WHY I DON'T FELL BAD ABOUT MISSING YOUR WEDDING.
Without regrets. Simple, cause your wedding is not the most important day of your life. Of course, this way easy for me to say. I'm not in the throes of wedding planning, or in a relationship that might result in " till death do us part." I have no interest in expensive dress I'll only wear once. I'm banking on being able to get my future husband to agree to elope somewhere without any of that wedding hoopla. But even if I were one of those women who dream about the dress and the big ring and their "big day"," I'd still stand by those words sometimes. And it felt so good to graciously decline. There will be so many other more important, less overhyped days that you'll really need your friends to show up for. Like when the honeymoon phase is over and your friend struggling to see eye to eye with their partner on real problems like your finances and need someone to vent to. when your parent's health starts to decline and you want a shoulder to cry on. Or when you become a first-time parent, and just need a friend to come by and do baby sitting for a few hours so that you can get so much-needed sleep. Why do I have to be there on the most overrated, expensive day of your life in order to be considered a good friend? Wouldn't you rather have me there for the hard stuff? The truly important things? Do I really need to throw a hundreds of dollars at a gift to prove how valuable our friendship is? I rather saved the money and left my long weekend free to spend as I pleased - instead of marching around in matching shirts and sticking to a strict those wedding weekend itinerary. I don't understand all the wedding stuff. But for some reason, it's really important to most people. There are a few select women in my life that I'll do all of this for, because if it's important to them, I will find a way to make it important to me too.
