[been a long-ass time since i was here so i should probably mention that i’m retiring from pokerp. i’m chilling out in a new fandom and the muse here’s kinda petered out save for a few private rp sessions/lingering connections with friends, so!! yeah
idk if anyone wants it, but i do have a personal account/twitter/etc (backgroundcheese/musasuchus are my main handles most places) if anyone who hasn’t gotten in contact with me before still wants to chat or hang out
see y’all on the flip side, thanks for the good times!!]
...Welp, I’ve been thinking about it for a bit. Given that I’m kind of involved in all this hooha everyone may or may not have seen floating around, I should probably make a personal statement for the record:
So this is listed over on my mod page on my blog under “Navigation”.
It’s been there for quite a long time, probably since I started using this theme. And it will always be something I stand by.
What I mean by it is simple: I absolutely under no circumstances condone hate or mistreatment. Not toward me, not toward my friends, not toward strangers, not even toward people who have hurt me. Nor will I perpetuate it.
I’ve not been spending much time dwelling on what happened to me these days. I’ve rekindled old passions, kept up with new and old friends, and have set aside the hurt to focus on what matters the most to me. I’m surrounded by those whom I love and admire, I’ve told stories that are dear to me, and even in real life things are really beginning to look up in big ways. That’s far more important to me than going on some crusade because of something that was a miserable experience for all involved.
I’m starting to heal. I’m moving on with my life.
To anyone who may wonder what happened, you’re welcome to message me. Do keep in mind that I prefer to handle any and all issues I may come across via private messages or Discord DMs and this is no different. I’d rather not drag this into the public’s eye and contribute to everything flying around.
Those of you who have sat down with me prior to this know that I welcome you to make your own decisions regarding what happened. You are all your own people, with your own mindsets, and with situations that could be completely different to my own.
And to those who may have seen a certain set of logs, I extend the same message. It is not my place to say who anyone should and should not be friends with. If you do show support to me, I appreciate it. If you don’t, or even feel the need to block me for your comfort, I will respect your decision. I encourage you to do what you feel is right for you and your well being. I will not try to circumvent your block.
(I will, however, ask that you please not spread hateful messages to others or spew biting comments about me behind my back. If you have a beef with me, I’d rather it be settled between us. I’m perfectly capable of having a polite conversation and would much rather be judged for who I am than for what another person may say about me. I will not punish you, and I expect you to show me the same respect I will to you as a fellow human being.)
Though the experience may have been one I look back on with a sour stomach, I do not encourage people to hurt, hate on, or harass the person in question. Especially not in the name of defending me or others. It does not matter the circumstances. Do not do this. That is all I will say.
I also find it important to mention that change does happen. Even just a few years ago I didn’t like the person I was; angry, spiteful, very openly depressed, generally unpleasant. I openly admit I wasn’t acting how I should have toward others. I’ve learned from that. It would be hypocritical of me to think that others cannot recognize their own mistakes, too, and cease their own bad behavior. The most positive outcome of this situation, in my opinion, would be recovery and personal growth for all involved. To be able to move on from this.
For those of you who have stuck around and read this far: first of all, thank you. I know it’s quite lengthy, but it’s also important.
Secondly, I hope that we can all learn from this; that nipping nasty behavior in the bud without hatred, without threats, and promoting the idea of self improvement is what matters most here. That people can better themselves. That stepping back and listening to each other’s stories without bias is more helpful than putting people down.
I hope that anyone reading this will take to heart that sometimes people do step out of line, but that in itself isn’t worth a death sentence. Owning one’s mistakes, considering one’s actions, and respecting boundaries is key to healthy relationships. Do not condone hateful words, even if they come from your friends. I say this both to the readers and to myself, as I plan to stand by and follow through on my own words to the best of my ability.
This is a swell community, all drama or problems considered. It really is. And I hope that it’ll stay that way in the coming months and years as we all get older and keep telling better and better stories. I’m going to be away for a bit since I need time off from Tumblr roleplay, but I still think about this place.
I want everyone to know that, regardless of what happens, I hope everyone can keep moving forward and that I wish you guys the best in all your endeavors.
some folks messaged me so i wanted to say to anyone who may be concerned that i’m alright!! you don’t gotta worry about me, i’m in high spirits and feeling just fine. and thank you to anyone who talked to me, it was real sweet of you!!]
[well idk who’s going around impersonating me on anon, but if anyone out there gets an anon containing mean messages signed with my url, i can tell you right now that it’s not me sending them. if it happens, please just block the anon and delete the message]
i should pppppprobably mention to y’all: i’m gonna be a lot less active here for a lil while!
i’ll still pop in from time to time for replies and to do the occasional thing, and anyone who needs guzma for something is welcome to message me here or on discord (i still rp pretty actively in discord chats), but my writing muse/general interest is elsewhere for the time being ahahaha.......]
Xurkitree, wearing Hala's robe, rolls up to Guzma's front door, and leans against it. Of course, he has to squat down when it opens, and shoves a box of Hala's belongings into the man's arms. "Heya, babe! Got this from the old man--I'm Melemele's Kahuna now--don't tell anyone. If Koko finds out, I'm dead. Like Hala is. I killed Hala. Gotta run, babe, Gelato needs ice cream PRONTO, later!"
As Xurk skips off into the distance in his usual xurkish way, Guzma’s left standing there with the box of...is this Hala’s shit? And Xurk was wearing Hala’s shirt, too?
[I’ve noticed a trend that’s bit worrying lately and I feel like this needs to be said: being respectful of your roleplay partner as another living human being with emotional boundaries is important.
Yes, roleplay is about having fun, but nobody should lose sight of the fact that behind each character is a real person who is fundamentally different than you are. Having fun should not be more important than treating others how we ourselves expect to be treated.
Sometimes some very heated topics and real world events get intermingled with fictional scenarios. These things are inherently fine when dealt with in a polite, serious manner, and there are people who even roleplay as a coping mechanism or a means of working through their own emotions. But I can’t stress enough that what you may find acceptable to bring into a roleplay setting may not be fine with your partner.
Not everyone has had the same experience as you, and may find said content uncomfortable or even triggering. You cannot say for sure whether or not your partner will be okay with it unless you ask, and it should be your responsibility as a good roleplay partner to step back when another person asserts their boundaries. If someone says no, respect that.
We are all in control of ourselves and our characters. Even if we joke that we’re not, we are. This is fiction. It would do everyone good to remember that we do, in fact, have an obligation to be mindful of the community around us.]
“Now I just need a good anchor point...” He pretends to look around, covering his eyes with his hand to get a better view. Eventually, his gaze falls back on Hala. “Perfect!”
He hauls the rock over his head and starts toward Hala--
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