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In this new age world of social media, we’ve seen mental health issues sky-rocket. From deep rooted insecurities to major depression! It is now more evident than ever that we should prioritize our kids’ mental health!
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The Law of Attraction 101: Everything you need to know (Opinion Piece)
So, a few days ago I was doing the normal spring cleaning in summer, when I stumbled upon an old notebook I used to jot down my thoughts, ideas and potential posts on.
One thing that stood out, for me, was this piece I wrote about my understanding of the Law of Attraction. I would like to share it with you, please shareyou thoughts as well. I would definitely love to hear them.
So you’ve heard about The Law of Attraction or, “The Secret” as some call it and you’ re probably wondering what in the new age mumbo jumbo does it mean?
I can assure you...it is anything but Mumbo Jumbo, In fact the law has been in existnce since the beginning of time as we know it. There have been many scriptures written about this las, one such being The Bible.
The Law of Attraction, as I understand it, is based on Quantum physics and is one of the 12 universal laws. What is this Universe I speak of?
If you think we are referring to the planet and stars above, then you are absolutely right. The universe is the stars and Constelllations BUT also everything you are. Take a look around you. The people, animals and trees are all part of one. They are all a part of the same energy. You know it as God.
This God energy has inspired various religious texts and even though people fight over different manifestations of it, it essentially is one.
Now, how does this energy tie in with the law of attraction? Wait, I’m getting there...
Nthabi Tau: Ambition in A Lion’s Den.
Most of us start off the New Year with the same old routine. We set resolutions and are pumped to see them through but a week or two into the New Year, our regular programming comes back and procrastination takes over. “There’s plenty of time” you tell yourself…Rings a bell, doesn’t it?
Once in a while, we come across super-human beings who have skilfully mastered the art of willpower and self-discipline. I have been honoured to meet and get to know one such super being and let me tell you, her ambitious energy is unavoidable and, is so contagious, it kicks laziness’ arse!
It was only natural for me to do a QnA with Nthabi Tau.
• Who are you to your family and friends? I actually think I live up to my name, Nthabiseng. I make people happy and vice versa. Relationships of value are extremely important to me and nurturing those relationships is something I actively and consciously do. I behave as a support system to both my family and friends because I was born with an innate strength that allows me to anchor a lot of relationships I find myself in.
• You are a director, an actress, a wife, Mother… AND currently studying. Pheeew!…where do you get your get up and go energy? My kids. I have a particular ethos that governs my life choices. Work hard. Be a spectacular version of yourself. I can only impart that adage if I live that truth and exemplify that belief. Children copy what we do not what we say and as a result I walk the talk I constantly preach to my girls.
• The entertainment industry has its ups and downs, loud seasons where jobs are flying in and quiet seasons where it’s drier than the Sahara. What’s your approach to both seasons? Adapt or die!!! Diversity is imperative in our industry. Multiskilled individuals do not always feel the ebb and flow of our industry just by being able to wear different hats. If you are great at, at least three art forms in our industry, you will always be able to find a job for one of them. You’ve always got to outsmart the system.
• As a wife and a mother to 2 beautiful kids, how do you juggle your homely duties with your ambition? I’m not afraid to ask for help. I’m not superwoman. I cannot manage everything by myself. I have an incredible Husband who wants me to be a champion of my field and has been my rock. When I registered for school, he allowed me to thrive my being both Mommy and Daddy in many instances. Granted, I lose out on my children important moments but the pay off of these sacrifices will elevate the quality of their lives which makes it all worthwhile.
My Chat with Katt: The Afro Punk
I remember my first encounter with Katt. I was having lunch with a few colleagues, most of them men, when I heard their indistinct chatter about someone they were seeing through the glass walls. My curiosity made me look up from the heavenly meal I was devouring and I saw her. This blue haired, mysterious lady who was now awkwardly waving at us, trying to demagnetize our fixed gazes.
Almost a year later, after getting to know the person behind the garments, I get to feature this lady and her very interesting and beautiful relationship with fashion. This is My Chat with Katt:
· How would you describe your style to those curious?
I do not think that I have a particular style per se̒, but the word EMOTIVE comes close enough.
