The reason why you keep on fighting with your girlfriend about what she wants to eat, and she always says, "I don't know," is because women have been conditioned their entire lives not to look inward at themselves and figure out what they want, but to look outward at the world and figure out what the world wants from them.
So when you say, "What do you want?" for you that's a really easy answer. You say, "I want a burger," because you're not doing what she's doing, which is trying to figure out not only what she wants, but also what you want, without having any context or being able to read your mind. ...
... The reason why she's not familiar with looking inward at herself and saying, "I want a smoothie," is because she knows that if she says, "I would like a smoothie," you're gonna say, "I don't want a smoothie," and that's gonna be the end of the conversation, where you return the mental labour and the responsibility of figuring out not only what she wants but also what you want back to her.
— rodeomama3000 (TikTok, 29 Dec 2024)