DREAMER’S COLLECTIVE

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[cerbiecourse]

Your daily reminder...

You do not need to post about things to care about them. "I see you not reblogging" is guilt-tripping.

You're allowed to curate your own blog. "I don't care if this doesn't fit your blog aesthetic" is guilt-tripping.

You're allowed to skip past posts that distress you. "x amount of people must reblog" is guilt-tripping.

Permission is not needed but for those whom it will make more comfortable; you are allowed to block people who post bullcrap that makes you feel guilty.

This post has no DNI; everyone may reblog regardless of syscourse stance, but reblogs are not required. Spread love.

− Helena, she/her, Emotional Protector from within the Cerberus collective Rylas, he/they, Tulpa and caretaker from within the Cerberus collective

[psychotic-tbh]

Stop saying…

“Psychotic/Schizophrenic” when you mean: unpredictable, unrestrained, unreal, etc.

“Bipolar” when you mean: polarized, scattered, fickle, unstable, etc.

“Delusional” when you mean: unrealistic, unreasonable, close-minded, stubborn, etc.

“[insert “R” slur in relation to intellectual disabilities]” when you mean: unreasonable, ridiculous, scatterbrained, immature, etc.

“OCD” when you mean: particular, neat, overbearing, etc.

“Narcissistic” when you mean selfish, abusive, manipulative, etc.

Note: I’m NOT saying that these are synonymous. This is also not an exhaustive list.

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

Being "anti-endo" is one of the most aggressively pro-psych hills to die on. Like what do you mean that any atypical experience that doesn't fit neatly into the DSMs diagnostic categories inherently isn't real or valid and should just be silenced in the name of protecting the "real" mental health experiences. Are you guys for fucking real right now

[dreamers-collective]

TW: system vent.

there’s someone screaming in my head.

i don’t know who they are or how to help them, but i can hear it. i can feel it.

i want to ask them what it is, what they need, but there’s only this pricing, incoherent agony somewhere in the back of my mind. i can’t seem to reach them; they always pull away too soon.

it’s starting to hurt. i have a splitting headache from all the noise in my head and it’s beginning to whittle my own sanity away…

i can’t tell if this is a psychosis or if it’s possible i’m hearing another headmate?

NOTE: if you’ve read this far and you’re a system who’s ever experienced anything like this, i would genuinely really appreciate you sharing your thoughts. it feels so frustrating trying to figure all of this out on my own.

[osddid-i-do-that]

“One of your alters doesn’t like me!”

My dude some of my alters don’t like ME. You ain’t special.

[interstellarsystem]

We love being a system. I love being in a system. I am cofronting at a party, one guy dissociated off the face of the planet, and the other guy (me, his partner), keeping the body semi functional. Gently imposing my hand resting on his shoulder. There in case he needs me for anything. I love looking after him, and I think I love sharing a body with him. Even if we cannot physically share a hug, I think this is something unique and special. In system relationships are wonderful.

[flerkenindisguise]

Sometimes, in-system love looks like bathing the body together. You scratch my I scratch your hair while we rinse it out. You brush our teeth for me and I put lotion on our skin for you and you tell us to drink water before bed because it helps us when we wake up feel less awful.

Sometimes, in-system love looks like picking the coffee flavor that you know someone else likes better than the one you do. I choose the plain latte with half and half when what I would pick is the lavender honey one because I know you’re close enough to taste it and you’ll enjoy that.

Sometimes it looks like fighting over cocktail flavors. You like scotch and I can’t stand it, I’ll have a fruity drink off to the side so we can both enjoy something.

In-system love can be experiencing bodily sensations jointly.

[cosmossystem]

dating your headmates is great and all but there’s a sadness to it. like is this all there is? you kiss my forehead, but nothing happens. we’re holding hands, but no one sees it. there is no other body to hold at night, the hands running through my hair are my own. no one understands and no one tries to. i love you, but it’s not enough. im still touch starved and no amount of this can fix it. on some level we wish it were visible. in some way we wish it were real.

[kin-katalogue]

It's kind of scary when I realize certain kintypes aren't actually my kintypes. Being wrong is fine. It's part of discovering myself. But I don't want people to be like "Wow. So you were just faking?"

Ya know?

