As most- or all of you- know, I just recently had a breakup with my bf. When you just break up with someone most people take their distance and try to eliminate as much contact in order to eliminate the hurt. But in this case we not only work together but travel the world together in the same band. So here we were 2 weeks after breaking up boarding a flight to Mexico to not only play music but to send the message of anti-bullying. As hard as it was to see my ex every day, we managed to keep it mostly professional and avoid conversation as well as eye contact with each other. Overall the trip was a success! I got to travel to Mexico City, Cuernavaca, Acapulco, and Monterrey! Each city brought it's own uniqueness and wonderful groups of students and new fans/friends. The students were so smart and want to help us stop the bullying too. It was beautiful to see and to be a part of. As far as a personal level, it was a very tough trip to be a part of. I was feeling very hurt and bullied myself by some of the choices my ex's mutual friends with me were making. It's always tough when someone who you thought was a friend decides they want to choose sides instead of be friends with everyone and understand that sometimes things just don't work out. But alas, it's good to know who those people are so you can weed out the ones who aren't true friends. It was very hard to watch my ex stay out late every night partying and coming back the next days with stories of women and fun. It was hard to watch him flirt with other women too. I get it, it's a natural thing to do and I'm not mad about it. Regardless, it still hurts even if I pretend it doesn't. I guess though for me, it validates why we weren't right for each other in the first place. You can love someone so much with all of your heart, but still not be right for each other. And even though his future isn't with me, I wish him a happy and successful future and hope that some day we can look back and realize why we should still be friends. So this brings me to the photo of the two handsome men kissing my cheek. How did this happen??? Well it was our last day in Monterrey. We had to fly out the next day but we had the 2nd half of the day and the night to do what we wanted. Feeling relieved and free I could do what I want, I was determined to have an adventure. My original plan was to keep it simple. There was a bar that was about an hour walk from my hotel that had live music so I figured I would walk there, Listen to some music, make new friends and maybe call it an early night. But THOSE plans changed quickly when I got lost on the FIRST street I was trying to find. Luckily I didn't get too frustrated and decided to just keep walking and that maybe I would just find something along the way. And out pulled the city bus right next to me. Bus #38. I had to make a decision fast. Keep walking? Or hop on and see what happens? I OBVIOUSLY chose the ladder lol. :) maybe not the smartest decision. But it was all MY decision and it felt good to be in control. At this point it was still pretty early. Around 3pm. I remember being told not to take a cab from the street and not to stay downtown past midnight for safety precautions so I intended to follow that. Hopefully I would be able to ride the same bus number to get back! I sat in the very back in between two local guys. One guy tried to converse with me but the language barrier was too much. I remembered the Taco Bell commercial "yo quero Taco Bell!" (Sp?) so I asked in broken Spanish "I want beer and music" ' yo quero cervasa and el musica' but it didn't get me far. Ha ha. Nice try Dally! :-p So I watched us get further and further away from the hotel. Knowing now it was too late to go back. I was in this adventure whether I liked it or not. Being far enough away knowing I could no longer walk back I randomly got off the bus. Much of the streets all looked the same, like a big maze. But I found a beautiful park inside of the city and thought that might be a good landmark to remember and to check out. As I walked through the park I felt a serenity knowing I was living in the moment. I had no phone service. The only way I knew how to get back to my hotel was my room key. I had no address for it. No internet. And no way of speaking the language. I was on my own and it felt freeing. I decided to go into a few shops. Looked at local futball jerseys, looked at pretty dresses. Tried asking the same question about beer and music as I did on the bus but it seemed as though nobody knew of a place nearby. Finally amid the huge maze of the city I found a fancy hotel smack dab in the middle of it all. I figured somebody could probably speak English there and give me a direction to take my adventure. "Excuse me?" I asked the valet guy. "Abla Engles?" "I speak a little English." He said So I got directions to a bar called Nueva luna (or new moon in English). It was going to be a hike. About 7 long city blocks down until Hidalgo street and then about 4 city blocks left. At least it was back towards the direction of my hotel so I felt comfortable with that and proceeded to my route when out of nowhere a man approaches and says, "excuse me! Do you speak English?" Now this was a local man, so I wasn't expecting that. He was so excited to be speaking to me to practice his English because he planned to move to Holland for work in 2 weeks. We started chatting and walking in the same direction and it was really cool to be having a conversation with a local. Most people stared at us as we spoke to one another in English since it wasn't their native language. It was almost as if it were just us 2 and it felt kind of cool. Still trying to figure out if this guys was safe or not he caught on and offered to give me his ID to hold on to. Not that that would make him any safer cause if he was going to kill or kidnap me he could easily get it back, so I opted out of taking his license. We finally got to Hidalgo street and I was supposed to go left but he was going right to meet a