For those of you familiar with the ~Languages of Love~ mine and my fianceeâs are words of affection and physical touch. We work very well together. My fianceeâs parentsâ only language of love is gifts. Expensive gifts.Â
My fiancee naturally knows that these gifts are meant to translate into affection, and appreciates them properly. I, however, have trouble with this. I donât need the gift. I donât want the gift. I in no way shape or form ever indicated that I did. And now I have to profusely thank them for this expensive object I could never afford that is now sitting in my house taking up space. Itâs like they want to âfillâ our apartment and I donât want that at all.Â
My mother had a small hoarding problem, so I grew up in a fun, loving, but always messy and cluttered house and I donât want to live like that. It took me years to get rid of all the crap Iâd collected as a kid because I was never taught to get rid of anything. No, a washing machine or a panini press are not going to turn our sparse apartment into a hoarderâs nest, I understand that she is trying to be generous and I thank her for it but I wish sheâd find another way to express it because it doesnât translate well with me. Am I being too selfish?
Sooooo you donât actually like it if I want to send you expensive chocolate?
Whoa there pal, letâs not jump to conclusions here
Good. I finally got a job so expect some in the near future.







