How did I get here?

Confused creature lives outside of human time contraints 

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[honorpilled]

He’s right

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[deliciouslymagicalface]

Our new adopted plant children. Abandoned when some neighbors moved out in a hurry. So we rescued it! It obviously liked its previous home at some point cos it's got some little baby aloe in there too. It looked very sad. 🌿 Gonna re-pot mummy/ daddy aloe. 🌿Then I'm gonna name them!!! https://www.instagram.com/p/CEWm92Nlz_K/?igshid=fs5sul2mnuay

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requested by madammothra

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[sashacoki]

[bamonnineties]

Thread of cool workouts to be in shape and have fun during quarantine.

First DANCE WORKOUTS.

THEN BODYCOMBAT

CHLOE TING PROGRAMS

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2MoGxae-zyo&t=67s

[deliciouslymagicalface]

Getting a little stiff. Gonna try some of these and hopefully get myself a little more functional

[sashacoki]

[softwaring]

https://www.instagram.com/p/BmdoKm1gKc7

[bunjywunjy]

your horses are very majestic

[layingdownsomebatfeets-deactiva]

Guinea pigs being given strips of carrot than dramatically running off in slo mo…is a good aesthetique.

[abandoned-as-mustard]

How the last one reared before galloping off tho

[theliftingyogi-deactivated20210]

I would die for them, full stop

[thesesummersonspoet]

Do NOT Support ‘Adam’ When The Film Comes Out

I’ve talked about this before on this blog but this is the most disgustingly transphobic and lesbophobic narrative I’ve ever come across. 

CWs: transphobia, homophobia, lesbophobia, corrective rape, voyeurism

The book Adam by Ariel Schrag is being turned into a movie which has been named as one of the most exciting LGBTQ films of the year. You should know before watching that the book is about a cis boy who pretends to be a trans man in order to persuade lesbians to sleep with him.

Yeah… you read that right.

Book plot summary: 

boy spies on his lesbian sister having sex

boy decides to pretend to be a trans man (gross)

i.e. pretends to have a vagina because he thinks lesbians will want him then (he literally wants to fuck lesbians because he watched his lesbian sister have sex wtf)

he does get a lesbian to sleep with him, he straps his penis down using ace bandages and uses a strap on.

all the actual trans dudes we meet identify as lesbians this basically implies that trans men are not real men (lesbians i.e. women)  

another time they have sex again only he uses his actual penis but tells her its a strap on. that’s literally rape, she didn’t consent to an actual penis.

he confesses that he’s been lying to her this whole time but she doesn’t break up with him. she even says its okay cause she fantasised about him being “a real boy"

that’s a direct quote. massive transphobia. huge. not to mention this is now the “lesbian is cured by dick trope” which is disgusting and that trope leads to real lesbians and bi women being raped to “fix” them. 

he leaves new york, they’re long distance. they get in an argument and he calls her a slut and a whore among other things and then she dumps him

eventually they get back in touch and she has a new cis boyfriend so yep, she’s been “cured” woo she’s actually straight and he helped her realise that yay (massive sarcasm)

It is deeply deeply transphobic. To imply that our identities are just costumes for other people to put on erases who we are as people. More than that, to imply it is done to trick people into sex is a dangerous lie that literally gets us killed.

It is also deeply lesbophobic. To fuel this narrative that lesbians can be “fixed” by having sex with a man leads to real corrective rapes happening. 

Here is a review of the book by a trans man. I have yet to find one by a lesbian but will edit this if I do.

This book gives out incredibly harmful notions about trans men and lesbians that are used to hurt them in real life. It’s so entrenched in the narrative that I don’t see how the film can possibly be any better.

I do not say any of this lightly. it’s very very rare for me to call out a piece of fiction or for me to decide that a story is unfixable. But this… there’s no excuse for the bigotry in this. 

I’d like to tell people to boycott it but I can’t tell you what to do. So instead I’m going to ask that you share this because it being named as an exciting new LGBTQ film is going to make LGBTQ teens want to see it. And they should know beforehand how hurtful it could be. They should be able to arm themselves with that knowledge.