There are days when I wear torn, over-sided jeans with hoodies that fall just above my knees and there are days when I rock a flowery frilly frock with a pink cardigan. Then there are days that I look like a horror villain that’s stirring a witch’s brew and then the next day I look like I was sneezed out of Tim Burton’s imagination. It depends on the story, it depends on the feeling. It also depends on the lie I want to tell.
· One of the biggest statement pieces I’ve seen you wear, is your hair. What draws you to changing your hair colour(s)?
In High School I was constantly told to wear my hair a certain way and colour was forbidden so all that money and hours of sitting down while someone is pulling on your roots lasted for a weekend. Sigh. So I suppose this is vengeful expression. I can be whoever I want to be every single day. It’s fun. Colour is fun. And it’s hard to have a frown on your face when you have pink and purple hair.
· What is the difference between fashion and style, to you?
What’s the difference between the roots of a tree and its flowers? One is not less important than the other. It is a beautiful symbiosis. Fashion offers options to one’s style but how you assemble the pieces together, is where style comes in. Though the leaves and flowers might fall over the year, the roots are still clutching onto the earth. This is how I see the two. Fashion is seasonal, how you wear that particular item of clothing, hair, accessory or shoe pertains to your identity, your roots, your style.
Fashion says, “This is cool”. Style says, “This is me”.
· How has your experience been, navigating your way through society with your alternative style?
It was pretty difficult, especially given the fact that during my young adulthood, I was a township girl that wore full goth garb. It was weird. I have an awkward stance with social interactions so looking kinda weird, didn’t work in my favour. But I couldn’t help it. I had to navigate through the awkward stares and convince myself that I wasn’t doing anything particularly wrong. I made the right choice because I am expressively liberated today.
· How have the African people, with their different layers and textures, influenced the way you view fashion?
I do not have Afrocentric pieces in my closet but what I have taken from Sechaba saka is how Aricans take such pride in who they are. When I look at our older generation and our younger pride, I see how they have taken ownership of their heritage. It is inspiring to see how this generation is starting to wake up and engage in the history of their identity. I am most fascinated by those that are leaning towards Afro Punk. More and more of our generation are merging old African clothing with new age grunge. It’s beautiful. It’s Evolution.
· Who is your style icon?
Where is a guillotine when you need one… LOL
This is a very difficult question because I do not really have one but I do “borrow” from everyone, even the IT guy. I have been inspired by @magavilhas, Billie Eilish (she reminds me of her at her age), I can tell you who reminds me that it is ok to still be playful at this age; it is that bad badd that “has been stealing your man since 1928”, @baddiewinkle!
I literally watch the fashion channel as if I am watching the omnibus of a captivating series. This is perhaps my way of seeking new ideas that will inspire me to evolve my style. Can a mannequin be my style icon?
· How has your style changed over the years?
In my pre-teens I adored Aaliyah so I copied her A LOT! Baggy, baggy, baggy. I wish I could say with hint of sexy but the word was not in my vocabulary at the time. At about 15, Rock music found me. I was scrolling through radio stations and I happened to land on 5FM. 5FM in 2002, the days of Barney Simon. I was hooked. Being a tomboy, black jeans, studded belts and chains, spikes and printed shirts with customized boots were like uniform. In my early varsity years, I explored more with goth pieces and took a darker aesthetic to my look. Plenty of leather.
At 22, I toned down the goth and started exploring with colors. LOTS of colours. LOTS of multi-coloured clothes. I even explored the skaterboi look, DC head to toe.
The skirts and dresses came in at 25. I was seduced by this feminine aesthetic when I discovered “Jessica Day”. It actually turned out to be a form of therapy (topic for another day). Looking and feeling lighter helped me discover my playful side. But I still kept my grungy boots.
Today I am mosaic of every piece of cloth that has ever touched my skin. It’s a mess, but it works. I think I am going through another transition. I am not quite sure where it’s going but man oh man, is this journey going to be fun!!!
(LOL to myself: I was walking down the street wearing three different hats the other day and I thought to myself, Ï should do this more often”)
· As a creative living in Jozi, what would you say has been the wildest thing you’ve ever witnessed when it comes to fashion?
