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I am from Trinidad and Tobago, I’m into women, and I’m over 35 years old!!!

Keep reading for Backstory, because there's always a backstory.

So, story time, I've been single since early this year and have been trying to ease my way back into the dating world. Now, if you know anything about my country (run a quick google, love, I’ll wait) we’re a tiny country, which makes finding someone here very difficult; so we rely on the apps!

My first tango was with Tinder (of course) where I did happen to meet a lovely woman (a few crazies down the road) but with whom there was no chemistry whatsoever, so that remained a platonic friendship. Then there was (is, cuz I’m still into her) the sister of an old college colleague who I happened to randomly be introduced to at a social event. Micro-stalked her socials and asked around in a few groups and deduced that she might be bi. Chatted her up, there was mutual flirting, regular messaging, then bam, she pulls away completely when I ask her out. Our messages dwindle down to barely anything and she stops responding in any way to any personal posts I make. So I step away and pop back in to tinder where, a few crazies later again, I meet someone who seems like I could jive with. Long story short, I was wrong. By now I’m quite frustrated, so I download a bunch of lgbtqia+ dating apps and joined a few chat groups as well. The first one I went into had an entry condition where you had to introduce yourself with some information. So I type in my ASP (Age, sexuality, pronouns because ASL is so 2001 ICQ ....ps if you don't know what ICQ is then you’re too young to be here) and the immediate response from some tween was “OMG you’re old enough to be my mom!” The nerve of that little shit. So I exited that one and checked another, same thing. I try one for 25+, most of them were under 30. So I was like you know what, fuck these new age apps, what’s the old school way lesbians found each other before the tinders and the bumbles of today’s generation? The way we’ve all met women before? TUMBLR!! So here I am. And if you’re in the same boat as me, share and add a thread with your ASP. And of course, if you’re interested, slide into my DMs.

39 | Lesbian | She/Her

#lesbian #single #trinidad and tobago #trinidadandtobago #trinidad #trinidadian #wlw #over35

The young writer tucked herself into bed that night with a heaviness in her heart. Her companion had once more left her bereft of the soothing sleepy voice she had gotten used to hearing before bed. This was becoming a habit. Every night she would wait for her saathi who would feed her empty promises daily of their nightly ritual being safe and intact, only to have her hopes dashed by unread messages and calls left unanswered. Enough was enough. Her companion would have to fix this. Tonight. Today. Now.

#pjt #i’m sorry #forgive me?#Mayonics

BAS!! Bahut ho gaya!

Waaaaw. Just…waaaaw.

Lyric video of Move Along by The All American Rejects.Song and lyrics belong to their respectful owners, video made by me.

#Youtube

I cringe whenever my coworker offers to type anything up. Cuz I know it would be so much easier for me to set the formatting and type it up myself than manually reformat hers. She proudly proclaims all the time that she’s not tech savvy. As if that’s an achievement. It’s 2022. Watch a YouTube video for crying out loud.

#embracing my anger

Pet peeve. People who would hit enter a thousand times to get to the next page instead of being civilized enough to use a fucking page break. Also people who use the space bar a thousand times to try to “centre” a line or get to the right side of the page. THERE ARE TOOLS TO DO THIS! Omfg

blessedbetheblaine-deactivated2

I love her too. She reminds me of friends of mine. I just love this show.

Mindy Kaling THANK YOU for a lighthearted show that provides a much needed reprieve from current reality. I can't wait for season 2.

darkandtwisty83

100% winnnnnnn

rylandsgrace

Andrew???

hunterschafer

THE SEX LIVES OF COLLEGE GIRLS

1.01 - Welcome to Essex 1.10 - The Truth

darkandtwisty83

Sooooo ready for season 2 of this!!!!

snackwizard

a fools guide to not wanting to die anymore

by me, a fool who doesnt wanna die anymore

never make a suicide joke again. yes this includes “i wanna die” as a figure of speech. swear off of it. actually make an effort to change how you think about things.

find something to compliment someone for at least 4 times a day. notice the little things about the world that make you happy, and use that to make other people happy.

talk to people. initiate conversation as often as you possibly can. keep your mind busy and you wont have to worry anymore

picture the bad intrusive thoughts in youe head as an edgy 13 year old and tell them to go be emo somewhere else

if someone makes you feel bad most of the time, stop talking to them. making yourself hang out with people who drain you is self harm. stop it.

wildlyannoyingdoofus

… 8|

That’s some pretty good advice. I don’t know what’s left of my humor after ‘guess I’ll just die’ jokes but it’s worth a shot.

snackwizard

Personally i went from “guess I’ll die” jokes to “IF I HAVE TO BE HERE FOR 5 MORE MINUTES I PROMISE YOU I WILL BUY JUST, AN ARRAY OF CLOTHES.” and other wild hyperbolic stuff. Just replace the death part with something ridiculous and off topic. Its very entertaining

808lien

This also works with calling myself things like stupid, worthless, trash, etc. Even if you do this jokingly to yourself, your brain still believes it, and keeps up the cycle. Seriously, I found that when I stopped saying these things about myself, even jokingly, it made a massive difference.

maramahan

Here’s a tip I picked up from a friend that’s helped me a lot — replace self deprecating jokes with ironically self aggrandizing jokes

Like every time I trip and fall, instead of saying “l’m just a disaster human” I say “I’m the epitome of grace and beauty”

Or like, when I draw a picture I’m not 100% happy with, instead of saying “my art is trash” I say something like “you know I think it’s time we replaced the Mona Lisa”

When you do that you get to make a joke, but you’re ALSO getting practice building yourself up, y’know?

And eventually it becomes a reflex and you get so used to it that you can say nice stuff about yourself even when you AREN’T joking

jkl-fff

scottjate

This is so important

graylinesspam

That self-aggrandizing technique is no joke.

I replaced “I’m stupid” with “I’m a God damn genius.” “Move over newton” “another masterpiece”

I replaced “gross/ disgusting” with “sexy/attractive” “the hight of elegance”

I replaced “I suck/ that sucked/ this is bad” with “fantastic”, “a lovely time”, “ swell/jolly good”

Replace every negative with a positive. Say it so sarcastically. Make it complicated make it entertaining have fun with it.

It will stop your self deprecating and build confidence. And people are more easygoing around you.

feralphoenix

#a good stopgap is being neutral rather than negative/positive #when i drop smth at work i just say #ah… gravity. #and move on (tags by @whatever-you-can-give-me )

^^^ to those of you who complain that it feels weird or uncomfortable or not genuine to immediately switch to self-aggrandizement, try this instead!!! nobody on this post is kidding that it helps - you’re basically building a manual override for the mental pathways your brain is used to so you can switch those train tracks