dominance and deference

@dommingjeffsatur's nsfw sideblog ◈ he/they/she ◈ 20s ◈ adult blog for adult followers

[dommingingeneral]

decided to make a tagging system, most of it is pretty self-explanatory. here's what i got so far:

#op - my posts

#pretty bruises - pretty bruises etc.

#images - photos, gifs, videos

#biting - biting

#ropes etc. - bondage

#*dreamy sigh* pain - pain

#tears <3 - crying

#my raging deference kink - my raging deference kink

#awww cute 😇 - posts that speak more to my mean dom side (look it makes sense to me)

like 98% of the time you can assume i am reblogging things in a dom way even if the post is from a sub pov

[dommingingeneral]

"oh baby you took your belting so well, stayed so nice and still for me and didn't make a single noise, so so good. you want a reward, hmm? yeah you do. you've been so sweet for me, you do serve it. so, for the last ten hits you're allowed to scream as much as you want honey. now say thank you"

[prettyypearl]

Hurt me, but not because I was bad or disobeyed. You know I’m always good, always obedient, always desperate to please. Hurt me because you like to, because it gets you off, because I look so pretty like this. Reassure me that this is not punishment, that I’m being so good for you. You’re hurting me because it gives you pleasure, and I’m taking it so well because I would never question you.

[dommingingeneral]

after reading some fanfics i have come to the conclusion that there are three options

my sub has a crazy high pain tolerance

my hits are crazy weak

most fanfic writers have never done impact play

bc what do you mean this grown ass man is sobbing from pain halfway through a 15 hits over the pants hand spanking. are his doms hands made of steel????

[dommingingeneral]

update: option 1 may have turned out to be true, but i maintain that 15 hits with hands over the pants is Not enough to make a grown ass man cry

[dommingingeneral]

real life events are inspiring Domming Urges bc with domming there's two options

my authority doesn't get challenged in any way whatsoever and i can relax safely in the knowledge that i am unquestionably in charge

my authority does get challenged But i have the right (the expectation, even) to retaliate against it and make them acknowledge my authority

either way i have the authority

[dommingingeneral]

thinking about two subs on their knees for me, playing with each other for my viewing pleasure. maybe making out, maybe pressing down on each others bruises, maybe both at the same time, whimpering in pain against the other's lips

[hannibalvolkoff-journal]

[orpheuslament]

more men should be on their knees begging desperately. like in general

[dommingingeneral]

not to be a language nerd on my kink blog but. when subs capitalize titles in your dms. like when they hit you with the "Sir". *clenches fist in the urge to pull someone down on their knees by their hair*

[dommingingeneral]

if they didn't want me to be a freak pervert (badge of honor) they shouldn't have made tears and pained whimpers so unbelievably hot

[ace-trainer-alice]

I'd love to respect you as a human being, however I saw you squirm a little earlier and all I've been thinking about since is how to make you squirm even more.

[yourprettiestpet]

slap me slap me slap me

wanna feel the sharp sting as Your fingers make contact – the blooming warmth that matches the pretty red mark – the dull ache emanating from Your handprint, seeping into my skin and bones and brain

want the simultaneous clarity and fuzziness that follow as i press my face into Your hand, feeling Your thumb softly caressing my cheek, staring up at You with wide, worshipful eyes, my mind slowing and focusing until all thoughts are of only You

wanna beg You to do it again, please, god, do it again, hurt me, hit me, make me gasp, make me cry, make me Yours, You want it just as much as i do and we both know it, so please, just slap me <3

[darling-iamonmyknees]

thinking about getting cornered by two doms, three is also fine, maybe four? as many as volunteer, im ready to look pretty pressed against the wall

[angelic6upernova]

the handsy pervert would like you to sit a little bit closer please. please

[the-sensitive-sadist]

Good girls use their safeword frequently btw

[the-sensitive-sadist]

Some people had a weird reaction to this one, so let me clarify some misconceptions and express my perspective a bit more.

When we talk about kink, a lot of the time people treat safe words as if they are exclusively an expression of an absolute limit. A firm proclamation that the scene is too rough, the pain too much, the situation too extreme, and that the entire thing needs to stop. Safeword use in such situations is obviously essential and mandatory in order to bring the scene or sensation to an end and ensure the safety of all participants. This is not, however, the only time a safeword should be used.

They can be used to express when someone is at their limit. They can mean the scene needs to end completely because the sub can't take it anymore at all. But they don't have to mean that. Safewords should be used to pause or stop the scene and break character for any reason. You can also use your safeword to pause and discuss a limit, communicate that something is or isn't working for you, ensure that everything is going to plan, take a water break, go get a toy from the other room, check with your partner about something, pause to change your laundry, or do absolutely anything else out of character related to your scene.

This is why a lot of people use green/yellow/red.

Green - continue

Yellow - pause and make a change (this can be anything from "slow down a little bit" to "I need something different but want to keep going")

Red - I need this situation to be over and for us to get right into aftercare.

What a lot of people seem to miss is that in this framework yellow is also a safeword.

All of this is ignoring the additional dimension that Dominants also need to safeword!! It's completely normal and if you're doing a lot of BDSM it should happen in your daily kink life often. Real life is not a romance novel.

Using your safeword is essential and you should use it all the time, whenever you want. Breaking character during kink is normal, healthy, sexy, and fundamentally essential. Do it more often.

[enesefvv]

normalize being a monsterfucker in a top/dom way 😤😤 where are my posts about turning a big bad werewolf into my dumb breeding whore? making a near-immortal vampire beg and crawl at my feet for a taste of my blood? etc etc

[succuvex]

I need several pretty girls and boys to do whatever the fuck I tell them to for my amusement