together (I'm thinking we're sitting on opposite sides of the couch, legs open to each other while we rub ourselves and look at porn)
I wish kinky sex ed wasn't so stigmatized even among left-leaning "sex positive" circles. Everyone's all "uwu I'm a sub I'll do anything you ask" okay mommy wants you to read The New Bottoming Book so you learn how to sub without hurting yourself since your sex ed up to this point is porn and your ex boyfriend Jared who liked to choke you incorrectly
I’m so glad you asked! Let me list off what I’ve got for you:
Books I personally recommend:
- The New Topping Book and The New Bottoming Book, by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy
If you’re having kinky sex at all, you need to read at least one of these two books. Point blank. They’ll teach you the very basics of negotiating properly (which is critical!), and help you identify what you are and aren’t into.
- Mindfucking Mindfully, by Sir Ezra
Where this book really shines isn’t actually in helping you “mindfuck” people, it’s in taking a close look at how to do so ethically. It’s a great answer to the question “how do I get someone to consent to something and still surprise and shock them with it?”
- Real Service by Raven Kaldera and Joshua Tenpenny
This is a slightly niche pick but there simply isn’t a better book on the subject. It’s written from a 24/7 M/s perspective, which is not what I do, but the book itself is an indispensable guide to giving and receiving service. The phrase “if the Master doesn’t want it, it isn’t service” will be burned into my psyche for quite some time. I love this book a lot. Maybe my favorite out of all of these.
- Enough To Make You Blush: Exploring Erotic Humiliation, by Princess Kali
This one’s high on my reading list; I’ve heard it recommended by a number of people whose opinions on these things I trust.
- Pretty Much Anything Midori Has Ever Done
Midori is a great resource for this stuff - I haven’t personally read much of her work, but she’s a well known sex educator and great at what she does. She’s known for bondage, but has a lot of range beyond that.
- This Negotiations Worksheet from Bex Talks Sex
This is what I default to using a lot of the time for negotiations. Forget BDSMtest, you don’t need that, it’s no good. Just look through this worksheet’s wordbank with your partner. Big fan especially of the “how do you want to feel?” section.
Books I can kind of recommend:
- The Ultimate Guide to Kink, edited by Tristan Taormino
This book is weird. There’s a lot of good info for experienced players, but some of what’s written here skeeves me out. I think if I had a top that thought the way some of the tops in here think, they would not be topping me for long. But there’s some good techniques and so on to pick up that I wouldn’t have otherwise. I liked the distinction one of the authors makes between being sadistic in the sense of inflicting pain and being sadistic in the sense of doing something your sub doesn’t “enjoy.”
- The Ritual of Dominance and Submission, by David English
Man, this book fucking sucks. The writing and editing are garbage, and the fear and protocol play described need way more careful negotiation than he ever lets on, let alone recommends. This is some 50 Shades bullshit. The only time I recommend this book is to tops like me who tend to be very affirming to their partners and need a guide on how to really scare them - when their partner consents and when you negotiate it, which this book sucks at teaching you. Really good content on fear, punishment, and protocol play, really terrible presentation of the topic though. Don’t read this if you don’t already know what you’re doing.
- Paradigms of Power, by Raven Kaldera
I love this book. Great book. Very focused on 24/7 M/s play though, and, being an anthology, some chapters are better than others. If you can’t read something and pick out what is and isn’t for you, don’t bother. But some really great inspiration, and generally pretty well written. Big fan of the discussion of leather throughout the book.
Hope some of these are helpful for people ^-^ for the average person reading this I recommend New Bottoming/Topping, but they’re all important parts of my library and I’ve recommended all of them to friends at some point or another.
May I also suggest Hell on Wheels and Kneeling in Spirit by Raven Kaldera, d/s companion books that address kink with a disability. They're a should read for everyone, imo. You never know when you or a partner are going to have changes in your body that affect what you can physically do. Temporary illness/injury and even just age can affect your sex life.
I'd like to suggest Better Bondage for Every Body! It goes really in depth on anatomy, pain processing, self-tying, and has chapters specifically focusing on how to do rope bondage on/for someone who is disabled or has chronic pain, which was really important to me.
I'm usually like "oh idk if I'll like topping, how will I feel physical pleasure, I don't have a dick" but i realized. I can just use a vibrator on myself. I have two hands.
So now I'm imagining having a tboy tied up (on his back, legs open) and blindfolded while I bully and toy with his pussy while rubbing my own. I'd tease him, his pussy, then finger him and slowly add more fingers. Then I'd start experimenting with different vibrators and see which one he likes the most (egg, bullet, rose toy, hitachi wand, then move on to ones that are inserted like a rabbit vibrator, g spot vibrator) to see how you react to all of them. Then I'll try different sizes and shapes of dildos (that get progressively larger and weirder). And then I'll try out dildo vibrator combinations. I will also make it my mission to make him squirt at least once (or overstimulate the FUCK out of him till he cries) and I will be edging myself the whole time. Gonna be hard not to cum when I see him, though.
shit that no one ever tells you: sex is a skill. People often seem to have this false idea that, similar to being an artist, you're somehow just innately good or bad at it. But that is definitely not true. Maybe you have some traits that make it easier (or harder!) for you to be good at it, but anyone can get good at it with enough experience and time. (And communication. A lot of it. Like, some people you will just click with and won't need to say much to be on the same page. But for other people, you might have to explain specifically in great detail each step you wanna take and why. And then maybe repeat it a few times because people can also be forgetful.)
all that to say, go grind out some sexperience with your local trans/gay/fag/homo/homie today
vibing chill hangout that we've had a million times before but somehow this time I end up slapping and fingering your wet fucking pussy while you whimper like a little bitch
how do you like to shave down there? as a trans man i want to start shaving but i don’t want to be completely bare, and was wondering if there was any way i could make it look more masculine, i guess?
