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Gender Detransition: a path towards self-acceptance (free pdf) available in english, german, french, dutch, spanish & swedish

thinking about detransition? you are not alone

[detransition]

Gender Detransition: a path towards self-acceptance (free pdf) available in english, german, french, dutch, spanish & swedish

thinking about detransition? you are not alone

[detransition]

Gender Detransition: a path towards self-acceptance (free pdf) available in english, german, french, dutch, spanish & swedish

thinking about detransition? you are not alone

[detransition]

Gender Detransition: a path towards self-acceptance (free pdf) available in english, german, french, dutch, spanish & swedish

thinking about detransition? you are not alone

[detransition]

Gender Detransition: a path towards self-acceptance (free pdf) available in english, german, french, dutch, spanish & swedish

thinking about detransition? you are not alone

[detransition]

Gender Detransition: a path towards self-acceptance (free pdf) available in english, german, french, dutch, spanish & swedish

thinking about detransition? you are not alone

[detransition]

Gender Detransition: a path towards self-acceptance (free pdf) available in english, german, french, dutch, spanish & swedish

thinking about detransition? you are not alone

[detransition]

Gender Detransition: a path towards self-acceptance (free pdf) available in english, german, french, dutch, spanish & swedish

thinking about detransition? you are not alone

[detransition]

Gender Detransition: a path towards self-acceptance (free pdf) available in english, german, french, dutch, spanish & swedish

thinking about detransition? you are not alone

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from C. Callahan (deleted) | thinking of detransition? you are not alone

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Gender Detransition: a path towards self-acceptance (free pdf) available in english, german, french, dutch, spanish & swedish

thinking about detransition? you are not alone

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from hotflanks

Thoughts on living with authenticity and striving to truly know oneself. I am speaking only of my own experiences in the hopes that it will resonate with someon who needs to hear this; I am not speaking out against anyone else's personal decisions. We all do what we have to do to get by, and it's all love. If you want to talk, let's have a convo in the comments to be open and truly authentic to the world.

thinking of detransition? you are not alone

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if you are a detrans fetish poster, please read this:

it is of vital importance that you turn on mature content for their posts so that users will have even a small option to turn off the flood of fetish content when looking for actual info. you can flag it as NSFW under settings.

also, your posts will be reported less/your blogs deleted less if you do this, as people who don’t want to see them won’t be exposed to them.

if you do not to do this after seeing this post, you are now choosing to actively involve people in your fetish who do not want to be involved, and in fact some of the people who are at the most risk of being disturbed and harmed by being exposed to it.

please take responsibility for your actions.

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an excerpt | read the full thread by eliza mondegreen

Let’s be clear about this: *No* healthy, open, supportive community seeks to terrify and control its members like this on such flimsy pretexts. These are the marks of a manipulative group exercising destructive influence over its most vulnerable members.

A healthy, open, supportive trans community would not look or sound like the trans community we’ve got. It would be honest about the risks trans people face, rather than wildly inflating those risks to instill fear.

It would foster resilience and self-sufficiency in gender-questioning youth, rather than telling kids that anyone who disagrees with their worldview hates them or that exposure to misgendering or dead-naming can lead to suicide.

A healthy, open trans community would accept that transition doesn’t work for everybody and that there are legitimate reasons to detransition and exit the community.

A healthy, open, supportive trans community would invite ethical research into transition outcomes and alternatives—rather than trying to shut down inquiry—because trans-identifying people deserve the best care available, not just the most ideologically-compliant ‘care.’

And a healthy, open, supportive trans community would encourage young people to explore their questions and doubts openly—recognizing transition as a serious undertaking—without fear of censure or expulsion from the group.

These toxic dynamics aren’t contained within the community either, spilling out into the public sphere whenever any issue that touches gender identity is discussed.

You deserve better than this. You are not wrong for having questions, doubts, or concerns.

thinking about detransition? you are not alone  

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an excerpt | read the full thread by eliza mondegreen

Phobia indoctrination instills irrational fears in members of a high-control group and uses those fears to manipulate members so they won’t question the group’s beliefs or try to leave. Here’s what phobia indoctrination looks like in the trans community:

Telling community members that anyone who questions gender identity or transition (even if from a place of genuine care and concern) hates them, ‘denies their existence,’ or even wants them dead. 