What is interesting nowadays is that a lot of people are trying so hard to be different that they start looking the same. A wild fashion statement for me comes from that creative misfit that does not succumb to “trends” or what’s cool out there. Nerds are my people; let them have their revenge. I don’t go out much so Instagram is my Jozi. After the AfroPunk festival, I discovered a duo called @adhiambondomba. Now they are an African version of Steam Punk! Their metallic pieces merge Science Fiction with Tribal Art. They are a little ahead of their time.
· Being an up and coming director, how would you describe your directorial style?
I am still peeling the layers so I am exploring different mediums and different ways of storytelling. What I will not waver from is telling an honest narrative that relays the human condition. When I was in film school, the worst film I directed was when I was trying to be “too cool” and show off with the medium. Worst mistake and most imperative lesson learned. I like to keep it simple and tell a clear, concise story that translates the hidden truths of mankind. I especially love subject matters that nobody wants to touch. Breaking Bad and Shameless are the best examples when it comes to the human conditions that I would like to confront.
· Which actor do you dream of working with and why?
Another guillotine moment…
Locally – Craig Palm. I have not seen him in a while. He played a character named Angel on a South African drama series called YIZO YIZO.
Even though she is based in England now, I would like to work with Sade Giliberti. She is a muse for most of the kind of females I would like to write for and about.
Internationally – Michael Fassbender, I have plans for his teeth. His many, many teeth.
Ben Whishaw – He had my heart at Perfume : The story of a murderer. There are so many nuances that have worked for the dexterity of his facial muscles. He understand the power of countenance.
· If you could speak one thing into existence right now, what would it be?
My own house in a quiet place, with more garden than brick.
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Living The Dream: Gabriel Perez Silva
Born in Colombia and raised in South Florida, 21 year old Gabriel Perez Silva is an amazing fashion photographer who takes shockingly beautiful stills.
He has photographed 🌍 renowned models such as Bella Hadid, Winnie Harlow and Fenty Beauty model, Duckie Thot.
I caught up with this 🗽 based photographer to talk about the passion he pushes…
• Growing up as a young boy from Colombia/South Florida, did you ever imagine you would be one of the hottest up and coming photographer, at just 21 years old?
I always believed in myself, but I don’t think I ever saw myself becoming known for art in particular. I wasn’t really into art or fashion at all when I was younger, but looking back I was an artist all along.
• From 🏊 for the Colombian National team, to becoming a professional photographer…how did that transition happen?
I was trying to find a way out for many years coming. The year I had between being “the swimmer” and being “the photographer” was amazing. I was able to just be a regular kid for once, fucking just 🆒 it all day. My surgery didn’t let me work as a lifeguard that summer and it really let me focus on my work.
• You mentioned on on your Twitter that you actually dropped out of school to chase your dreams, how was that whole experience like?
😂 this is my second time leaving school, and by the looks of it, it probably isn’t the last time. I just can’t go back to school right now because of the point I am in my career right now. Leaving was way more stressful for the people around me than for myself. I always believe in myself. If you don’t who will?
• What’s your thought process like before you start a shoot?
Its a mix of excitement, and sometimes stress, but also sometimes relaxation.
• Why fashion photography?
I read one time the fashion photographers are like the rockstars of the community and I think my brain subconsciously held onto that. I also like meeting and interacting with new people. My time in Italy is when I first developed an interest for Fashion Photography.
• What challenges have you faced as a fashion photographer in 🗽?
Everyone tries to use you. Everyone wants free 💩. Everyone is trying to prove themselves. You have to be strong and understand your worth.
• You have shot some pretty big names, including models, Winnie Harlow and Bellast Hadid…who is the one person you would 💛 to shoot some day?
I would 💛 to be able to shoot ..myself one day lmaoooo. I always feel like if I shot myself it would be dope. Naw, but seriously not really anyone in particular. The way I 👀 it if theres someone I really wanted to shoot. I can do it, if I really wanted to make it happen.
• What was your reaction when you found out that Vogue had posted your Met Gala photos?
I was hella hype. That was a big goal of mine, and I didn’t think it was gonna happen that day at all.
• As a travel enthusiast, which city do you plan on visiting next?
I’m figuring that out right now. I’ll be in Miami for swim week in July, then I have some jobs in LA. Probably Toronto for a weekend, Europe in september and 🗽 in the middle.
