Hey, just a quick little reminder for those that maybe need it:
It’s fun to pretend a kink has fully corrupted every aspect of your life, and that it isn’t “just a kink” anymore. But it is just a kink. You can stop and take a break anytime if you want to. If you genuinely feel like it’s not just a kink anymore, you should consider taking a break from kink until the line between fantasy and reality firms up again. Similarly, if it’s (negatively) impacting your grades or work performance, it may be time to take a step back.
It is just a kink. If your dom, play partner(s), etc refuse to step out of the “bit,” as it were, in order to negotiate, talk boundaries and limits, and other basic responsible kink stuff, I personally feel like that’s a bit of a red flag. It’s similar to when doms barge into subs’ inboxes calling them whores and sluts before asking for your name, or when subs start calling doms daddy/mommy without permission first. You should be able to have a normal, human conversation with this person before you do anything kinky.
It is just a kink. Thought crime isn’t real, you aren’t doing anything wrong. Is everyone having fun? Is everyone a consenting adult? Great, you keep doing you.
It is just a kink. With the exception of hypnosis and similar conditioning, no one can change the fundamentals of who you are as a person. Even in the case of hypno, you should have very strong trust with your partner before you do that, and a responsible tist will give you failsafes and escape routes, if you will, so you can still safeword and end a scene if you need to. Anyone trying to change who you are as a person outside of a scene or dynamic should be side-eyed.
It is just a kink. It should be fun. Obviously things happen and we sometimes have not-so-fun experiences in kink, but on average, if you’re not having fun, I think you might doing something wrong. (This isn’t to say you can’t do dark/scary/fucked up things as scenes—but be conscious of if you’re doing it because it’s fun/cathartic/a net positive for you, or if you’re doing it as a form of self harm.)
And as always, everyone gets aftercare, and never use numbing lube for anal ever
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