Tried to talk to Mom about the donuts/Nephew's greediness issue and got kind of blown off. She made excuses and said things like "I might have had four.... Maybe three... Two and a half.... You have to eat them the first day when they're fresh!"
HE MIGHT BE A LITTLE SPOILED MAYBE but only by my folks and because they feel bad for him living in the hoarded apartment [two days a week].
There have been many times growing up that I felt like I was having to mom my mom.
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Had to go talk to MY boy about how his constant criticizing and negativity when Dad makes him a meal is mean with the caveat that I know he's not being mean on purpose. Today it was the chicken is too burnt, the mac n cheese is too thick and has too much salt, etc. etc. and he'll take a bite of something, decide he doesn't like it and go EUGH!, take another bite and EUGH! eat all of it with an EUGH! after each bite...
Boy.
Dad dropped his chicken bone on the floor, snatched it up, threw it in the trash leaving the sauce splat, and stormed out of the kitchen to outside to cool off and Son had no idea he'd even upset him.
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I am myself dopamine seeking, now, and want a coffee but it's already after 7pm, I already had one today, and I need to drink water, dammit.
Well it.... It doesn't show up super well in photos but the photo-right side of the sweater is much bolder in color, now. There are still a couple spots that need some repairs like a couple snags and a few spots where the ends of the yarn have made their way to the front of the sweater.
ugh the brand site for that sweater won't even let me browse the catalog without registering and signing in so guess I'm not interested in buying any more of their stuff.
Well it.... It doesn't show up super well in photos but the photo-right side of the sweater is much bolder in color, now. There are still a couple spots that need some repairs like a couple snags and a few spots where the ends of the yarn have made their way to the front of the sweater.
This is why I'm hiding snacks and my coffee creamer cups in my room because I've seen him drinking the little creamer cups in the kitchen one after the other.
My future is not so bright that i need shades, I need a flashlight, more like. But one thing that has amazed me about it is how many of the people I knew on the net when I was in high school in 1995 are still with me and still friends with me. I talk to them every day even when they're clear across the country or around the world. The kids I grew up with? I talk to one of them ever couple months. that's it.
The friends that they said weren't "real" are the ones that I still laugh with, make plans with and meet up with in person whenever i get the chance.
I feel like in-person friends are kind of circumstantial in that you were only friends because you were in the same place at the same time, regularly, whereas online friends were sought out in places of shared interest and it doesn't matter if they move from one place to another, the red string of the internet is still there.
I could stack my folded sweaters on that shelf and then put my bag, ID, and phone pouch on the top and put snacks and stuff in the cabinet and....
I think I'm going to end up ordering that. I'm going to look on FB Marketplace again, first...
I just moved my hamper to the other end of the shoe rack and took out the temps project's yarn to start that over and like the space better already. If I could get more things happily contained then maybe....
I might put the sideboard on the opposite side of the desk and move the printer table to the light switch side so it's more difficult to get to the snacks and maybe he'll leave them alone.
This is why I'm hiding snacks and my coffee creamer cups in my room because I've seen him drinking the little creamer cups in the kitchen one after the other.
I could stack my folded sweaters on that shelf and then put my bag, ID, and phone pouch on the top and put snacks and stuff in the cabinet and....
I think I'm going to end up ordering that. I'm going to look on FB Marketplace again, first...
I just moved my hamper to the other end of the shoe rack and took out the temps project's yarn to start that over and like the space better already. If I could get more things happily contained then maybe....
This is not even sort of what I ought to be doing with my time nor is it exactly productive but hey it's the weekend and the weekend is for chores and fucking around.
Anyway this is my room. I went from a 4300 sq ft house which I had the run of an entire basement on to an approximately 10x10 room.
It's not been fun. The majority of my things are in a storage unit getting baked in the summer heat.
Things with names cannot be moved.
I have permission to rearrange everything as I'd like but there isn't a much better arrangement to be had I don't think.
On top of both gun safes are my boxed BJD. They reach the ceiling... There isn't room for them in the closet.