• What legacy do you want to leave in this 🌍?
I want to show the kids you don’t have to be perfect to make it. You don’t need to follow the outline to be successful. Is the success you want really what you want or what you think you should want? I want to spread kindness, 💛, and positivity with a sprinkle of controversy, and that exactly what I’ll do in the next few years.
Hopefully, we’ll 👀 you in South Africa soon.
You can follow Gabriel’s work on Twitter: @ggabipe124 and on Instagram: @_youngshot. I am @DearTlotli you can follow the Blog here on Twitter and IG: @DreamCatchersZA
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Side Hustle: You Gotta Have One!
It has been a while since I dropped my own Top Ten list on here, so I decided to write one that’s recently become a way of life for me.You might wanna sit down for this one.
Wonolo.com defines side hustles as: “any type of employment undertaken in addition to one's full-time job. A side hustle is generally freelance or piecework in nature, providing a supplemental income.”
For many of us, January tends to feel like the longest month in the year, not because it has 10 weeks like most of you mockinly say on Twitter but because of the money we spent on family and parties in December, we now find ourselves in Mampara week, for the WHOLE MONTH.
Now, I think you know where I’m headed with this...Honestly, in this day and age; one source of income is just not enough. If you’re still not convinced, here are my TOP TEN reasons why you should get a Side Hustle:
Top Ten Movies That Shaped My Life: A conversation with Tebatso Mashishi
Throughout the years, I have heard disturbing stories about how the media control and destroys the masses. Stories about how we are all supposedly slaves to the Print and Digital Gods of this world.
While some of that information might be true, and believe me; most of it IS. I still consciously choose to look at the positives...which I why I decided to pick Matwetwe star, Tebatso Mashishi's brain for a while. To find out which movies, in this realm of mind control, freed his mind.
And...Here they are: 1. The Matrix:
"This movie was such an eye opener about the world we live in. The main character(Neyo) had a purpose and it showed me that I have a purpose. I have never looked at things the same after that movie. I now understand that so many of us have one thing that controls and pulls our strings and that's our ego(s)." 2. The Prophet
"The Prophet is too deep, man...
It's about this Guru that gets put into prison and is schedule to be executed. One thing that stood out for me was when he spoke about marriage, on some...people can be together but can still be individuals. Like a tree they are one, but like branches, they are separate" 3. The Dark Knight
"The way I see it, in this movie, The Joker is a necessary evil and you know, evil isn’t just necessary in films. Bad things need to happen in order for us to appreciate the good. When you look at life, Laws and restrictions are put in place to try to maintain chaos but that ends up destroying us because we don't try to understand it (chaos)first...we get taught manners and become institutionalized at a young age.We don't get a chance to study and understand our internal chaos and now we wonder why we've become such fucked up adults. " 4. The Giver:
"The Giver is about rediscovering life again. It's about getting out of the matrix and social constructs and getting to the core of who you are. Going against all odds to reach your goals...you have to be a 'sterring' and realize that you have a responsibility to accept and fulfill your purpose, against all odds: including yourself." 5. The Divergent Series
"This movie is about identity and not fitting in. Sometimes when you look different and sometimes when you act different then society tends to reject you. We promote individuality but in reality, it makes us uncomfortable."
6. The Dark Tower
“This movie is about the power of Dreams.In the film, bad guys use kids’ dreams to power a dark tower, which goes back to the matrix. Jobs, Schools, Institutions all use our dreams and passion to power their “Dark Towers”.
7. Fight Club
“There’s no limit. There really is no limit to anything in life. The main character unconsciously creates an alter ego (played by Brad Pitt) that goes beyond his limitations everyday. At the end of the movie (Spoiler Alert) The character realizes that the alter ego is actually himself. That he could go outside of his comfort zone and live his life to the fullest. THERE IS NO LIMIT!!!”
8. 3 Idiots
“People sometimes tend to view the world as Black and White...So many think that if you follow a certain path in life (e.g: Go to school, University, get a job, start a family...etc...) you will find happiness. This movie ultimately says that life has no manual, take for example Stan Lee, who would have ever thought that a comic book geek could create a multi million dollar business such as Marvel? There is so much more colour in the world...don’t limit yourself”
9. The Little Prince
“There’s a song that talks about Grown Ups being very odd. This movie is about losing the spunk that you had as a child when you start. ‘adulting’. Never Lose your light, even if you find yourself surrounded by the night”
10. The Good Lie
The Good Lie is a bittersweet story about purpose, destiny and sacrifice. I don’t want to give much away with regards to this movie, It is that beautiful. You have to watch it to understand.”
