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I’m constantly seeing women talk about how men are supposed to know what their intentions are for a woman when he meets her. So I decided to break it down. Unless the man has known the woman for a significant amount of time before shooting his shot he doesn’t have enough information about her to commit to anything with her. So it would be dumb as hell for him to set expectations with her that he hasn’t been able to make a sound decision about. We already know lots of women have fairy tale expectations and expectations are the seeds that lead to disappointment. All he really knows is he liked what he saw (which may not even be real) and he’s willing to put forth the effort to get to know her. That’s how he figures out what kind of chemistry they have, what they have in common, how he feels about her personality and attitude. So that’s when he will start making judgements about what he would or wouldn’t do with her. A woman can interact with a man and even change his mind about him being willing to fuck her! So it makes absolutely no sense for women to expect men to tell them exactly what his intentions with her are. Women that ask men that are basically asking him to tell her a lie or guess since he can’t predict the future. And she’s going to use whatever his response is to hold him accountable for it. That’s why smart men say things like “let’s see what happens” or “let’s go with the flow” because that’s the only thing that makes any sense. He’s not going to say he just wants sex because almost every interaction between a man and woman that leads to sex involves them doing a lot more than just fucking. And he’s not going to say anything that gives her the idea that they’re guaranteed to become a couple. It’s crazy to see how many women can’t see how this situation plays out even if they have been meeting men for decades and going through the exact same process over and over again. I mean how many times does a woman have to plan a wedding in her head with a stranger and then find out he isn’t anything like she ASSUMED he was before she stops trying to predict the future with men??? That seems like common sense from a male pov. https://www.instagram.com/p/CJ3eOiGAgy8/?igshid=49rcxr4lbkh3

terryderon

I saw this post on my timeline and I wanted to break down why this mentality/approach to dating is so ineffective and problematic for women. So it starts with “if u want to be with me say so”, which doesn’t make much sense because we know that men make the decision to want to be with a woman over time based on his experiences with her. So for a woman to give a man (that she hasn’t taken the time to date and assess her compatibility with) that much control over her dating life really speaks to how anxious women are to be in a relationship. Then it says if we are talking to other people let me know. Which pretty much states that if a man doesn’t tell her that, she will automatically only be talking to one guy. This is very risky because we know that all men aren’t honest and there are several men that will tell her exactly what she wants to hear. There is no way to predict that any dating experience will grow into something special. So why would that be the only time a woman shows a man her positive qualities? But the last two lines don’t seem to make much sense either. The word ready means to not be fully prepared for something at a particular time. It does not mean a person’s feelings or perspective can’t change based off of what they experience dating a woman. And there is absolutely no way to prevent a woman from catching feelings and wanting more out of a man. And there is no guarantee that the feelings/desire she has will be reciprocated either. So from a male POV this looks like a list of unrealistic expectations and counterproductive dating strategies that won’t actually help improve a woman’s dating experience in any way. Because any fuckboy can tell a woman exactly what she wants to hear and have her really believing they’re building something special! As the last thing is her saying “don’t make me fall for u” as if people get to pick and choose who they catch feelings for. Love isn’t predictable! This is how hopeless romantic women seem to view dating. Which is very different than how things happen in the real world! Tag someone that would like my page or the things I talk about! 👉🏾 @terryderon https://www.instagram.com/p/CJ3kBemAmOH/?igshid=imtukstw28rf

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JUSTICE FOR MATTHEW RUSHIN

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sis was the real style icon of the show 😭

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https://innocenceproject.org/petitions/stop-execution-pervis-payne/

link to washington post article

justice for Matthew Rushin

https://www.change.org/p/governor-mike-dewine-pardon-keith-lamar

https://www.keithlamar.org/ (includes donations + info about his case)

https://sign.moveon.org/petitions/abolish-the-death-penalty-3?bucket=&source=twitter-share-button&utm_campaign=&utm_source=twitter&share=880fc3bf-d248-46e6-83a7-1b08fb1e6d9e