"my" are things I've brought in. Everything else are things that belong to my parents.
my work bag
my hamper
my printer
my pouf
the desk; transparent so you can see there's stuff under it
my printer cart
book shelf
end table (no storage)
honkin bigass bed goddamn
matching end table oh, no it doesn't match it's MUCH narrower... I guess the room IS 10x10, then
matching book shelf
my tubs of 1/4 BJD (to keep them climate controlled)
office chair
my rolly cart
dresser
my shoe rack
Time for a blather.
My goals are to feel more comfortable in this space, have a way to use the computer chair at the computer so I'm not putting a permanent dent in the side of the mattress with my butt, and to bring in some more storage to better hide I mean contain my snacks and dishes and stuff while also allowing me to get my printer up where I can actually use it.
I don't use the printer a ton but I do need to do some maintenance on it and would like to print my payslips. I like having physical copies of that kind of thing.
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I perch on the edge of the bed with my feet on the pouf to use the computer. There isn't enough room to roll the chair up under there.
When I got here they had the desk at the end of the bed which would be ok but there's no outlet there. I'd have to run an extension cord from one of the three outlets to a power strip to plug in the computer, monitor, and printer, there. It's not a good idea to use extension cords for long-term use like that and there were two kids' cots under the bed when I moved in. Mom's removed those, since.
The other problem, of course, is that I'm clumsy and would trip on the cords all the time trying to get in and out of bed if I were to run them from the door-wall. They'd be directly in my path. The door-wall outlet needs repaired, too. I bought those spacers for it and then never got up the energy to disassemble the desk area to get to it to fix it.
If I ran the cord from the dresser-outlet, I'd be rolling my chair over them constantly. I know if I asked they'd get me a wire cover thing. I'm loathe to ask for stuff because they're already providing so much. I'd trip over that, too.
I'd considered swapping the locations of the desk and the dresser but run into the issues of needing to be able to get into the dresser drawers and there are things hung on the wall behind where the desk is that the dresser would be overlapping.
If I were to move the computer back to the foot of the bed I run into the problems of having a too-good view of the back of the PC when I'm in the bed which would feel aesthetically unpleasant, and the desk being right in cat-jumping territory. Right now they stay off the desk as far as I can tell, but if it were up against the bed, they'd just have to take a step to be on the desk top.
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I was thinking of getting a small pantry/sideboard that's not very tall so it didn't block the light switch and putting it on the side of the room where the switch is between the door and the desk. I'd have to find somewhere else to put my work bag and hamper. My work bag and printer would likely go on top of the sideboard. No idea on the hamper.
When I moved in my mom had provided an ENORMOUS basket for a hamper. It's in the closet filled with my bags to get it and them out of the way.
The hamper would likely move to the end of the bed next to the shoe rack.
Though if I were to move the computer desk to the end of the bed then I'd move the shoe rack over where the desk was, I guess.
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There are only two walls the headboard could possibly go on and I don't think I want the window at my feet at night. I'd just stare at it all night. So the bed is stuck where it is. I'd rather have a much smaller bed in here. It's not a huge room and I'm not a huge person. My mom is really tall, though, and that's why the bed is so big. She lays on it kind of corner to corner.
There isn't enough room to put the desk at the foot of the bed without moving the dresser and if I were to put the desk at the other side of the foot of the bed it would be blocking the gun safe.
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She did say we could move the end tables out to the storage unit and find a place for the book shelves but I would feel bad asking them to do that and I do use one of the end tables. Of course I could always get some more functional end tables or shelving units and use those instead. The ones that are in here are just end tables with big, unused space underneath. I have some stuff shoved under there. Looks bad, though.
I could get some baskets to put under there but I don't think that would satisfy me, honestly.
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I COULD get the sideboard, move the printer stand to the foot of the bed, move the computer desk toward the head of the bed, put the printer on the sideboard.... That doesn't solve the issue of the computer chair/mattress, though.
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The tubs canNOT fit under the bed. The clearance is about 6inches and the bed as a whole is already so tall I can't reach the floor when I sit on it so riser are out of the question. If I got bed risers THAT tall (at least another 1/5 feet to clear the tubs) the mattress would be halfway up the wall and I'd have to install stairs. I'm not tall.
There actually isn't enough clearance for most of the BJD boxes, either, not that I would risk it anyway. The cats like to get under there.