Tebatso is in Kagiso Lediga’s new Feature Film: Matwetwe, which starts airing in South African cinemas in January 2019.
“I play Papi, a friend to the lead character.We basically sell weed in the hood to raise funds so that my friend can go to varsity while having altercations with some bad people. It’s a good action comedy which, I hope, launches my acting career.
Listening brings freedom
When you make an effort to listen, are you listening? Is not that very effort a distraction that prevents listening? Do you make an effort when you listen to something that gives you delight?… You are not aware of the truth, nor do you see the false as the false, as long as your mind is occupied in any way with effort, with comparison, with justification or condemnation…
Listening itself is a complete act; the very act of listening brings its own freedom. But are you really concerned with listening, or with altering the turmoil within? If you would listen, sir, in the sense of being aware of your conflicts and contradictions without forcing them into any particular pattern of thought, perhaps they might altogether cease. You see, we are constantly trying to be this or that, to achieve a particular state, to capture one kind of experience and avoid another, so the mind is everlastingly occupied with something; it is never still to listen to the noise of its own struggles and pains. Be simple … and don’t try to become something or to capture some experience.
- Jiddu Krishnamurti - The Book of Life
Talking Fo’Real With Mawat
“From Humble Beginnings...” Many a rappers tell stories of humble beginnings for record sales and publicity stunts. This statement, however, rings truer than true for KZN native, Siyabonga Xulu, more popularly known as Mawat.
I got the opportunity to speak to the “Mollo” Hitmaker about family, God and Music. This is Talking Fo’Real with Mawat:
Who are you to your family and friends?
I’m MAWAT , lol…the brand has grown and penetrated my close circle lol…everyone even my moms calls me MAWAT but my grans says :Siya hahahaha Shout to maSithole
How do you approach seasons of change?
I have been through a lot in my life, where my life changed from negative to positive and vice versa, many times. So it taught me that change is constant in life or at least in my life. Next step was to learn what to do in the constant change situations in my life, what worked was just being calm, pray and trust in God. So in every change I’m just chilled all I say is, as long as it won’t cause me not to live another day then it will change soon for me to enjoy another day in this life. I know that’s a long answer but that’s how I approach seasons of change and my way keeps me humble.
How do you stay true to yourself?
I’m always around the same friends, keep the same people around me, those who tell me NO/YES without any hesitation. Oh and I stay in the studio.
What makes you a Dreamcatcher?
I have been chasing this dream for over 10yrs, so much so that it’s no longer a dream but a lifestyle. When you chased the dream so much that it becomes who you are every day, you are now a true DREAMCATCHER…
What do you think is God’s role in the Dreamcatcher’s life?
I mean, what’s the role of Elon Musk to Tesla, for you to get a Tesla to perform to its ultimate you need to enter into the mind of Elon Musk who created it, and that is usually through an OWNER’s user manual. So if the God made me, and purposed this dream I’m living, for me to understand this dream /live it ultimately , I need to have a relationship with Him who made me for the dream. I don’t know if that makes sense to the next person, but that’s my understanding.
You are very big on financial security and having investments, why is that?
Aaaahhhh firstly because we were evicted more than 20 times growing up, slept hungry many times. I just can’t see myself there again, so my brother and I always taught ourselves on ways never to be poor again, whilst we were still poor (lol)… So now that I have been blessed with the means, I make some crazy moves with the money to keep it coming, thanks to God’s wisdom given unto me I make great “money moves”...lol
Now, this is a very important question sir, WHAT IS THE TEMPERATURE?
10000000000000 Degrees Celsius , the sun can’t even handle the #MOLLO
Tell us a bit about your new Single…
First of all “MOLLO” means fire in Setswana.
