I'm Vietnamese and it's so much pressure to lose weight. I use to be pretty skinny, like 115 and I am 5'2 but I somehow gained to 148. My mom calls me fat EVERYDAY, like to the point I don't even want to call her to bring home food or ask her for any type of food. Like at first it was like whatever, but it's starting to take a huge toll on me. Already enough, I can't stand how I look bc I've never seen myself this way but with my mom putting me down too.. it sucks. How did you deal with it?
Hi! I’m so sorry that I just now read your message (I thought my blog writing days were over, but I was feeling nostalgic. Thank goodness I decided to login today. As cheesy as it sounds, it must have been fate that brought us together over the internet).
Ever since I stopped the blog, my weight has been fluctuating, leading my mom to say the same things to me. “You have gained so much from college! You need to be on a strict diet.” “Your face is so fat and your waist is so big.” “Cut out all carbs from your diet asap.” So you are not alone.
Here is some advice to get you started:
1) If you want to lose weight do it for yourself, not for anyone else. Sure your mom might be pestering you, but at the end of the day only you control your body and what you do with it. It’s all up to you to get on that treadmill and make the healthy choices. Furthermore, it’s better if you are the one who takes the initiative because you will be motivated throughout the entire process. Having someone push you to lose weight will make you grow resentful of them.
2) Asian moms are psycho - they say hurtful things without thinking about the other person. There have been times when I would bawl in my room after listening to my mom rant about my weight. But the thing is they have good intentions. If only they knew how to communicate them in a nicer way....
Sit down with her and calmly tell her that you understand you are not in the healthiest state, but are going to make some changes that will take some time to implement. Say that you hear her loud and clear and would appreciate it if she would support you while you start your journey to a healthier lifestyle. At this point, she should stop with the derogatory comments.
3) Start making small changes to your diet (drink more water, limit your candy consumption, cut back on soda, etc.) and start introducing some exercise to your daily routine (walk around your neighborhood, take the stairs instead of the elevator). It’s all about the baby steps.
4) Get plenty of sleep. Your body does not function right when it has been well rested.
Hope this gives you a good start. I will admit that I’m not in a healthy state right now. So we can start our journey together! Keep me updated on your status.