Pushing community members, especially naive children/young people, to cut themselves off from friends & loved ones who may question or contradict the trans community, or may simply fail to follow elaborate and bizarre protocols trans communities lead young members to expect. 

Creating the false impression of a trans murder epidemic, which binds members to the trans community & increases their fear of the outside world out of all proportion to actual risk.

Inflating suicide risk & presenting transition as the only alternative to suicide when it comes to dealing with gender dysphoria. This increases desperation to transition, suppresses questions or doubts a person may have, & pushes patients to conceal other issues from doctors.

Vilifying and attacking detransitioners as traitors and existential threats to the community, thus demonstrating to current members of the trans community *exactly what will happen to them* if they step out of line or—god forbid—leave.

Teaching community members to bury their own questions and doubts by labeling any uncertainty about gender identity, transition, or community dynamics as manifestations of “internalized transphobia” that cause harm not just to the individual but to ALL TRANS PEOPLE.

thinking about detransition? you are not alone  

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idk how active this acct is, but as someone detransitioning and returning to tumblr assuming it was the same safe -ish space of 2015 i was HORRIFIED at the detrans tag. this account was the last one i was about to block until i actually read what the posts said. very much ty for this account.

i'm glad you saw this blog, that's what it's here for :) i encourage everyone who wants to post/discuss detransition seriously to use the #detransition tag and schedule/queue a few posts if you have the heart, even if it's just reposting the same post repeatedly. additionally, please submit posts you've seen to me so i can queue them.

i also request that detrans kink people turn on mature content for their posts so that users will have even a small option to turn off the flood of fetish content when looking for actual info. if you are a detrans kink person seeing this post, please do this for your blog. you can flag it as NSFW under settings. also, your posts will be reported less/your blogs deleted less if you do this, as people who don't want to see them won't be exposed to them. if you do not to do this after seeing this post, you are now choosing to actively involve people in your fetish who do not want to be involved, and in fact some of the people who are at the most risk of being disturbed and harmed by being exposed to it. please take responsibility for your actions.

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a conversation between lunargaze and bisexual-slime

LG: I always warn people that casually wearing a binder led directly to a crazy increase in dysphoria & the feeling that I needed surgery immediately. A huge amount of the reason I ended up getting a mastectomy was to stop having to feel the panic-attack inducing compression of a binder. B-S: 6 years of consistent binding left me with increased muscle and joint pain and shortness of breath. I stopped for good November 2020 and I don't regret it. It also increased by chest dysphoria and now that I've stopped binding, I've found easier and healthier ways of coping. If you really must conceal your chest out of dysphoria, I'd suggest a comfortable sports bra (do NOT get one smaller than your size. get the correct size) and looser layers and fabrics. This has helped me massively, as has foregoing bras completely, sports bras included. I'd encourage you to at least give this method a shot because it's genuinely been so beneficial and helpful for me.

LG: Absolutely. If I had the thought to just like, stop wearing bras at that point in my life I can’t imagine how different things would be for me right now.

And let me tell you, nothing made my chest dysphoria worse than a mastectomy :/ it breaks my heart seeing more and more people like me expecting the affirming whole-feeling result and just ending up with more issues.

BS: I've always had chest dysphoria but it's only been in the past couple of years I've drifted away from the surgical route in favour of physical exercise to get the result I want. I recognised my goals were not realistic and my chest would always cause me problems post surgery, plus I was scared I would regret such a major operation so I just decided against it and decided I would prefer to implement a work out routine because I've seen that kind of thing done with smaller chests (I'm an A) so it seemed like an easier option. My heart always breaks for women who have been fed an idealistic image of themselves that can only be attained through surgery and end up with more mental and physical problems than they started out with.

thinking about detransition? you are not alone

[arakkne]

It seems counterintuitive but my experience echoes this. My chest dysphoria increased significantly when I was in the habit of binding, and as soon as I made the decision to stop wearing bras as much (I probably wear them only a few times a week now), I became so much more comfortable in my own body.