Brutal Middle Class Basic Bob and Betty Mindset Mistakes, Part 2 : Seagulls.
Basic Bobs and Betties seek comfort and status, and try to do it at the expense of others with the least amount of work. Russia “Seagull” is what we call a particular person who unlike crabs wish you well in your success because they feel entitled to use you and mooch off you. If you allow them to do this they will despise you and become ungrateful. It’s much easier to despise someone than admit that you are a bad person for irreciprocally using people. 50-50 men have Seagull mindset.
As the saying goes, money can’t buy class. But you can learn it.
Seagull 🐦 behaviour hamper those in the middle class getting ahead.
Crab 🦀 is poverty mindset. Someone triggered by your success so they will drag you down.
Seagulls don’t drag people down who are successful but suck up to them and twist themselves into a pretzel and compete in being the biggest pick me when they see someone better off then them to try to leech of them and suck them dry of resources then spit them out. They have contempt for those they can’t take advantage of. Sounds like 50-50 middle class men who deceive women to move in to split then rent? Then read on. On top of that, the male seagull’s victim is be a free chef, driver, prostitute and maid and have the bills more easily paid in a process called “parking” where a man uses a woman he doesn’t love or intend to marry for free sex and cheaper rent.
Seagulls are from both genders.
Female Seagulls have this bizarre penchant for Chanel. When they have enough money you will see a Chanel purse or dress and they like to wear all black or neutral colours even if it doesn’t suit them, younger ones will wear a dusty pink that doesn’t suit them but think colour is a heresy other than red. They love pants and outdated French soccer mom chic they think makes them classy when actual French elite women have moved on like Carla Bruni Sarkozy, the current French First Lady or Salma Hayek.
Today French elite style is wear the colours that suit you. So these women think they are classy in outdated clothes and styles elite have moved on to gate keep from these arriviste Seagulls specifically.
What is an arriviste? It’s a specific and the worst kind of Seagull from nether hell. They are Middle of the Middle class who finally grazed the first layer of the upper middle class without developing class on the way. So they think they are all that and treat staff like trash because they feel they have finally arrived. They chase important people and name drop at galas and are a complete nuisance, while VIPs run from them. They are infamous for particularly wearing black and neutrals that don’t suit them and too much Chanel and immitation Chanel often borrowed or second hand. Way too much Chanel.
Often have a book about the life of Coco Chanel, Chanel handbag, Chanel wallet, Chanel like shows, the “ugly homeless floor rug material jacket” as my husband calls Chanel tweed jackets. It’s like they know they don’t have class of their own so they buy Chanel symbols or immitation there of when the elite have moved on from how Basic the Chanel look has become since all the arrivistes jumped on it. They will denigrate a young woman for not dressing like a dinosaur.
A little of Chanel is déclassé but a lot of it and often is a mark of some trying to buy class instead of spend the effort to become classy and trust me everyone knows what you are up to. Arrivistes will wear something ill fitting and say “but it’s Chanel” or “but it’s Dior” in a condescending tone implying “but you peasants won’t understand” when they are the peasant for buying something ill fitting just because it’s a designer label. Arrivistes have so many Chanel references you can see they are trying too hard to be classy and they are not. Class stems from how you treat people before anything you wear.
Basic people are obsessed with micro status hierarchies and finding ways to inflate their position in them and measure status instead of leveling up. Elite are too busy either leveling up or enjoying its fruits to care.
Seagulls do what Anna Bey calls “Little Miss Investigator” or trying to gauge status which is extremely vulgar because they determine are they going to leach of you or treat you like garbage based on where you are in the status hierarchy.
Why is asking a person what they do for a living so rude and makes a horrible impression with high value people? It’s because Seagulls ask this question to determine if they are going to suck up to you in a creepy way then leech off you or are they going to treat you like rubbish. That is why when pressed with what they do many CEOs will say they are janitors or something Seagulls have no interest in using.
Elite fear Seagulls as they find them disgusting so it’s important to know what their attributes are not to be mistaken for one by accident, as elite will run.
Elite are reciprocal. They climb by adding and exchanging value. Seagulls try to schmooze, rub shoulders and name drop. Seagulls want to take take take and give the least back.
Seagulls are low agency in that they take as little responsibility for their actions as they can but are not as low agency as a poverty mindset crab.
When you succeed your friend from pre-level up days, Crabina will try to take you down. Your friend from before, Seagullina will be cheering you.
Don’t fall for it. Before your level up journey Seagullina was always too busy to meet up, especially if you had problems but you succeed in your level up journey suddenly she is turns into a Pickmeisha towards you trying to be your best friend. Watch people who treated you with a quiet contempt or were too busy for you before. Affluent and classy people have an even manner with everyone.
When her husband’s stock goes down and in the lows of a natural fluctuation of a business Seagullina will leave her man for another man with money.
Seagulls are NEVER loyal.
If your boyfriend abused you and he has some social status Seagullinas will always take his side. And will try to virtue signal saying they are such a feminist. It’s amazing in bad divorces if a man has social status Seagullinas will take his side no matter how badly he abused his wife. After Roman Polanski Rabed a child flocks of Seagullinas came to his defence.
Seagulls are always traitors seaking comfort and status at the expense of others. You can see how if they lose their social status racism will appeal to them in an economic crisis.
Female Seagulls being low agency usually make stupid life decisions and are often romantic idiots following their hearts and maximizing their credit cards to ruin. Then they see you do well because you are responsible and they think you owe them to bail them out so they continue to be irresponsible. They start twisting themselves into a pretzel in hopes of being picked by you and it’s extremely annoying and gross.