The single basically is speaking about the fire I am here for, which is the fire/passion that’s gives you drive to take you to the top. With dropping so much songs, this one was just speaking about the fire ‘a person also needs to push more in their life, but the whole song is a crazy south African “VIBE” , reminds you of a sunny day in the townships of SA or a long road trip it’s the song for that South African feeling. Hence the song is such a big song on all major stations especially Metro FM, it’s just our cultural authentic SA vibe. With all this division in the country I believe the song unites.
What does the future look like for you?
Khanyi Mbau
If you want to get ahold of Mawat, you can follow him on IG: @mawatshk , Twitter: @mawathsk , FB: MAWAT . For bookings,contact: [email protected] / 0731429199 Kgothatso Seerane.
Mollo is NOW AVAILABLE on ALL DIGITAL PLATFORMS!!!
The Story Of The Enlightened Prince
An excerpt from Mark Manson’s The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck
“About twenty-five hundred years ago, in the Himalayan foothills of present-day Nepal, there lived in a great palace a king who was going to have a son. For this son the king had a particularly grand idea: he would make the child’s life perfect. The child would never know a moment of suffering—every need, every desire, would be accounted for at all times. The king built high walls around the palace that prevented the prince from knowing the outside world. He spoiled the child, lavishing him with food and gifts, surrounding him with servants who catered to his every whim. And just as planned, the child grew up ignorant of the routine cruelties of human existence.
All of the prince’s childhood went on like this. But despite the endless luxury and opulence, the prince became kind of a pissed-off young man. Soon, every experience felt empty and valueless. The problem was that no matter what his father gave him, it never seemed enough, never meant anything. So late one night, the prince snuck out of the palace to see what was beyond its walls. He had a servant drive him through the local village, and what he saw horrified him.
For the first time in his life, the prince saw human suffering. He saw sick people, old people, homeless people, people in pain, even people dying. The prince returned to the palace and found himself in a sort of existential crisis. Not knowing how to process what he’d seen, he got all emo about everything and complained a lot. And, as is so typical of young men, the prince ended up blaming his father for the very things his father had tried to do for him. It was the riches, the prince thought, that had made him so miserable, that had made life seem so meaningless. He decided to run away. But the prince was more like his father than he knew. He had grand ideas too. He wouldn’t just run away; he would give up his royalty, his family, and all of his possessions and live in the streets, sleeping in dirt like an animal. There he would starve himself, torture himself, and beg for scraps of food from strangers for the rest of his life. The next night, the prince snuck out of the palace again, this time never to return. For years he lived as a bum, a discarded and forgotten remnant of society, the dog shit caked to the bottom of the social totem pole. And as planned, the prince suffered greatly. He suffered through disease, hunger, pain, loneliness, and decay. He confronted the brink of death itself, often limited to eating a single nut each day. A few years went by. Then a few more. And then . . . nothing happened. The prince began to notice that this life of suffering wasn’t all that it was cracked up to be. It wasn’t bringing him the insight he had desired. It wasn’t revealing any deeper mystery of the world or its ultimate purpose. In fact, the prince came to know what the rest of us have always kind of known: that suffering totally sucks. And it’s not necessarily that meaningful either. As with being rich, there is no value in suffering when it’s done without purpose. And soon the prince came to the conclusion that his grand idea, like his father’s, was in fact a fucking terrible idea and he should probably go do something else instead.
Totally confused, the prince cleaned himself up and went and found a big tree near a river. He decided that he would sit under that tree and not get up until he came up with another grand idea. As the legend goes, the confused prince sat under that tree for forty-nine days. We won’t delve into the biological viability ofsitting in the same spot for forty-nine days, but let’s just say that in that time the prince came to a number of profound realizations. One of those realizations was this: that life itself is a form of suffering. The rich suffer because of their riches. The poor suffer because of their poverty. People without a family suffer because they have no family. People with a family suffer because of their family. People who pursue worldly pleasures suffer because of their worldly pleasures. People who abstain from worldly pleasures suffer because of their abstention. This isn’t to say that all suffering is equal. Some suffering is certainly more painful than other suffering. But we all must suffer nonetheless.
Years later, the prince would build his own philosophy and share it with the world, and this would be its first and central tenet: that pain and loss are inevitable and we should let go of trying to resist them. The prince would later become known as the Buddha. And in case you haven’t heard of him, he was kind of a big deal.
