start

married to my best friend : trying to create stuff

[soft-princesa]

glo and grow privately, 2018

[purplebuddhaquotes]

“The bravest thing I ever did was continuing my life when I wanted to die.”

— Juliette Lewis

[mysharona1987]

[darkhoneyyy]

[arabwife]

I can’t wait for the day a woman’s strength isn’t dictated by how much abuse she can endure

[savagedefectives]

[mignonne-allons-voir-si-la-rose]

[thendofrainbow-deactivated20190]

[77ms]

[soracities]

Euripides, from “Orestes”, An Oresteia (trans. Anne Carson)

[serdtse]

“I am thinking—talking—in images. I don’t know how to write them down. Every feeling is physical.”

— Susan Sontag, from As Consciousness Is Harnessed to Flesh: Journals and Notebooks 1964-1980 (via luthienne)

[bolesci]

[afinaland]

“I feel very small. I don’t understand. I have so much courage, fire, energy, for many things, yet I get so hurt, so wounded by small things.”

— — Anaïs Nin, from Nearer the Moon: The Previously Unpublished Unexpurgated Diary, 1937-1939

[girlinlondon]

“Don’t wait for it. Create a world, your world. Alone. Stand alone. Create. And then the love will come to you, then it comes to you.”

—    Anaïs Nin

[blednochka-deactivated20171105]

[ana-elisabeta]

[anxiouslydepressedintrovert]

Why INFJs “Doorslam”

For those who don’t know, an INFJ doorslam is a thing termed for when an INFJ slowly stops talking to a person and is never heard from again. It can all happen very quickly or take its time. And we INFJs just don’t have any will or motivation to expend the energy to communicate with that person anymore.

A lot of my friends, and I’m sure people I’ve doorslammed, wonder why we do it. And the thing is, when it comes to contention *INFJs SHUT DOWN and REATREAT*, or just when feeling any negativity because of someone. I think we’re definitely more prone to flight when faced with contention that’s directly targeting us (vs. it targeting people we care about/things we’re passionate about). We don’t want to be around that painful negativity, and talking to them just seems pointless. We don’t know what we could say to someone who views us in a negative way.

Sometimes the person didn’t even do anything mean to us or anything like that, we just don’t feel comfortable around them and get the wrong vibe. I find also that different people expend my energy at different levels. People I’m close to hardly take energy from me, so I naturally avoid those who require tons of effort to be around.

That’s my piece on INFJ door slams, thoughts?

[dulceclausa]

Including personal growth and people I don’t feel like understand or support that growth. It’s exhausting to have a facade of agreement when it would probably end in an argument if I were honest. It’s easier to creep out slowly.