For example you are responsible and are no longer a party girl after university. You don’t have your dream drop but work as a secretary at a bank or stockbroker firm that gives you an opportunity to level up financially. Or you work in tech. You studied finance or tech in university. You friend studied queering of feminism in medieval literature with a minor in music and is a part time waitress, part time musician who struggles to pay her rent and dated bad boys. The two of you were besties in middle school and high school. You discovered the level up community in university so changed to a sensible degree and have a sensible job that allows you to meet high value men. You are 24.
Seagullina points you never wear your old Valentino rock stud punk rock designer purse you bought on sale second hand after a year of saving for a bag to your Seagull friend because you realize it’s not who you are anymore and you have a Yves St Laurent bag you wear all the time instead. She asks if she can have it. You give it to her. Seagullina who keeps following her heart dates yet another jerk. They have a terrible break up, she has new jerk boy toy and her ex comes in and spray paints her apartment and tears up clothes including some you have her and the Valentino bag.
Seagullina calls you crying starting to suck up to you and tells you what happened and asks you if you can buy her a new Valentino bag?! You know if you subsidize poor decisions you get more of them. You tell her “Seagullina if you take your ex to court for vandalizing your place or at least report it to the police I will help you.” Seagullina “No I will never do report him. I still love him and hope he will apologize and take me back. I feel so sad my apartment is vandalized. Can you help me repaint it, buy me new paint and buy a new Valentino bag again!”
Me: “I am busy.”
If you help Seagullina the first time they may appreciate, some of them but if you always bail them out of bad decisions they will resent you and rather hate on you than admit low agency. It’s like a male type of Seagull, Bobby the Buildee who is build by Barabara the Builder and tosses her aside once he no longer needs her. Seagulls are notoriously ungrateful.
Two Seagullina stories:
1) A Seagullina with an agency was always ignoring me and treating me like a nobody because I am low key and everyone not famous like a nobody. But if she thinks someone is important she runs to be picked by them and looks pathetic. So at an event I walk up to Seagullina to say hi. She keeps ignoring me. I walk away to talk to my friend, whatever. She runs across the hall when she spots my friend and almost trips and falls. She didn’t have time to talk to me before, pushes me aside, interrupts then talks to my friend. Her Pickmeisha desperate to be liked energy horrifies my friend who finds her too obvious fawning to try to get business from my friend sleazy. My friend tells her my friend and I have to go and motions me and we leave to another end of the hall.
My friend says that she felt creeped out by this woman and thinks she was rude pushing me aside. I said “yeah she is rude and creepy.” Surprise surprise she didn’t get the contract.
2) a year later another Seagullina notices my designer belt and an event. She compliments me, and she offers to go for cocktails after the event, with her friend. So my husband the next Seagullina and her friend go for cocktails and oysters. Seagullina then tells me a sob story how she is too afraid to ask her husband help with anything and lost her artsy job during Covid, I should by her Fendi bag and the hippie overpriced neon sheep skin 70s shag carpet. And tried to guilt me into buying it and tried to qualify herself that she was into David Bowie before it was cool and isn’t David Bowie dead? She was really sucking up and then also threw one of her friends under the bus. I was grossed out by her. I just met her and it was the second time I ran into her.
Seagullina felt entitled because she couldn’t afford designer belts so wanted me to subsidize impulse purchases she no longer can afford after maxing out her credit card and said it.
3) the third Seagullina went out with a friend of mine and I and usually wore Chanel. She “forgot” her wallet and poorly pretended her iPay wasn’t working. She felt entitled since she was single but my friend was married to a doctor and I to a software engineer that we owed her.
Seagullinas treat people with contempt that they can’t use and fly and squawk “pick me! Pick me! You owe me! You have more than me!!”
Seagulls don’t want to stop being irresponsible, start leveling up and take responsibility. Instead they think people who are responsible owe subsidizing their irresponsibility because we have more. Male Seagulls are in the dusty phase of life and want women to build them and split the courtship 50-50 or have the woman pay if she can and build him on top. Then hate Barbara the Builder for Building him and swap for a younger woman.
Seagulls suck to people they want to use and treat everyone else and those they have finished using like trash. If you subsidize a Seagull they will resent you and drop on you and squawk bad things behind your back overtime rather than admit that you are an irreciprocal moocher.
I saved one guy’s artistic event and helped him out. At first the Seagull sucked up to me and then said the nastiest garbage behind my back when he no longer needed me. The thing is it’s a small world so his reputation spread. He did the same to others and so eventually had to move for the reputation he created for himself. And I am sure he moved from that new place too.
Watch out for Seagulls and make sure not to appear to mistaken by one. You can’t stop a Seagull from being a Seagull but you can watch out for this Basic Betty and Basic Bob behaviour. You can’t stop basic people from being basic but you can identify the red flags of Basic and avoid them.
Sucking up to people doesn’t add value. Adding value and reciprocating adds value. Reciprocity is elite morality. Seagulls will never be elite because elite shut the door on those who try to grab and do not give reciprocate. Elite do not help the ungrateful. Elite help the responsible and nobody owes anyone anything. The attitude of entitlement and ingratitude by Seagulls is unreal! High value men do not keep dating ungrateful Seagulls anymore that high value women keep on dating dusties.
High value people have an even manner, reciprocate, show gratitude, don’t suck up and add value.