Globe Trotter: Tales from a South African Expat
By @deartlotli
Expatriate noun
noun: expatriate; plural noun: expatriates
Also Known As: Expat
1. A person who lives outside their native country. "American expatriates in London"
“Home is where the heart is but the world is where my soul belongs.”
Leaving home is a rite of passage for many of us, for example, a lot of us leave when we go to university/college and some when they start a family. It is an essential part of growing up, no matter how scary it might be. Some people, however, take it up a notch and move to another country altogether. These type of people, or expats as they are more commonly called, possess the type of courage that many authors describe in their books. Keitumetse Mogoase Tolo is a fine example of such.
Keitumetse left South Africa for Germany as part of her company’s project that send young people abroad for multiple skills training and enhancements. Being the trailblazer that she is, Keitumetse became the first person at her job level to leave the country for this type of assignment. I spoke to her about her experiences and this is what she had to say:
● ON PREPARATIONS FOR THE BIG MOVE:
Leaving your country of origin to live in a completely foreign land is frightening for anyone, it was especially harder for Keitumetse because she had to leave behind not just her life in South Africa, but also, her sick father. It is a change that she had to adapt to, not only on a physical level but also on a psychological one. “Mentally, it got a bit challenging because it meant having to leave my sick father, in Hospital. I also left behind my family, friends, my culture, and my favourite food…however I pressed on’’.
● ON OVERCOMING COMMUNICATION BARRIERS
It took Keitumetse 8 months to settle into her new life. In those 8 months, she said she could already speak about 5% of the German language, admittedly though, she confessed to using a few translation apps to help her with the language and in addition to the apps, she used other, more interesting methods “I did not read books pertaining to Germany in particular, however to pick up a little German, a colleague bought me kiddies books which are used in kindergarten (crèche) and they helped as they have pictures, thus I was able to know what a table, glass, light etc. is, in German”.
● ON THE MENTAL ADJUSTMENT
A couple of weeks after her arrival in Germany, Keitumetse received word that her ailing father was now deceased. As you can imagine, these news coupled with her big move, greatly affected her state of mind. “The 8 months were torture, emotionally and mentally because it meant I could not speak my home language with anyone except on call to South Africa. I could not mourn my father with my family. What made it worse was the eternally grey and extremely cold weather. The lack of sunshine affected me a lot, I didn’t realise it until I got sick and was given Vitamin D tablets because my levels were so low. I felt despondent and depressed all the time.” Keitu got through this mental mountain by admitting that she was not coping, She started seeing and talking to a professional at her workplace health center and found other coping mechanisms. However, she says, “there are positives with being alone because you get to get in touch with yourself and pinpoint issues or matters that need addressing.” I HEAR THAT!
● ON RACISM
Travelling for black people is a different experience altogether, because, apart from the usual travel inventory, you also have to take into account the racism or lack thereof, of any country you plan on visiting.This is Keitumetse’s experience with Racism in Germany:
“I have always been stared at. At first I thought there was something wrong with me. Truth is, yes racism exist. In areas in the East, it is rife and in the West, it’s more subtle. I have been ignored in shops, I was hit by a bus door and had to step off while it was still taking off, I have been ignored in supermarkets and banks and I have consulted doctors who would not look at me in the eye...do I call it racism? YES. Did I dwell on it? NO. I found other places and service providers who were not repulsed by my skin. The status here taught me to be more assertive and to remember that I matter. Also, to remind people that I did not come here to clean bathrooms, but I am corporate employee, who deserves to be treated with respect.”
● KEITUMETSE’S TIPS TO ADAPTING TO A FOREIGN COUNTRY
1. Know why you left home and understand that people live differently to how you lived back home and that is okay.
2. Allow yourself to feel lost, adapting to a new place takes time. Getting lost simply means you are learning something new and learning always leads to growth.
3. Be open to new experiences. When it gets to be too much, don’t rush to pack your suitcases, rather seek help.
4. Keep a diary because you will be your only friend in the beginning. Become curious. And remember that you are just a flight away from home or another sunny place if the grey weather gets to you.
5. Mix with the locals, you will be rejected but you will definitely find ones that will accept you and learn from you as much as you will learn from them. No one can teach you how to adapt really, the beauty is in how open and vulnerable you are willing to be.