Don’t make queer kids see this film believing it will represent them only to be exposed to this hatred of their identities. 

Please reblog.

[deliciouslymagicalface]

You could you just buy it for yourself cos you just love puns so much

[bnmxfld]

“And so it seems that I must always write you letters that I can never send.”

— Sylvia Plath

[deliciouslymagicalface]

Got a whole notebook

[budgetrealgood-deactivated20210]

“Self-care is often a very unbeautiful thing.

It is making a spreadsheet of your debt and enforcing a morning routine and cooking yourself healthy meals and no longer just running from your problems and calling the distraction a solution.

It is often doing the ugliest thing that you have to do, like sweat through another workout or tell a toxic friend you don’t want to see them anymore or get a second job so you can have a savings account or figure out a way to accept yourself so that you’re not constantly exhausted from trying to be everything, all the time and then needing to take deliberate, mandated breaks from living to do basic things like drop some oil into a bath and read Marie Claire and turn your phone off for the day.

A world in which self-care has to be such a trendy topic is a world that is sick. Self-care should not be something we resort to because we are so absolutely exhausted that we need some reprieve from our own relentless internal pressure.

True self-care is not salt baths and chocolate cake, it is making the choice to build a life you don’t need to regularly escape from.

And that often takes doing the thing you least want to do.

It often means looking your failures and disappointments square in the eye and re-strategizing. It is not satiating your immediate desires. It is letting go. It is choosing new. It is disappointing some people. It is making sacrifices for others. It is living a way that other people won’t, so maybe you can live in a way that other people can’t.

It is letting yourself be normal. Regular. Unexceptional. It is sometimes having a dirty kitchen and deciding your ultimate goal in life isn’t going to be having abs and keeping up with your fake friends. It is deciding how much of your anxiety comes from not actualizing your latent potential, and how much comes from the way you were being trained to think before you even knew what was happening.

If you find yourself having to regularly indulge in consumer self-care, it’s because you are disconnected from actual self-care, which has very little to do with “treating yourself” and a whole lot do with parenting yourself and making choices for your long-term wellness.

It is no longer using your hectic and unreasonable life as justification for self-sabotage in the form of liquor and procrastination. It is learning how to stop trying to “fix yourself” and start trying to take care of yourself… and maybe finding that taking care lovingly attends to a lot of the problems you were trying to fix in the first place.

It means being the hero of your life, not the victim. It means rewiring what you have until your everyday life isn’t something you need therapy to recover from. It is no longer choosing a life that looks good over a life that feels good. It is giving the hell up on some goals so you can care about others. It is being honest even if that means you aren’t universally liked. It is meeting your own needs so you aren’t anxious and dependent on other people.

It is becoming the person you know you want and are meant to be. Someone who knows that salt baths and chocolate cake are ways to enjoy life – not escape from it.”

-Brianna Wiest, in Thought Catalog

[arctic-hands]

So I saw a post last night that terrified me but then my app crashed before I could reblog it.

Smart appliances are completely, 100% reliant on wifi? Like if there's an outage or you couldn't pay your internet bill in time and your wifi isn't working, your stove/fridge/door locks etc are rendered completely and totally unusable? The oven doesn't revert back to a basic oven/stove that you just have to operate manually? It's competely inoperable? Is that what you're telling me because that's fucking terrifying. So you're either completely locked in or out of your home if wifi goes down? Who the fuck signs up for this shit?

[thecringeandwincefactory-deacti]

I've read soooo many articles by people in the security industry who are like ALL of my locks at home are manual, always will be. They completely reject this 5G bullshit.

Also, Jesus, if Amazon is cooperating w the police vis-a-vis the doorbell camera bullshit, imagine how they'll cooperate with the police in 20 years by turning off your access to water because you getting shook down to for a donation to a local police charity.

[dirtydirtychai]

P l e a s e stop with the internet of things. Your fridge doesn’t need to be connected to WiFi. Stop inviting unnecessary tools of surveillance into your home.

[systlin]

Listen, I am a Professional Security Person.

And if anyone even mentions any of this smart home bullshit near me I hiss like an offended cat.