friend. He asked if I wanted to join him. "Why not?!" So we went right. It was really really hot and I was sweating my balls off so he offered to buy me some water which was really nice. We walked and walked and walked to what seemed like forever. And then we finally got to his friends work. He worked for a car repair shop. As we were walking there though, we had to pass down a side street and there was a mysterious building that had security cameras all over it. My new friend, we'll call him Miguel for anonymity purposes, said that the building was for rich lawyers who represented some major drug lords. Say whaaaat??!! First off, how would he know this? And Second, I'm about to star in the new blockbuster "Taken 3!" Miguel was a really nice guy, but his friend, Who we'll call Jose was hot. He was unfortunately married but seemed really cool none the less. So me and Miguel sat outside his work and shot the breeze for a couple of hours while we waited for Jose to get off work. I was starting to feel more comfortable and confident at this point that if I were to be abducted it would have happened by now! So I hopped in the back seat of Jose's car and the three of us took off on an adventure! During the 2 hrs of conversation I had mentioned to Miguel how I'd just gotten out of this relationship and how tough it was to see my ex everyday on this trip stay out all night and talk about girls he had met. So somewhere along the way we all decided it would be a good idea to get some pictures with hunky men. Lol. Jose had a cousin who was a model and actor and really fit who we'll call Alejandro. We called up Alejandro and he was totally down to take some photos so off to his place we went! When I showed up I didn't realize he was going to look American. He was a Mexican white guy. Go figure. And yes, he was very hunky yet very approachable. I was thinking to myself "allllriiiight!" And I couldn't thank Miguel enough. He was my Angel! The 3 of us proceeded to a near by park and we took romantic photos. And during the photo sesh there was definitely some real chemistry going on. And it was Alejandro's idea to kiss my cheek. So he laid one on me and of course they couldn't get the picture to take for a minute so there he was resting his sexy lips on my cheek. I was not even mad! ;) Then without asking, his cousin Jose planted one on the other cheek. This was awesome! More fun than anything. To think I had just met this guy randomly on the street and now I was prancing around at a park taking pictures with sexy men. That's MY kind of adventure! Turns out it wasn't so randomly that I met the guy after all. Miguel admitted to me that he saw me on the street while on the city bus and actually went to seek me out and got off the bus! But it was still random to me! :) maybe a little creepy on his part, but hey, it worked out so I wasn't gonna judge! Alejandro had to leave to go to the gym (of course) so he could get in shape for a role he had just gotten in a movie. So yes, I met a Mexican movie star! Lol but Alejandro wanted to hang later. Said we could get dressed up and he'd wear a tux and we could either go out or chill at his fancy apartment. I was definitely excited to see him later. There was just something about him! :) So off the 3 of us went again. They drove me up to the top of the hill by the waterfall to overlook the city and see a nice view. It was hard to get a decent shot though cause we were driving . When we came back down the hill we stopped in to a vegan restaurant called Peace and Love (very fitting) and I got a salad and we all split desert. It was yummy! Now, we made plans to go out! Jose was going to drop me off at my hotel so I could freshen up and get ready. He was going to drop Miguel off to do the same at his place. And he was going to go pick up his wife who would also go to get ready. The plan was to meet in a couple of hours and we would meet up with Alejandro again (that was the part I was REALLY excited for). So now it's about 8:30pm and I'm back at my hotel. I put on this fancy dress I had bought yesterday at the mall which I didn't think I'd get a chance to wear on this trip, but I was pleasantly surprised I would! I was having so much fun! And I WASNT sad for the first time in a long time. I was living again and it felt good! I couldn't contain my excitement! I got my fancy dress on. Re-did my hair and makeup and felt empowered! That's when I took this shameless selfie! THIS was going to be a night for ME and nobody else. Sometimes it feels good to spoil yourself. I was supposed to be picked up around 10:30 in the lobby by my new friends to go out but at about 10pm I got a phone call in my room from Miguel. He asked, "hey if we go out with my friends tonight, are you going to leave when I'm ready to leave if I'm uncomfortable or are you going to stay and party with them? Because Alejandro likes you." I could just hear the sadness in his voice and it broke my heart. But at the same time it got me really excited that Alejandro felt that connection too and I really wanted to explore that! I didn't want to hurt Miguel's feelings because it was starting to become more obvious that he was feeling territorial of me even though I'd literally JUST met him that day! What the junk!? But at the same time I didn't want to lie to him either. So I told him that if I personally felt uncomfortable I would leave but if not, I would probably stay. But let's not focus on any of that and let's just all try to hang out tonight TOGETHER! And really, I meant that! But I got a message from him minutes later that the night was cancelled. And I just KNEW it had to be for personal reasons of HIS and not the other guys. What a buzzkill! I thought for sure I was going to get to know this sexy Alejandro I had met earlier but I had no way of contacting him or his friend Jose because I only had Miguel's contact at this point. What was I to do??? Determined to see Alejandro at some point in the night I had to think fast. Miguel still wanted to come