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Understanding the Self

The wise writer Jiddu Krishnamurti once wrote, "If you begin to realize what you are without attempting to change it, then what you are experiencing is a transformation." If you don't understand yourself, you will lose your focus and spend on things that are not under your power. During the discussion of our UTS subject, I have learned the importance of taking the subject literally; to understand oneself. We should take time to assess ourselves. This subject has helped me understand myself more through various aspects of life. One thing that had a great impact on me was the significance of self-care. Having a hectic schedule which we have to deal with every day is exhausting. Having a self-care plan serves as a reward for ourselves, to pamper and keep our body, mind and soul healthy. Another thing that have discovered about myself is the importance of dealing with your material self. At the present time, a lot of online shopping platforms are emerging, giving the consumers more convenient way of purchasing goods. We must always think twice in purchasing material possessions. We should always put our needs first before our wants as excessive acquisition of material things may lead to psychological dysfunction such as compulsive buying disorder (CBD). The most important lesson that I have learned is the self-identification. Keeping our moral, spiritual and philosophical beliefs intact is essential in dealing with our own identity. To recognize our own identity entails a lot of effort but this leads to accepting ourselves. Understanding the self is not done overnight, you have to keep on engage with it day and night.

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The Art of Self-Care Plan

A lot of students are having a hard time coping with the situation that we face today. Taking classes at home through online platforms is tiring since you are required to submit activities, study up all night to prepare for quizzes and exams while trying to do household chores at the same time. Having to finish all of these before the day ends is draining. And sometimes, we are so busy with these tasks that we forget to take care of ourselves. This shows the importance of creating and applying a Self-Care Plan.

Physical Care. We must take good care of ourselves. In order to do so, we must always try to incorporate exercises in our daily activities. Most of us nowadays spend a lot of hours sitting in front of the computer for work or school. Stretching your backs, arms, legs, and taking your eyes off the screen for a few minutes would be refreshing to your body. We should also at least have 6-8 hours of sleep in order to keep our body working well and having a lot of energy to do our daily tasks. Eating a well-balanced diet is also a key component in keeping our bodies free from sickness. Last but not the least, we should keep our body hydrated to replenish all of the liquids that we lose especially now that we’re having a hot weather. We must at least consume 8-10 glasses of water to keep ourselves hydrated.

Cognitive Care. Keeping our mind in good shape is important. Reducing your stress levels will help you focus your attention and increase your attention span. Try to get rid of stressful situations, if you can. Try stress reduction exercises if you can't remove yourself. You can take a brief walk around your house or workplace, if possible, put in some headphones and listen to music to concentrate your thoughts. Consider taking time to practice at home, or do yoga. By sitting in a quiet place, focusing on your breathing and being mindful of your thoughts you can also reduce stress with simple meditation techniques. These stress-reducing techniques will boost the ability to focus and develop cognitive skills that are linked to concentration. Challenging mental activities can help you improve your memory, focus, reasoning and processing skills such as playing games that engages your mind like puzzles, crossword and other games.

Emotional Care. I can say that I have a hard time dealing with my emotions before. I tend to bottle up my emotions and wait for myself to burst. This is not an advisable way of dealing with emotions since we tend to lose control when we are emotional. Understanding your emotions can also be a positive strategy for getting through life in the best possible way you can. One thing that I have learned through the years is letting yourself cry. Cry all the pains and heartaches that we feel as this is our body’s way of releasing the stress that we feel emotionally. After crying, we can notice how our body feels ‘lighter’. Furthermore, having a close friend whom you dearly trust is handy in handling these emotions as they can be the person beside you as you get through your problems in life. They help you release these emotions and this is actually better than handling all of these by yourself.

Social Care. Engaging with other is important in preserving our social care. We must always aim good company with other people as it radiates positive vibes. Social wellness is significant, since there are endless positive effects of establishing and sustaining healthy relationships. People who reap significant health benefits socially well and might even live longer. Building healthy relationships is vital in improving our social health. You'll need to maintain those relationships over time once you have formed connections. Strong bonds are an integral part of overall health. Even though it takes time to create connections, a social support network has many advantages. These supportive relationships are what can make the good times better and the rough times. But as creating these relationships with others, we must also learn when to detach with them whenever they bring negativity in our lives. Learn when to cut ties with them when they bring more toxicity rather than positivity.

Moral Care. Care ethics is a normative ethical philosophy that holds moral behavior as a virtue centering on interpersonal relationships and care or benevolence. One thing to keeping our moral intact is by knowing which is right or wrong. Stick to your moral code and discipline yourself. Never lose grip with your moral code.