A good old fashioned manual lock and deadbolt is the way to go, and I don’t trust my fridge to be talking to my doctor or my washing machine to have internet access, because I promise you that shit will go sideways immediately.

You know who can compromise your wifi enabled baby monitor or security cameras and watch the camera feed of your house? Literally anybody with 10 spare minutes and some freeware.

[nomadicism]

Imagine the possibilities of a hacking a WiFi-enabled gas-powered tankless water heater and telling it to open the valve without igniting the pilot light. This is how the revolution begins.

[afishtrap]

As someone who works in cloud technologies, it’s not the connection to the cloud that gives me nightmares. It’s the storage on the cloud. 

Your rhoomba is a neat and efficient little machine because it stores all of its programmed paths on the cloud: every room it’s been in, the location of every piece of furniture, and most importantly, the hours it’s put to work. Enough data, and we have most (if not all) of your floorplan, the location of every major and minor piece of furniture, the occupants of your household, and a pretty good idea of your household’s usual routines. 

Your cloud-connected thermostat tells us when you’re home, when you wake up and go to sleep, when you’re gone each day, and when you’re away for vacation. If that thermostat also has occupant-sensitivity (ie, turns itself down when no movement is detected), that’s a wonderful datapoint for tracking your routine. And if the thermostat ‘learns’ your patterns enough to make suggestions, that’s because it’s stored everything in the cloud -- along with a million other peoples’ data -- to statistically infer your behavior.  

Your fridge can suggest recipes for the food you’ve stored, which means it’s sending a query into the cloud with the contents of your current fridge. If it’s predictive -- such as, telling you what you normally eat and suggesting a grocery list to resupply -- that means it’s also tracking what you eat, how often, how fast, and when you do most of your shopping. 

With your address, I can get publicly-available data on how much you paid for the house, its age, and its rough square footage. With the rhoomba, I can guess you go out and do things on your days off, that you have at least two animals, that you have a child of walking age, an eat-in kitchen and a formal dining room, hardwood floors, and at least three rugs of high enough quality that you’ve programmed the rhoomba to avoid munching on the rugs’ tassels. The thermostat tells me you’re early to bed and early to rise, that you keep the house relatively cold during hot summers and that your HVAC sometimes struggles to keep up. Your fridge tells me how much you spend, your entertainment patterns, and a fairly good idea of your tastes. 

I now know when, where, what, and how to hit you with advertisements for holiday entertaining, high-end furniture, home remodeling, appliance replacement -- and a fairly well-educated guess on your budget for each. There’s a billion other things I could see, deduce, and use from your collected data. Not every use would be as innocuous as advertisements, either. 

And yes, your collected data is available for purchase by corporations beyond the one who made a single appliance. Anyone who tells you otherwise is trying to sell you something.

Remember, Target was able to use its customer data to set up a predictive system that identified pregnant women before the women were even aware themselves --- and that was just sales data. Imagine what Target, and all its corporate brethren, can learn about you now that you’ve basically put your entire private life on the cloud, right there for the taking. 

[deliciouslymagicalface]

My dad is ill again. Back to the hospital every day for IV's of antibiotics. If the infection on his leg doesn't improve the infection will: A) have to amputate his leg or B) the infection will enter his blood stream and become fatal..... Last week I was depression sleeping so much I was lucky enough to make it to one meal a day and planning my own suicide to minimise my loved ones finding my body and talking myself out of it. Forcing myself to brake down how I feel in my recovery journal, sobbing into a chamomile tea, telling myself, between deep, sobbing breaths 'its okay.' 'I'm okay!' ' This is temporary.' 'Just need to ride it out' repeatedly saying till I could calm a little. Now I'm telling my dad to not go back to work, I'll find a job, so he doesn't worry about money and he recovers fully. I've been applying for jobs but closest thing I've recently had was fusing fireworks and that was barely a week's worth of wages. It's not enough to pay the rent, or bills or food. :( I just can't stand seeing people suffer especially my loved ones. I find it so painfully. More than anything I want to make it right. I'm not a doctor. If I was, I probably would have my own place I stead of living with family. Why can I pull myself together for others but not for myself? JUST!.......

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CHOMP