by to hang out at my hotel so I said sure. But at this point, I'm thinking Miguel might think I want to hook up with him so I wanted to make sure I stayed at the hotel and stayed in the bar/lobby area (not my room). I figured when Jose dropped him off at my hotel I could ask him what really happened. I asked Fran (a band member) if she would be my wing man and distract Miguel while I asked Jose for the truth but when Miguel showed up he was solo! He had Jose drop him at the corner so I never had a chance! That dog! At this point I'm feeling pretty frustrated with Miguel. He's being very negative about his friends and his whole demeanor has changed into a super jealous bf which is exactly the opposite of what I needed! Finally I was able to speak to Jose on the phone through Miguel's phone while Fran kept him company and Jose said he would call his cousin Alejandro to see if he still wanted to hang with me. Miguel got upset and said, "just be honest with me! Do you want Alejandro to come over?! He'll just want to hang out alone." At this point I was so frustrated with Miguel I decided to just say what I wanted, but still trying to be as nice as possible. So I said, "yes, that would be nice if he came by." So Miguel got his panties in a bunch and said, "well I'm leaving. He'll be here shortly and will find you in the lobby." And I hugged him goodbye and said thank you for everything and it was really nice to meet him. But he was upset and left quickly. I felt bad for him, but it was his own fault for acting so territorial and if he didn't want me to meet his friends he probably shouldn't have introduced them to me. In the 2 hours we were chatting waiting for Jose to get off work he had asked if I was attracted to him and I was very honest so I don't understand why he was so upset. I never led him on in any way. But I had to just let it go and not worry about it anymore. I was now super excited to see Alejandro. Mission accomplished! It was now around 11pm or so and I was chilling in the hotel bar by myself waiting for Alejandro. The bar was pretty empty so I was going to just wait in the lobby but as I was walking out I saw these 3 guys that just had friendly faces and they were speaking English! Sweet! The 3 guys were there on business. All worked for the same company. 2 lived in New York and the other philly. The guy from Philly was the boss. All 3 guys attractive in their own unique way! So feeling ballsy I sat down and told them the whole story and how this hunky guy I didn't even know was about to meet me. Lol. They bought me my first drink of the night, now being almost midnight! I was really enjoying our conversations so I had kind of stopped caring if Alejandro showed up or not, cause I felt safe with these 3 guys for some reason. Guy number 1 we'll call James. He had a little cushion on him but was really outgoing and almost had a little silver in his hair which I found very sexy. He was confident. I liked that. Turns out it was his birthday (31st I believe) which was why they were all up so late cause they had a 7am meeting the next morning! Guy number 2 we'll call Harold. He was originally from Pakistan but grew up mostly in New York. We had an instant connection cause I was able to share my amazing stories of Pakistan with him which was cool. He was 24 but had a maturity to him. He was super sweet and really cute. Guy number 3 we'll call Graham. He was also 31. The boss. The one from Philly. He seemed cool and collected the whole time. Trying not to show his cards. But there was something sexy about that! From the left, Harold James and Graham Okay! 3 cool dudes, over one Alejandro! I'll take the cards that were dealt! :) We ended up chatting and teasing each other and just having a really good time shooting the breeze. My night couldn't be going any better. The hotel bar was closed at this point but the awesome guy that worked there (can't remember his name for the life of me) let us stay and hooked us up with one last drink! So cool! I'm a light weight so a drink and a half was plenty for me to be feeling buzzed. Finally at about 2 or 3am we decide to move the party to Graham's room. They bust out more booze (which I only had a couple little sips of) and the country music! We had a mini dance party. James was so drunk that he passed out on the bed with my purse around his waste lol. James left the room for the night. And then a minute later he knocked on the door and was back! Ha ha. Then somebody had the brilliant idea to go swimming. It's now about 4am and we all go and get our suits on and hop in the warm pool. All the lights are off and we're swimming around like a bunch of kids having so much fun! We probably stayed in the pool until about 5am and it was the best night ever! I had to be up the next day by 7am to pack and leave but I was on it! Slept most of the day on the plane and got to look at my hat I had them sign and draw on that night to keep the memories. We finally made it to the airport the next day and my ex and his best friend fell asleep in the airport somewhere and we couldn't find them so they missed the flight out of Mexico. They apparently made the next flight which was good, but it was nice cause I was able to be solo and spread out with the empty seats and make a bed on the plane. When I got home last night I saw a message on my fan page from Jose that I had missed. He asked what room I was in so Alejandro could come get me. Apparently he wasn't a no show. They tried to reach me but thought I was sleeping. Bummer. But at the same time my night probably couldn't have been any better! So as tough personally as this trip to Mexico was, I couldn't have had a better time to end it which made it all worth it! :) Thank you to all of my new friends around the world! Next up: tomorrow night I'm getting auctioned off for a date to raise money for Tennessee Breast Cancer Coalition at a LIVE auction. Eeep! Watch out for my next blog to hear all about it! :)
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