Why a man would want his wife to sleep with another man?
Because I am proud of her and want others to validate that
Because I enjoy knowing that other men find my wife attractive
Because she has interest in improving her body and appearance as she dresses for other men, feeling sexy and desired
Because I want to bring out the sexy and confident woman in hiding
Because it’s all about her pleasure
Because I enjoy viewing her as the free independent spirit that she truly is
Because I like not having to be in charge all the time, to give up control, to be in a sense dominated and still be loved and accepted by the one that we love the most. All without the guilt or judgment that would normally come with it.
Because it brings out her naughty side
Because I want her to experience as much variety and pleasure as possible
Because she has a much higher sex drive than I do and it fills her sexual needs
Because I want my wife to have the most fun and the most powerful orgasms she can have
Because I get off watching her kiss another man
Because I want to see a larger cock in her
Because watching the love of my life being passionately fucked by another man is the most beautiful and erotic thing I’ve ever seen in my life.
The way her whole being responds to his touch and thrusts, the look of complete surrender in her eyes is the most gorgeous thing I have ever witnessed.
She comes back a new woman; I must fuck her again to call her mine and reclaim her
Because it makes the sex better between the two of us
I am not sure why
As you can see, there are a myriad of reasons why someone would want their wife to sleep with another man.
All of the above!
There is nothing here either of us would disagree with. Some of these hit home more powerfully than the others. Just a few additional thoughts:
The motivation, and the experience have really morphed for us over the years. It started with Hubby having an intense, horny desire to share me. I thought it was probably a bad idea, but never put my foot down and firmly said no. He launched a several-year persuasion campaign with lots of role play and a really earnest effort to address every concern I had, and kept at it until he overcame my resistance.
After I finally did the deed after maybe three years of inducement and cajoling, he began putting a great deal of time, energy, creativity and passion into creating additional opportunities for me. These were very sporadic because we live in a small town, and had kids at home. Several times I went more than a year between sexual encounters with other men. I think the limited opportunities (and even less frequent actual fucking) kept his fire burning really hot.
It took a LONG time, like fifteen years, for me to finally settle into a sexy confidence, stop thinking of extramarital sex as anomalous, and really embrace that this is who we are, and it’s what we like to do.
Along the way, we discovered a lot of things that we did not know awaited us we began this journey.
#1 Sharing a deep, dark secret that we have to keep from family and close friends is a bonding experience like no other. I get asked about the theoretical loss of intimacy with my husband, and I have to say, “No, it’s exactly the opposite.” We are SO close to each other because the details of our lifestyle shut everyone else out.
#2 I feel so incredibly appreciated. My husband makes me feel like a Goddess. He calls me that a lot. He loves to kneel before me, and kiss my feet and anklet. He is very worshipful and enjoys literally begging me to have sex with other men. Beyond that, he goes out of his way to do more than his share of chores. He surprises me with random gifts.
#3 He really likes feeling cuckolded - he likes for people to know his wife has sex with other men. We’ve developed a set of party friends who live in different places that we see a few times a year. It would be wrong to say they’re not close friends. They’ve become that, over the years. But they’re a different set of friends from the ones who are involved in our day-to-day lives that we keep everything a secret from. And that’s the perfect balance. It doesn’t impact our business, or our standing in our community, but he gets the thrill of people we know getting to watch me make out with other guys, suck dicks in hot tubs, and things like that.
There are other things we’ve learned, but this is getting pretty wordy, so I’ll leave it here for now. If you enjoyed reading my thoughts, please use the “Want me 2 confess my sins?” button to tell me what you want to hear about next.
