I noticed that when you spot and greet someone, who is engaged in an activity on an individual basis, that person most often has the urge to inform you that he/she is expecting someone. As if being alone is some sort of horrific act that requires an explanation. Why are they most concerned about this when you approach them? Must you always have company and must you always have a plan? No you mustn’t. What you must have however, is one thing: self esteem. You have to know, it’s not a crime. It’s a blessing, on the contrary, if you make use of the situation.
I admire the person who knows how to enjoy his/her alone time. That will go places and do things without depending on a group of people. The person who is able to do that is, in fact, the happier person. If you can go out of the house and live with your own company until other people join, if they do, that is a definition of what being content is. People come and go. You have to learn how to be comfortable with your own self and build a relationship with yourself first.
People work so hard on making relationships with others, neglecting themselves in the process. Then, the moment they’re doing something on their own they feel alone when actually they’re having the greatest company of all, their own selves. It is, above all else, a chance to reflect upon everything.
Whatever you do (or not do) with this time, however short or long it is, is useful for with each passing minute you are getting closer to the inner you. That is if you regard this alone time as something positive, of course. In addition, this ‘self’ time is essential for a person to grow, be it spiritually, emotionally and/or mentally.
"If you want to expand your mind then, every day, spend as much time as possible with your heart.“ Sri Chimmoy
If you ever feel lonely remember this only means one thing: you are not cherishing the time you have with yourself.
I’m not saying one shouldn’t be around people. That, in turn, has its many advantages. I’m saying be around people but learn how to be with yourself, first and foremost. So, that way you’ll be more comfortable around them and they too will enjoy your company more, since you’ll be yourself and not a mixture of other people. You won’t need to 'work’ on relationships anymore, they’ll just happen. Moreover, learn that being alone is not a bad thing. Know yourself. You’ll be happy, content and satisfied in both cases: whether you’re alone or with others.
You’re never alone if you have the company of yourself. You are, however, if you neglect that company.
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