Most of the time, I use an electric trimmer so its just stubble. In addition, I have a happy trail that I keep, but I trim the surrounding hair on my belly so its a semi-neat line.
Sometimes I do like to shave down there completely . But thats hard to maintain and when the little hairs start growing back, my fiance says it kinda chafes his dick lolll. So I just try to keep it trimmed.
Maybe you could look into getting an electric body trimmer, specifically one with several different sized combs.
These basically let you control how much hair youre trimming off. Want a very close cut? Don't use a comb guide or use a small one. If you still want noticable hair but not super long, use a larger comb. This lets you make it look "maintained" without sacrificing the hairy look. (tip: you can try out the different comb sizes on like, your upper thighs to see how it works and how much it cuts. Or wherever you have hair that not many people will probably see.)
If anyone else has any input, please as always feel free to comment!
ok after owning an official hitachi wand (specifically the one that has to be plugged in and has multiple vibration settinga) for a few months now my review is that it is really good, very reliable, has a lot of power, and its easier for my fiance to actually put it on my clit in a way that feels good.
That being said, the orgasms I have with it are slightly unsatisfying. The feeling just before/just as I orgasm is very intense (in a way that makes my legs tremble uncontrollably), but the rest of the orgasm isn't as deep and full-body.
I do ultimately prefer the orgasms with my bullet vibrator (a wevibe tango x). While the orgasm isn't immediately as powerful, it is DEEP, very satisfying, very full-body, and lasts for longer. Its the type of orgasm where I feel my clit and insides throbbing heavily for a good 30-60 seconds after the orgasm first hits.
I read a review before buying my hitachi from a website that rates vibrators on different factors, including how "rumbly vs buzzy" they are. I found what it said to be about the hitachi wand vs the wevibe tango x to be accurate, so I'll link it in the reblogs.
ok after owning an official hitachi wand (specifically the one that has to be plugged in and has multiple vibration settinga) for a few months now my review is that it is really good, very reliable, has a lot of power, and its easier for my fiance to actually put it on my clit in a way that feels good.
That being said, the orgasms I have with it are slightly unsatisfying. The feeling just before/just as I orgasm is very intense (in a way that makes my legs tremble uncontrollably), but the rest of the orgasm isn't as deep and full-body.
I do ultimately prefer the orgasms with my bullet vibrator (a wevibe tango x). While the orgasm isn't immediately as powerful, it is DEEP, very satisfying, very full-body, and lasts for longer. Its the type of orgasm where I feel my clit and insides throbbing heavily for a good 30-60 seconds after the orgasm first hits.
I read a review before buying my hitachi from a website that rates vibrators on different factors, including how "rumbly vs buzzy" they are. I found what it said to be about the hitachi wand vs the wevibe tango x to be accurate, so I'll link it in the reblogs.
god... your posts have had me (28 ftm) soo riled up lately. i haven't had sex in over a year and I'm getting so needy,, thinking about sounding, medical play and getting drugged up and bred...
just thinking about seeing you as a corrupt doctor and having a little medication suggested to keep me 'calm' while the appointment starts normal but escalates into spanking my pussy and slowly fucking my urethra with bigger and bigger sounds ao you can wake up the nerves', maybe show off my red, irritated holes as a case example to your staff and students working just outside...
and the situation makes less and less sense as you start to fuck my overly tight pussy open on a toy, but the medication is keeping me dazed and dripping wet even as the diagnosis moves into how I need immediate pelvic therapy for how obviously my cunt needs to be bred to keep me healthy...
so the treatment you order is to overstimulate my undersized tdick and force me to orgasm repeatedly while you get another man to fuck hard against my cervix with the hope of flooding it with cum, keeping it nice and deep until you can find another man or a big toy to repeat this again and again,
because it's almost there, just a little more, i'll feel so much better once my body's getting used like it's made to be, don't fight it, it's what i'm designed for: to cry and offer my body and holes for men to play with, to crave it and have that become the only way i can get off...
im imagining you forcing me to remember that im literally made to be messed up and shown off, and if it feels so good, it has to be the truth
you must have hacked directly into my brain because holy shit every single part of this is perfect. No notes. god damn. FUCK!!!!! I don't even know what to say on top of this. I need a 2 hour long video of this? I need to live this both as the top and the bottom? I need everything here posthaste
I'm gay as hell dude. I was at work and heard an employee talking and could tell he was middle aged by his voice. and it immediately made me think "damn, i miss older men, his voice is so hot" and he just has a pretty stereotypical, kinda deep middle aged man voice. But i need him
