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ana mendieta, untitled (from the silueta series), 1976

grief.

#grief #love #loss

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what do you wish for 2016?

annfriedman

In my ongoing quest for the perfect framework for understanding haters, I created The Disapproval Matrix**. (With a deep bow to its inspiration.) This is one way to separate haterade from productive feedback. Here’s how the quadrants break down:

Critics: These are smart people who know something about your field. They are taking a hard look at your work and are not loving it. You’ll probably want to listen to what they have to say, and make some adjustments to your work based on their thoughtful comments.

Lovers: These people are invested in you and are also giving you negative but rational feedback because they want you to improve. Listen to them, too.

Frenemies: Ooooh, this quadrant is tricky. These people really know how to hurt you, because they know you personally or know your work pretty well. But at the end of the day, their criticism is not actually about your work—it’s about you personally. And they aren’t actually interested in a productive conversation that will result in you becoming better at what you do. They just wanna undermine you. Dishonorable mention goes to The Hater Within, aka the irrational voice inside you that says you suck, which usually falls into this quadrant. Tell all of these fools to sit down and shut up.

Haters: This is your garden-variety, often anonymous troll who wants to tear down everything about you for no rational reason. Folks in this quadrant are easy to write off because they’re counterproductive and you don’t even know them. Ignore! Engaging won’t make you any better at what you do. And then rest easy, because having haters is proof your work is finding a wide audience and is sparking conversation. Own it.

The general rule of thumb? When you receive negative feedback that falls into one of the top two quadrants—from experts or people who care about you who are engaging with and rationally critiquing your work—you should probably take their comments to heart. When you receive negative feedback that falls into the bottom two quadrants, you should just let it roll off your back and just keep doin’ you. If you need to amp yourself up about it, may I suggest this #BYEHATER playlist on Spotify? You’re welcome.

** I presented The Disapproval Matrix to the fine folks at MoxieCon in Chicago yesterday, and they seemed to find it useful, so I figured I’d share with the class. It was originally inspired by a question my friend Channing Kennedy submitted to my #Realtalk column at the Columbia Journalism Review.

djangoringtones

ugh, inner frenemy. know yourself/be rational.

#innershinetheory

Artist Marina Abramovic was performing her piece 'The Artist Is Present,' a live art performance piece where Marina invited strangers to sit across from her for one minute. One after another, members of the crowd came up and shared a moment...

#marina abramovic #ulay & abramović #ulayoh

annfriedman

I am usually pretty good at avoiding or suppressing professional jealousy, but I am so upset that I was not the writer to instruct women How to Get Your Body Caftan-Ready for Summer.

djangoringtones

Ready for the caftan.

cvchristography

aubreylstallard

Ray Johnson

“The song is 'Abale Ndikum Gem' by Gasper Nali, next to the Nkhata Bay in the Republic of Malawi. He is playing a small drum with his foot and one of his large string guitars that he makes of recycled materials, including wire from burnt tires. Nali was featured in the documentary, 'Deep Roots Malawi', where he explains the origin of his instrument.

Translated to English from Chichewa, the national language of Malawi, "Back in Zingwangwa my younger brother first made a guitar with three strings. I told him it was a good idea to make that kind of instrument. We started practicing and the sound was good, really good. So we decided to make a one-stringed guitar, which is called a Babatoni. We cut a cow skin and fixed it on a mortar well. When we played people loved the music."”

#morningmusic

aminatou

Eula Biss forever

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Diversity of fruiting bodies in Shindagin Hollow State Forest

itscolossal

Tiny Embroidered Animals by Chloe Giordano

beatonna

Here is a sketch comic I made called Ducks, in five parts.

Part One

Part Two

Part Three

Part Four

Part Five

Ducks is about part of my time working at a mining site in Fort McMurray, the events are from 2008. It is a complicated place, it is not the same for all, and these are only my own experiences there. It is a sketch because I want to test how I would tell these stories, and how I feel about sharing them. A larger work gets talked about from time to time. It is not a place I could describe in one or two stories. Ducks is about a lot of things, and among these, it is about environmental destruction in an environment that includes humans. Thank you for taking the time to read it.

-Kate

thank you for your respect

your idolatry, though

took a step

too far and i was made another.