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Buhle Sithela: A Phanda Bear QnA
Buhle Sithela is a 22 year old Social Entrepreneur from the Western Cape. This ambitious young man is the founder of Vuma Pop Up Cinemas and Vuma Bin Cleaning Services. I got the chance to pick his brain a bit to find out what makes him the Phanda Bear he quite clearly is. Here's what he had to say:
• Q: You are a young, budding, Social Entrepreneur. For those who are not familiar with the term, can you explain what being a social entrepreneur entails?
• A: Being a social entrepreneur means being a hustler and running a project that focuses on solving community issues.
• Q: You host Ekasi pop up cinemas, can you tell me what that is exactly?
• A: Ekasi Pop-up Cinema is a project that brings cinemas to the township. We saw a gap in that we don't have cinemas in at all our communities. I believe films can engage communities into one space. We can educate, inspire and entertain using films. By hosting these Pop-up Cinemas, we create a safe space in the community plus we also host discussions after the film.
• Q: It is widely believed that most entrepreneurs fail within the first couple of years of starting their businesses...what makes you different from those entrepreneurs?
• A: I've also experienced failure at some point because It's not easy to start a business. I had to take risk and had to be smart. CIinema equipment costs a lot so I had to start another project to raise funds to buy the equipment I needed. Business is business and there is always be going to be ups and downs. I had to stay strong because people believed in me.
• Q: You also clean bins. Most people would scoff at that idea but you saw an opportunity to make money...what sparked that idea?
• A: I live in a township and I see the problems people face everyday. I wanted to start something unique and that would help the people. I realised that by cleaning bins I can charge people for the service. I can also bring hygiene awareness while employing young guys at the same time. So I asked myself, why not? People hate the smell in their bins. I saw an opportunity to profit from that.
• Q: What are the (5) rules you live by as an entrepreneur?
• A: Be Patient, Take Risks, Measure Progress, Seek Advice/ a Mentor and Network with like minded people.
• Q: Which areas do you currently service at the moment?
• A: I see my cleaning service growing to other townships and also servicing government facilities and supermarkets. With regards to the cinema, we want to share the joy of cinema with all mzansi people. We want to host roadshows in different communities in mzansi afrika.
• Q: You are clearly very passionate about your community, why is that?
• A: Communities always come last when it comes to opportunities so, there is a lot of money to be made in Kasi's instead of us all going to the cities to hustle.
• Q:What advice do you give people who are inspired by your journey?
• A: Find something that you love and do it every day. Make sure you have knowledge and the required skills of the industry you want to join. I always make use of the Internet, it helps a lot. Also attending workshops and seminars help I'm terms of finding your passion. Not forgetting education that's the best tool that no one can take from you.
If you would like to know more about Buhle's ventures, hit him up on Twitter, his handle is @buhle_Sithela.
I am @DearTlotli for @dreamcatcherza. Love and Light.
Phanda Bears: The Let's Flirt Inc. Story.
The year was 2015. Jacob Zuma was still the South African president, Hover boards(that don't actually hover) were all the rage and three friends from Ekurhuleni started what would be one of the greatest events companies, the East Rand has ever seen.
Thapelo "Hov" Matsaba, Mthetheleli "Mus" Mathikani and Thokozani "Fresh" Nkosi started Let's Flirt Inc. With the hopes of becoming the most esteemed Hip hop event organisers in the Ekurhuleni area, "The idea was making Let's Flirt Inc. the epitome of the hip hop culture and bringing the lifestyle to the masses", Hov said.
Getting to the level they find themselves at has not be all sunshine and roses, as Hov later explained, "We are three different individuals and we are bound to find our egos clashing time and again but because we are friends, we are able to deal with it."
The three have hosted events such as The All White Picnic, The sneaker Fest and The All Black Everything party, which is one of their most reveered events, boasting A-list performers such as, Moozlie, Do Speedsta and The Major league Djs.
The annual All Black Everything party is happening this weekend on the 28th of July 2018 and true to form, features top acts such as Shane Eagle, Dj Warras, Zan D and Ms Cosmo.
For more information on this and other events, follow the guys on twitter: @Mr_letsflirt @hov_letsflirt and @letsflirt_inc.
Love and Light.