Spiritual Care. Each person you meet is in a different place in their spiritual journey. As you interact, imagine what it’s like to be in their shoes and ask God for wisdom to support them in the way they need. We should demonstrate a Christ-like attitude. Don’t just say you love someone, but truly love them and see the good in them. Stay connected with the Lord Almighty be constantly talking to Him through prayers and devotions. We must keep our souls spiritually healthy by feeding it with words from the bible. Reading the bible keeps our soul healthy and reminds us on how we should treat other people. As how my pastor used to say to us, the bible is an acronym which means “basic instructions before leaving earth”. The bible keeps us prompted in what to do while we are still here in Earth living temporarily.

Self-care is any activity that we ensure deliberately in order to take care of our physical, cognitive, emotional, social, moral, and spiritual health. Upright self-care is crucial to improved mood and reduced anxiety. It is also significant to a good relationship with oneself and others. Self-care is not a selfish act either. It is not only about considering our needs but rather about knowing what we must do in order to take care of ourselves and able to take care of others as well.

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Creating a SMART Goal

           Having a goal in life is what keeps us motivated to do best and finish all the tasks that we face every day. Everyone has a goal which they want to achieve before leaving Earth. No matter how small it may seem to others, what matters is that this goal is important to you. For myself, my goal is to be successful in life. Being successful for me is having our own house. Since we currently do not own one and is just renting a house for the meantime, this is enough motivation for me to do my best in order to achieve this goal. Another definition of being successful for me is not having to worry about paying electrical or water bills. This may seem little for others but not worrying about bills is something that would be a great relief for me. Especially when being in a broken family, things like this would be a great help for us. I would know that I had achieved this goal if I already attain these things. If I am already able to help with my family financially. If I can see the outcomes of my hard work. Like how my friend used to say, it does not matter if your process is slow as long as there is progress. Baby steps are better than not making these steps at all. In order to attain my goals in life, I must exert effort in my studies, give my best in all of the things I’m doing. I should be ready to face challenges and be adaptive to change. Like in choosing my course, taking BS Nursing is not really my first choice. I really wanted to pursue Culinary, Psychology or Forensic Science but I was not able to take these courses. That made me see things in a bigger picture, it does not matter what course I’m going to take as long as I will be able to finish school and get a decent job. Taking up Nursing for college isn’t a burden for me as well since I also wanted to be able to help and take care of people and this ensures my future since I am certain that I will have a job after graduating. Also there’s a part in nursing where you are in charge with the diet of the patient. This way, I can also practice my culinary skills even though I am in a different course. Achieving this goal is important for me as this would help me get my family off of poverty. I will be able to help my family and be able to start my own family in the right time soon. To have my own house would be great since I would not worry about paying rent every month and when I die, my family would not worry about not having a roof over their heads. The most important part for me in this goal is setting a time frame on when will I be able to accomplish it as it keeps you up on track and reminds you of your progress in a certain amount of time. I foresee my goal to take place around 10 years from now. This gives me enough time to finish studies and be able to get a well-paying job and save up for my goals. This blog would always remind me of what I want to achieve in life. I should always remind myself not to lose hope, to do my very best and to see the bigger picture in life.

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Strengths and Weaknesses: An Overview in Accomplishing your Academic Goals

           In order to accomplish our academic goals, we must first know our strength and weaknesses for us to have a better grasp on which portion we should focus more on, or on which part we excel immensely. Assessing your strengths and weakness is one of the effective ways which helps you in attaining your goals in the academic field and we can assess ourselves accurately by answering the Multiple Intelligence Inventory. Howard Gardner proposed this model in his 1983 book Frames of Mind: The Theory of Multiple Intelligences. This theory distinguishes human intelligence into unique 'modalities' instead of perceiving intelligence as dominated by a single general capacity.

             After answering the Multiple Intelligence Inventory, I have discovered that I excel in the existential, kinesthetic and intrapersonal fields. The results shows that I belong to the introspective group of intelligences which for me is accurate as I tend to contemplate on things from time to time. Knowing that I lack on the other fields of intelligences, this gives me the chance to focus on them more and improve myself better since the results illustrates what strengths I have now and does not necessarily mean that this is only what I can be.

           My abilities and skills are what makes me unique as it defines me as a person. One of my abilities which is helpful in accomplishing my academic goals is being social as it helps me engage with other people that may help me in achieving my goals. Having friends who shares the same mindset with you is helpful as you tend to lift each other up in achieving your goals. While we trust one another, we must also trust ourselves. We must stay goal-oriented and see the bigger picture of things. We should not lose sight of what we are aiming for. Stay focused and determined.

           Having a pandemic right now while studying is hard. Since we are taking our classes at home, one of the barriers that I’m having right now in my academic goal is time management. Being at home, it’s hard to manage time because I have tasks here at home to finish before the day ends and it coincides with my online classes. Making a daily schedule of activities to follow so that I can keep track of my time.

           Lacking of time management also leads to procrastination for me. I always tend to procrastinate but as what I have noticed, I am slowly overcoming this attitude. As I have stated earlier, having friends with common goal is essential especially during college years. They remind you of the things we need to accomplish as students and you would tend to be more determined to finish your activities on time since you got company with the same mindset.

