At some point, we had realized we were in an unfavorable pattern in our relationship that neither of us wanted to be in & definitely didn't want to stay in. So, I suggested couple's therapy, preferably with a therapist and he suggested a self-help book stating that we attempt to fix ourselves before paying money to a professional. Alright. I went into research mode, looking for a couple's "self-help" book that would help us both (and me alone, as a hunch advised) & found this book. I sent him what I shared, told him he buy his book and I'd buy mine (more of a test to his committment, if I'm being honest). He did and when our books arrived, we agreed to reading a chapter before bed and discussing what we read the next day. I read my chapter before bed, annotating as I did, & the next day, I was ready to discuss. He wasn't. He assured me he would though. So, that night, I continued & read another chapter, writing annotations along the way, ready to discuss both chapters the next day. He read it, but didn't make it as far as I did. We discussed it, but not completely. Then, one day or night, he spilled some water on his book & told me it was ruined & there was no way he could read it. This disheartened me as there was so much useful information I know would have helped us. Well... I guess there was no point in me finishing the book because we got it to help us as a couple. I didn't listen to my hunch. I go visit him for a weekend & noticed this book with his other books & it was not in an unreadable ruined state, as I was told. Only a few pages were crumpled & these pages were readable. I pointed out the book, mentioned what he had said about the book, & was told that I misunderstood what he said. Oh... ok... Neither of us ever went back to read it. Now I'm left to wonder whethere reading it, as we had discussed, would have made a difference? Or whether me finishing the book on my own, as my hunch has advised, would have saved us both a lot of time? We will never know now, but I can still read it & be better & stronger & that's what I'm going to do. https://www.instagram.com/p/CYfpb3moe_CPYogiv1bMqBbV9VKfVPEdA-34yw0/?utm_medium=tumblr