I wasn't faking. I just came to a wrong conclusion about my kintypes.

That applies to all fictionkin as well. It's okay to he wrong. Keep looking for yourself. That's all.

—River (This is just me. No shift at the moment)

[dreamers-collective]

Sometimes it’s hard to tell your alters apart.

Sometimes you’ll have no idea who you are, and the lines between system members will seem so blurry that you cannot decipher where one of you ends and another begins.

There will be days you can’t determine which alter you are and sometimes you might even get it wrong…but that’s okay.

It isn’t always so clear for everyone. Your system is every bit as valid as those with clearly defined identities—regardless of how individual or overlapping your identities may be.

[feralsapientia]

I know there's a lot of people following this account whose kinks come from traumatic events, either when you were young or when you grew up.

I wanted to remind yall that none of us are evil for coping with our trauma in this way. We are not evil for getting turned on by certain situations. As long as everything we do doesn't hurt anyone and it's consensual we do NOT owe anyone anything. You don't have to feel guilty for it.

Doms who have a cnc kink and get off on the thought of raping someone? Not evil. Ageres who enjoy fantasizing about older people taking advantage of them? Not disgusting. Sadomasochists that enjoy causing or receiving harm? Not degenerates.

Hell, even if your kink doesn't come from trauma, unless you harm someone for real without their consent, no one has the right to judge you. Thought crime doesn't exist.

[dreamers-collective]

You don’t have to use sign offs if you don’t want to! Whether it’s because your system is too blurry to use them, because you prefer to keep that information private or something else entirely—you absolutely don’t have to.

You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to just because other systems are doing it.

[the-jesus-pill]

Teaching children thinking bad thoughts about someone is the same thing as murdering that person is fucked up. 

Thought crime doesn’t exist. No one has ever been harmed or killed by someone thinking negative thoughts about them. 

You know what has harmed people though? Teaching them they are evil for things they can’t control. Especially those who have intrusive thoughts. 

Here’s for everyone who has been taught their thoughts make them evil.

Intrusive thoughts are not your secret desires. 

They are involuntary. 

You don’t need to be ashamed of them. 

They will pass.

You are not committing taboo. 

No one can read your mind.

No one will ever know what’s in your thoughts unless you feel like telling them.

No one can judge you for what you are thinking, whether voluntarily or involuntarily.

Your thoughts are private

You are not a bad person.

[interstellarsystem]

Shoutout to singlets that accept systems for who they are. Singlets who ask respectful questions and try to understand us. Singlets who do their best to accommodate different headmates and make them feel included. Singlets who listen to what systems have to say. You're so important. Please keep doing what you do.

[dreamers-collective]

It’s okay if you don’t know who you are. It’s okay if you don’t have clear profiles on every system member. It’s okay if you struggle to make sense of yourself and your alters.

You can take as much time as you need to figure it out, but it’s also okay if you never figure it out.

You are allowed to simply exist as you are. Even if you don’t know who that is. Even if it changes by the hour.

[dreamers-collective]

You don’t have to refer to each other as “we” if you don’t want to by the way! It’s important to use whatever language feels right for you and your system, and it’s okay if every headmate prefers to use different terms.

[dreamers-collective]

Also! Gentle reminder that it doesn’t make you any less of a system if you choose to refer to yourself/each other simply as “I”.

[teethcrunchrr]

Ah yeah im usually the one "driving" as i say and everyone else is just YAPPING in the back seat so i can just say "i" most of the time

When an alter talks its basically me transcribing what they say in my head bc it feels freeing not to just "lock them inside"

[dreamers-collective]

I do that too! Most of the time it’s just me or it’s me and someone else, but I’m almost always here either way. I’m an “apparently normal part”, and the others can’t front entirely on their own. They can influence me, but I have to essentially let them take control. I’m still here with them whenever they do, I’m just a little quieter/more of a passive observer until they’re gone.

[dreamers-collective]

You don’t have to refer to each other as “we” if you don’t want to by the way! It’s important to use whatever language feels right for you and your system, and it’s okay if every headmate prefers to use different terms.

[dreamers-collective]

Also! Gentle reminder that it doesn’t make you any less of a system if you choose to refer to yourself/each other simply as “I”.