           During this school year, one thing that I achieved is improving my self-esteem as I tried running for the position of First Year Representative of the Philippine Nursing Students Association at school. Seeing myself trying to do things I’m not used to doing is a big achievement for me. Stepping out of my comfort zone and trying something new is rewarding for me and boosts my self-esteem even more. Even though I did not win the elections, for me I still have won since I gained confidence. Learning to accept your imperfections and being open to changes is something to be happy about. Little achievements like these makes me happy as this small steps leads to bigger and greater things. Happiness really does start from within.

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An insight on the Eastern concept of the self.

I like how the Eastern concept focuses more on holistic approach and tends to look at the bigger picture. It helps give yourself meaning on who you are as a person and provides reason on the purpose of why you are living in this world. It helps you in unleashing a better you.

If someone with another nationality tries to belittle me and my race, I would speak up in a professional and calm manner. Because in applying the Eastern concept of self, you already know the truth and that it is already given and does not have to be proved. No matter what he/she might say about me, it would not impact me that much because deep inside, I know that it is not true.

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A letter to self.

Dear self, I’m sorry for all the pains and the heartaches that you had to come through growing up. I’m sorry for all those problems in life that you had to overcome alone, those times when a lot of things are clouding up your mind and no one was there beside you to deal with them, those silent battles you had to face. I’m very sorry if there are parts of your childhood in which you did not enjoy especially when growing up in a broken family. Please don’t ever blame yourself for everything bad that’s happening in your life. I’m very proud of what you’ve become despite having a lot of difficulties in life. You have proved yourself worthy of what you have right now. You improved a lot! It makes me delighted to see who you are as a person today. You already know how to open up to others instead of bottling up all of your emotions. Continue making yourself a better person. Always love yourself and pursue all the things you are passionate about. Everybody may leave but yourself will always have your back. Keep up the good work!

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Unleash the “better you”

In unleashing my “better self”, I must first determine who I am or what I am as a person. I must know which personality I should keep and which personality I must change or improve. Knowing myself, I tend to procrastinate in doing things or to be selfless and focus more on how other people would feel rather than how I would feel. These are just some of the things that I can change in improving myself. I want to project myself into someone that my future self would be proud of. I’m passionate in doing what I love and as long as I learn to love myself more, I would be able to change myself. The time it takes to forming a better you does not matter as long as there is progress day-by-day. Getting better is never instant. It is baby steps on the way. Just like the turtle on the race, even if it was slow, it kept on moving. No matter how tiring it takes, we must strive in improving ourselves. As long as we make progress, all will be well.

When I was a kid, I remember not being used to ask for toys or other things especially expensive ones. We were raised not to request for things but to work hard to have it. We always have each other’s backs and are always supportive in everything we do. No matter the problems we have to face, we always face them together. My family were the ones who influenced me the most growing up. They had a big impact in molding who I am today. Being able to give back to them is one of the ways in which I can unleash a better me towards my family.

The society I belong in also has influenced who I am. From the people in my community, to the friends I hang out with, to the church I go to, each of them has somewhat contributed in my persona. Growing up here in Davao, I noticed how most people are “palaban” like how the Dutertes are portrayed as being strong. Even in the way they talk, you could sense how “strong” they sound. In my church however, they have taught us to be humble and to do good not only to others but to ourselves as well. They have imparted to us how our bodies serves as a temple of God. So in creating an improved version of our self, it does not only benefit us but it also gives glory to the Lord Almighty.

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Personality Evaluation

In evaluating my personality, Plato coincides with my persona because I also believe that the self consists of body and soul. For me, I believe that the soul is the one who controls the body as how an engine makes the car move. The body cannot function without the soul being present. As how Plato emphasizes on the three components of the soul such as the rational, spirited and appetitive; it shows how a lot of things can affect our decisions that we make in life. These 3 components helps in our decision making as how reasonable the decision is, is it influenced with our current emotion or feelings, or how eager/uninterested we are about something. I strongly accept his philosophy about self because the said components aids us not only in examining ourselves but in understanding others as well. In my opinion, the rational component of our soul should be the one in charge as how it sees everything logically. It expresses how we should make a decision that is just affected by our emotions or just because we want something badly, or vice versa. The rational components assists us in making choices that could be good or bad. We should weigh things out before making a decision that may change our life. In addition, I would also add the philosophy of St. Augustine as he adds Christianity to the perspective of Plato. Saint Augustine states that our body is only temporary but our souls can live eternally. Being a Christian myself, I believe in the eternal life that we would have after we die, but it doesn’t mean that we should do whatever we want to, whenever we want to because we still should be careful and thankful with what the Lord has given us, and that we should be responsible of all of our decisions in life.